To not have gone out for 3 days?

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My brother is staying with me and as my kids were running around he said " gosh, these kids have been stuck at home for 3 days, literally " 🤣 we haven't left the house since Tuesday, just eating drinking and watching films/playing with their toys. To be fair it has been raining here and I just can't be bothered to go out in the cold and rain. The dad is coming to collect them today they're staying with him for a few days

AIBU? Or does my brother have a point that it's weird not going out?

No not weird if they were happy and not going stir crazy. Sometimes it’s just good to doss about doing not a lot.

Each to their own. I personally would go stir crazy so would have to get out for some fresh air at some point during those days.

I normally go stir crazy if I don't go out but over Christmas I seem to revel in the cosiness of home I haven't been out since Christmas eve and either have my children, I don't even want to walk to the freezer in the garage, the only thing I have done is sort out the animals twice a day.
husband did go out yesterday but it was a mercy dash as I had run out of wine. 🤣
I am going out later today and am currently not wearing pjs 👍 also a first since Christmas Day.

It’s lazy and disgraceful. Poor things

YANBU. We have barely left the house either. We went on a walk yesterday (which both DC bitterly complained about because they were busy with their toys) and popped into Sainsburys today.

Honestly it's so hectic in the run up to Christmas and during term time at school it's been lovely for them to just be at home and enjoy their new things. Both have been doing lego, puzzles and craft kits they got for Christmas and we've all been relaxed. It's heaven!

I feel way more sorry for the kids who are constantly dragged to and fro and never get the chance to relax and learn to entertain themselves. You're hardly going to take them to run around the park in the rain anyway!

My friend was complaining her DC got gifted too many lego sets and science kits etc as she said they're never at home so have no chance to play that stuff. She also admitted they complain about all the clubs they do and the youngest had to be dragged on holiday (they go away literally every holiday and half term).

If it had been lovely any of those days yabu, but round here it's either been foggy, drizzling, or actively raining since Christmas Day (which was gorgeous!)

posterhellcarryingahandbag why is it lazy and disgraceful?

Lots of parents over schedule their kids these days (usually because they think all the activities are good for them or feel guilty about not entertaining them at every second) but all expert in child development tell us that it's good for kids to have way more unscheduled time at home to entertain themselves and relax.

No I only took mine out briefly today and was glad to get back

I do think it’s odd that they didn’t even go out to play in the garden or something? Mine had cousins over and spent a few hours each day outside on rollerblades, skateboards, scooters etc. but then again there was about 10 of them to entertain each other. They all were aged 4 to 10 and they can play safely all around the house as we live rurally.

@silver1977 because if you have children, you can’t just keep them in their pyjamas in a house, you have to take them out!

@Lipperfromchipper In the rain?

I'm an indoors person, but I would have at least had a walk to the shop or just round the estate for half an hour or so. I think they do need fresh air, but it doesn't have to be a massive expedition.

Meh a few days is fine, you'd know if they needed a change of scenery!

My DC would go bonkers, we struggle without a daily trip of, even if it's just to the local shops on trikes

Sounds like bliss. Some people seem to think that kids need taking out every day. Kids need some chill out days too.

@NomNomNomNom yes of course, they wear overalls, hats and wellies, we live in Ireland, if we waited for dry days we would get outside about twice a year!!

No one likes traipsing about in the rain. It's a MN myth.

I think it's fine not to go out every day, but four days in a row is a bit much. I would think they need some time just to run and yell and be outdoors rather than on top of each other inside all the time.

My kids never went out for days at a time at Xmas in fact prob not the whole school holidays what’s the problem my kids weee home bodies and what you call computer nerds

I love a rainy walk with the dogs!

OP - if your children are happy then I don't see the issue. As a child I always needed to get exercise and fresh air every day and I still do now but not everyone is the same.

The only reason we’ve left the house is to visit. Term time with clubs and activities the week is pretty much run on military precision between finishing work, collecting from after school care, home to change and for snacks, off to dance/hockey/scouts/whatever, home, dinner...
We all need a break from schedules and having to be dressed and ready to be somewhere else, it’s stressful!

You're fine!

Today's the first day I've been anywhere since Christmas Day. In fairness, I've had norovirus and have been practically bedridden for most of that time

Did join DP on a dog walk this evening but was a slow and sick participant!

It's Christmas. If the kids are happy and so are you, who cares?!

We'd go stir crazy doing that, so have to go out or invite friends round every day. I'm slightly envious of parents who are relaxed enough to just chill around the house like that.
As long as the children are content and not in constant trouble for being silly then I think you're fine.

*It’s lazy and disgraceful. Poor things
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because if you have children, you can’t just keep them in their pyjamas in a house, you have to take them out!

@hellcarryingahandbag do you have any actual justification for this? How will it harm them, assuming it's a one off because it's Christmas and cold/rainy?