To not have gone out for 3 days?

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My brother is staying with me and as my kids were running around he said " gosh, these kids have been stuck at home for 3 days, literally " 🤣 we haven't left the house since Tuesday, just eating drinking and watching films/playing with their toys. To be fair it has been raining here and I just can't be bothered to go out in the cold and rain. The dad is coming to collect them today they're staying with him for a few days

AIBU? Or does my brother have a point that it's weird not going out?

I guess it depends how old they are? Under 10 and my one needed two long walks a day otherwise he was unmanageable.

Outdoorsy family my arse. You just like to portray the perfect MN family fantasy,

Outside in December when it's cold wet and pointless or inside with tv Internet and chocolate. No brainer

not smug at all. I was reacting to the “it’s dangerous out there comments”

Actually smug with no sense of humour.

The "dangerous comments" were clearly not intended to be serious. They made me laugh.

TheSandman
I'd never leave my house if I didn't have to. It's dangerous out there. Plonked down at random on the earth's surface you have a one in three chance of ending up in the sea and drowning

Those are dreadful odds

Today 22:45TheSandman
Sorry Wrong! TWO in three! Even worse!

YANBU. Me and DH haven't been out since 23rd December. Got in bread, milk, and fresh salad and veg, and have enough frozen, and non-perishable food to feed an army.

We went on a big family Christmas lunch (on 21st December,) with 18 extended family members, then had our DC and their partners around on Christmas Eve for 3 or 4 hours, then they went to their partners family on Christmas day.

Since Christmas Eve afternoon, me and DH have just been chilling and relaxing and watching TV, eating crappy food, and drinking wine and whiskey and playing video games and board games and having lots of fun with each other. (Been doing this for 5 days.)

We were going to go out today, but realised there's nothing we need.

Going to a big party on New year's Eve at a pub 20 minutes walk away, that loads of people we know are going to (incl our 2 DC and their partners,) and they will be staying at our house til New years day.

We really have no need to go out, and it feels really good to not have to go anywhere. No work til 6th Jan for any of us.

We will probably pop out tomorrow afternoon for some fresh bread and some milk. Be out an hour tops... Then won't go out til NY Eve, (for the party.)

@user32564567 do you know me!!?i don’t think so!! I’m not portraying anything false here. What on earth would be the point in that?! As I said we live coastal, that’s the way a lot of ppl live here. You’ll find the beach full of surfers even on foggy days here, if the surf is good they are out. Dh goes whenever he can! Wetsuits constantly hang over our bath. Maybe you should loosen up and try it sometime

@GorkyMcPorky

We're really enjoying our annual hibernation. The rest of the year is so busy that I treasure this period of relaxation. We went out for a brief walk and then to the pub yesterday; they had an hour outside on bikes / skates earlier but apart from that I have zero guilt about PJs, too much TV and lots of chocolate at this time of year. It's a holiday at home. The 'lazy and disgraceful' poster needs to unclench.

This exactly! Lovely to just slob out and chill and relax and do FUCK-ALL. For at LEAST a week!

I think the haters are just bitter and jealous, coz they can't get to do it. They have probably been slaving and stressing and virtually killing themselves trying to appease and accommodate in-laws, (and have probably had to go back to work as soon as the in-laws fucked off home!)

Yeah , yeah, lipper. We all live in your world of surfing and windy walks on the beach.

Meanwhile in the real world...

Give over @Lipperfromchipper

Plenty of people 'get out' and go for walks, and runs, and they exercise and play sports and so on, for 50-51 weeks of the year.

So they choose to eat crap, and slob out for a week over Christmas! Big deal. Stop being such a judgemental, sanctimonious twonk!

Lipperfromchipper.
All of your posts come across as smug. I don't know you but talking about kids playing outside all the time, in woods, on the beach, living rurally etc and just something I pick up from your tone and style of writing is a bit smug

@user32564567

Dunno about you, but I am LOLing, at the thought of newborns surfing and skateboarding, and trundling along on their scooters!!!

Is everyone happy and healthy? Yes? Then tell him to piss off. We haven't been out, bar a very quick trip to the pharmacy, since Christmas Eve and it's been great

Looking back at lipper's other threads and they are all very smug.

I think the haters are just bitter and jealous, coz they can't get to do it. They have probably been slaving and stressing and virtually killing themselves trying to appease and accommodate in-laws, (and have probably had to go back to work as soon as the in-laws fucked off home!) grin

This place is too funny. I’ve been off work since last Friday. I go back on Tuesday. I entertained Zero relatives, friends, in-laws (dont even have any in-laws! ) I’ve had all week just me and the DC to slob in pjs if we wanted. And we did do that a couple of days. There’s no jealousy or “haters” here.

@shellysheridan YOU think I’m being smug. I’m not, there’s nothing I can do to try to change your perception of my posts other than say that’s not how I mean to be.

@user32564567 That’s how we live there’s no two ways about it....in the real world for me yes. Just because it’s not how you live doesn’t mean that it’s not possible.

Sounds lush

“Kids need some chill out days too”

I don’t understand how a trip to the park or a bike ride or a walk doesn’t count as ‘chill out time’.

We did the same. Had my parents here and we stayed in for 3 days-unheard of for us but dd6 & ds3 loved playing with toys and having 4 adults to play with endlessly. It was lazy, lovely and relaxing! Best Christmas present we could have given them- quality time.

Yeah that’s a bit weird in my opinion. Three days? I bet the kids were so bored of watching T.V and movies. You could have taken them swimming, to the movies, so many things to do.

We've been out once a day for a walk. Apart from that we are stuck in the house too as theres nothing to do. Take them out for some fresh air just for an hour to the park/woods/around the block.

Nothing wrong with it if everyone is happy. I love chilled Out days at home as do our DC. My DH has to go out every day to do something plus go to the gym; drives me mad sometimes but I understand that makes him feel happy and energetic.

If it's an exception then fine but kids just lazing around the house for days on end will get fat and not get enough exercise. Rain is just rain. It's harmless and kids love splashing around.

I'm in the -'kids should be taken out daily' camp. I was dragged out in all weathers as a child up and down mountains in North Wales near to where I grew up - I complained at the time but I genuinely think it did me good, helped my confidence, mental health and sleep patterns.

My own kids are grown up now but I always made a point of taking them out every day regardless of the weather when they were growing up. I understood it as my job as a parent to give them fresh air, daylight and exercise daily and to get them out of the house to 'let off steam' a bit. They always slept better too.

If it was raining and they complained I would say 'you're not soluble you won't dissolve' - I heard my son say exactly this to his gf the other day when she was complaining about walking to his car in the rain.

Personally I'm a bit like a caged lion if I'm cooped up all day. Lipper you don't sound smug to me - your beach/ surfing/ swimming days sound bliss.

I wouldn’t keep my 5 year old inside for days, I feel like he needs fresh air. We’ve had the laziest week since he joined us though. We’ve been doing one trip out in the mornings then doing Lego or other playing all afternoon, it’s been lovely.

I think the haters are just bitter and jealous, coz they can't get to do it

Um....no. I have had the chance to stay in for days on end and I dont want to- I get bored, feel cooped up and I like getting out in the fresh air. Doesnt make me a "hater" FGS.