Is it acceptable that mothers favour their daughters and not their sons?

[SMarie123]

Aibu to be annoyed by how often mothers favour their grown daughters and vs their sons? Or is it just that I am the mother of sons.....

I thought mums favoured sons. But I really think they just want to stay wherever is easiest!

My Mum favoured my younger brother all my life up until about 15 years ago.
I certainly noticed it growing up and was resentful.
Now they hardly speak.

I know plenty who favour their sons over their daughters, go figure.

I've got 2 daughters and one son and I'm really looking forward to my girls having children. I definitely hope to be very involved in a way that I probably couldn't be with a daughter in law.

It is attitudes like this that mean mothers of sons are seen as second class grandmothers and less important, or interfering if they try to be involved.

I am from a family of all girls and dh is from a family of all girls so I don't know - my pil were as welcome as my own parents and mil is very close to me and to her other daughters in law. I'm sad at the poster who felt she could look forward to her dd having children in a way she wouldn't with her sons. My mil saved me when I had my first child. Dropped everything to come and help. Was supportive, loving, really great. 25 years later still is.

But my own mother did say once "it is lovely staying with a daughter because you feel completely at home" and I wonder is your mil coming from a similar place. whether it is right or wrong, there was no doubt my mum created the home and was in charge of the house so she felt the same about me - so she didn't feel a guest in my home but might have felt a guest in the home of a woman not her daughter.

I wouldn't get upset about it tbh.

My mil favours her 2 dds over dh this is reflected when it comes to grandchildren ours simply dont get a look in, all attention is on dds and their dds. I also have the only boy grandchild and they make even less effort with him, so I can completely understand where you're coming from op.

I have two sons am building a close relationship with then through late night chats, shopping now and again and all the usual stuff. We cook alot together, both love art and talk about our feelings like pals.

My 10 year old and I are very close.
I don't really like it when people imply that you can't get a close emotional bond between mother and son.

Well I'm one of two, my sibling is male. I can tell you now that my mother has favoured him over me our entire lives, to the point where she allowed violence towards me over a period of years and did nothing to protect me.
This favouritism continued into adulthood.

Wow, are you me? I’m not nc, in fact, my brother would like to be! He did the next best thing and emigrated.

I was my dad’s favourite, really obviously. Mother dear refuses even now to accept that my brother behaved very poorly to me during childhood. It took joining Mumsnet to be able to label him the golden child.