Me and DP have only been together a few months and I already feel like I'm going crazy with his mum. I've got two kids from a previous who stay with their dad due to my health issues and MIL appeared to be accepting of this at first.
Now all I get is barbed comments about how DP has to support me, (I'm on an apprenticeship and have another 6 months to go), about how shes surprised I'm allowed to do payments at work because in her eyes all apprentices are fuck ups (even though her own husband was an apprentice!), she bullied DP into buying a house in a town that has no public transport links so that he is close to her, and when hes said he wants to renovate the house and rent somewhere temporarily with me while does the work she gets his sister to buy him a puppy for Christmas, despite knowing my DD is deathly allergic to dogs, and then tells him he is going to have to spend every night at hers so he can bond with the dog and that if I want any future with him I'll have to sell my cat.
Then the cherry on top of the cake came yesterday. I get xmas is fraught with tension but DS was rushed into hospital with pneumonia and put on a ventilator. She then kicked off as did his dad, because I wanted to spend Christmas Night at my house because its half the distance to the hospital than theirs. She goes to me oh it's always something with you isn't it? I don't see why you'd want to stay near DS when DP needs to be here to bond with his puppy. The puppy that DP told her he didn't even want because he doesn't see himself as being in the right place to get a pet until next year at the earliest, and he told her this before she got the dog.
And then I've been put on a pretty much vegan diet by my consultant for 3 months while they see whether theres issues with certain nutrient levels or if its MS I've got, and she spent all lunch time yesterday shoveling things like the creamiest mash onto my plate or ice cream on top of my dessert when I'd actually bought along my own vegan bits so she wouldn't have to go to any further expense.
I'm just sick of it all. I'm trying to better myself by doing this apprenticeship, I'm freaking out about the diagnosis that might be upcoming, and trying to sort somewhere for me and DP to rent by the end of the month, and all she does is order him to go round to the house.
DP has told her before when shes sat there on the phone slagging me off to high heaven that I can hear every word shes saying, and she just goes oh well I don't care if she hears! DP has told me to stop treating her like the enemy when I had a breakdown over how she told me DV doesn't exist even though I've spent a year of my life in a refuge in the past so I know damn well it does exist.
AIBU for not wanting to spend any time with her anymore?