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To hate when Parents do this

110 replies

QueenViki · 26/12/2019 11:35

I have a Mum friend on Facebook - her young daughter has contracted chicken pox at Christmas. Mum is sharing pictures of the poor little girl looking pale and miserable with spots in her torso accompanied by lots of ridiculous hashtags #Christmaspox etc. Aibu to think parents should not have the right to do this? The poor little thing is miserable enough without her photo being shared to all and sundry. Surely even little people are entitled to some privacy and dignity when they’re feeling very poorly .

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Yeahnah2020 · 26/12/2019 17:56

Selfies , Hashtags and posting on Facebook is all pretty narcissistic in my opinion . Look at me and my (usually boring) life! 🤮

nevermorelenore · 26/12/2019 18:27

A friend of mine from school does this all the time. I haven't seen her in 25 years, yet everytime one of her kids is sick I get to see them on the sofa cuddled in a blanket with lots of 'u ok hunni xxx' type comments.

The worst think I saw on FB was when my kid was potty training her kid and took photos of the toddler on the potty and then took a picture inside the bowl! #firstpottypoo apparently. I almost broke my finger in the rush to defriend her.

PlanDeRaccordement · 26/12/2019 18:30

Yes. It’s awful. I agree OP.

firstimemamma · 26/12/2019 18:36

Yanbu op.

I don't have face book and people who do have it respect my wishes and don't post photos of him. As a result there isn't a single photo of him online.

If he wishes to have some kind of online presence when he's older, then we'll have a talk about safety etc and then I'll back off and respect his wishes.

pooboobsleeprepeat · 26/12/2019 18:40

You wouldn’t post pictures of your partner sick so why do people go it to their kids?
‘Here he is on the loo again #xmasdiarreah’

Gillibean · 26/12/2019 18:50

I used to know someone who not only posted the photos of when DC was sick in hospital but reshares then annually thanks to Facebook memories...

DrManhattan · 26/12/2019 18:56

Gross

strawberry2017 · 26/12/2019 18:58

I swapped outfits for bigger sizes and kept mine in onesies for as long as I could.
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bobbiester · 26/12/2019 19:21

"I do find this a very odd thing for parents to do. I have a friend on Facebook that shares pictures of her daughter after every epileptic fit, along with all the hashtags."

Sometimes parents of children with epilepsy share videos with other parents in similar positions to get opinions on symptoms if it's a type of seizure they're not familiar with.

Doctors often ask parents to try to record videos to help with diagnosis - which might be why they're recording them in the first place.

Straycatstrut · 26/12/2019 19:45

No it's ridiculous. Just look after her! don't photograph it for people to see.

I don't post pictures of my kids online full stop. I find the whole thing just weird and wrong, They go in memory boxes and albums here.

strawberry2017 · 26/12/2019 19:53

Sorry cross posts for my last comment lol x

BatShite · 27/12/2019 13:22

..right on cue, DHs cousin posts a pic of their severely ill 15 year old in the back of an ambulance, captioned 'another day in a&e, been bored in there all week and I am so tired' Confused

Poor child is 15, had another seziure (never had before until a couple of weeks back) and is covered in sick too...

Bozlem80 · 27/12/2019 17:38

An old school friend of mine has 5 children & she goes to the hospital at least once a week with one of them, she is always checking in & when someone asks her reply is ‘inbox you’ unfortunately the children aren’t looked after properly they don’t seem to bathe regularly & they wear dirty clothes, I’m actually surprised a member of staff hasn’t intervened & called social service!

bigmumsymcgraw · 27/12/2019 17:49

Completely agree Dont make a habit of putting images of my children anywhere online. People have uploaded videos of their kids in the bath and when theyre asleep in bed Out of order!

VenusTiger · 27/12/2019 17:50

Most hashtags are for support groups, campaigns, fundraising and raising awareness.

FelicisNox · 27/12/2019 17:51

YANBU.

My daughter is also poorly (with Laryngitis) and her face has swollen up like a watermelon! There are 2 pics of her with a Christmas cracker hat on pulling a silly face and she approved those before they were added to the online album.

YABVU though to call children "little people", it literally makes my skin crawl... they are children or kids. End of.

VenusTiger · 27/12/2019 17:53

I have about 20 'friends' on Facebook - they are close friends and family who live all over the world and country - my settings are set to 'friends without acquaintences' so it really does depend on the type of privacy - not all FB posts are "online"

xoxrebelxox · 27/12/2019 17:57

YABU reason being it’s your friends child and she can take pictures and upload to social media if she wishes, regardless of if the child is ill or not.

Bowerbird5 · 27/12/2019 18:10

I don't do Facebook but I know a granny that put a picture of baby grand daughter about 7mths when she had a virus and was on oxygen and struggling to breathe. You could literally watch her little chest rise and fall I thought it was appalling.

I know someone photographed my accident while I was still in the car and the Paramedic asked if I knew her. I didn't so she shouted at her and told her not to post it. I could have been dead. Another girl was she said and it was posted on social media before the Police got to tell her parents. Disgusting!

TabbyMumz · 27/12/2019 18:15

I know of someone whose husband had a bleed on the brain and is subsequently very ill. She's put up no end of videos of him with the guise of making money to support him, when he can get free treatment on the NHS. I feel it's not fair on him, he wasnt mentally capable of agreeing to any of these videos going up on the internet. What has happened to him is personal to him.

Topsy44 · 27/12/2019 18:26

I think its odd for people to post pics of their unwell children online. I gave up Facebook last year as I just felt it was people shouting 'look at me' all the time. Not a nice trait.

Raffles1981 · 27/12/2019 18:29

I have a friend like this. Every epilepsy episode her daughter has, every trip to hospital is on FB. I just don't understand it at all. How can you even think about picking up your phone at a time like that, let alone posting your hospital trip on FB.

FaveNumberIs2 · 27/12/2019 18:30

Annoys the crap out of me too.

Molly2016 · 27/12/2019 18:31

YANBU. Attention seeking and desperate.
I’ve a friend who recently changed her profile picture to her baby covered in fake blood for Halloween.
Poor child.

ColdTattyWaitingForSummer · 27/12/2019 18:34

YANBU. I’m normally the first person to defend people being able to post what they wish on their own social media (massive pile of Christmas presents? Crack on!) but the ones of children who are sick or injured? Just no. The parent should be comforting them, not sticking a camera in their face. And those potty training mishaps? That toddler will be a teenager one day, and they really won’t thank you.