To hate when Parents do this

[QueenViki]

I have a Mum friend on Facebook - her young daughter has contracted chicken pox at Christmas. Mum is sharing pictures of the poor little girl looking pale and miserable with spots in her torso accompanied by lots of ridiculous hashtags #Christmaspox etc. Aibu to think parents should not have the right to do this? The poor little thing is miserable enough without her photo being shared to all and sundry. Surely even little people are entitled to some privacy and dignity when they’re feeling very poorly .

As for the children and baby photos and comments, I have tried explaining to some idiots that paedophiles will be swarming social media to see pictures of little girls in fairy costumes et al

It's not so much about that for me. It's the violation of privacy and the fact some parents care nothing about it, yet would throw a screaming fit if anyone put pics of them on the internet without their permission.

My youngest had chicken pox as a baby. It didn’t bother her too badly and I took a photo of her and posted saying still smiling even when covered in spots. She didn’t look poorly just spotty!

I just think people can post what they want. Even if it does irate others.

I have one Facebook friend who posts constantly. On a couple occasions her daughter has been taken to hospital in an ambulance and she’s updating her bloody status whilst in the hospital. I just think she craves the attention or something. The last thing on my mind in an ambulance would be updating my status.

Oh yes I've seen this, it's one of the many reasons I don't look at fb anymore. I've seen some parents post up copies of their kids school reports and acceptance offers for schools. Just attention seeking and showing off via their children who have no say in it, it says a lot about the person posting tbh and a red flag as far as I'm concerned!

YANBU. I have never posted any pictures of my children online when they were less than 13 (when they can have their own social media accounts) or when they were over 13 without their express consent - one of my children is dead set against any of their photos being on social media and so there have never been any of them online

At least it's Christmas and CP is hopefully a once in a lifetime occurrence.

The thing I really can't stand is when people post about their child having d and v. Yeah thanks for that, their whole class are now on sick watch for the weekend. Keep it to yourself we don't want to know!

But yanbu at all, really bizarre behaviour.

Yanbu..I hate this. Had one parent once posting a photo of their child midvomit. Obviously accompanied with 'what a horrible day for me' and such nonsense

Not dissimilar to those who constantly check in at hospitals just so they tet a barrage of 'whats up hun x' type replies, that they can reply 'will PM you'. Attetionseeking crap really. And part of the reason my current friends list is abour 40 people!

what i find sad is the mum making it all about her like look at me look at me attention seeking.Rather than chuck turning social media off and cuddling with her poorly daughter

my brain is frazzled were did chuck come from lol

It's as bad as people taking photos of relatives in their hospital beds and then putting it on social media. It absolutely boils my blood.

@DJA1511 Why would you post that though? For attention?

@Beldon I have a Facebook mum friend who shares Her daughters actual fit videos. Supposedly to “raise awareness”

It’s hideous, I’ve unfollowed.

I don’t think it’s nice to post pictures of your children when they ill and vulnerable unless they ask you to (such as @Booboostwo DD) or if they’re suffering from something and you’re trying to raise awareness. Even then I wouldn’t post constantly but I can see why people would want to. I have no issues with pictures of children on SM generally, it’s up to the parents, but not when they’re unwell or a photo that would otherwise be humiliating for them when they’re older.

Oddly enough, I haven't seen any selfies from parents with red snotty noses, spots or anything else that makes them look like death warmed up...

The worst one I have seen is a mother posting a picture of her child in a hospital bed after a suicide attempt.

Last year my colleague took a photo of her young son (5 or 6) in car seat covered in vomit and crying.

So rather than the first thought being "let's comfort DS, clean him up", it was to tale a photo and share to facebook.

YANNU and she is U for 2 things - 1) for posting it in the first place to garner attention and 2) for using hashtags on facebook

I’m quite relaxed about people posting pictures of their kids on social media but this is fucking ghoulish and attention seeking. Not to mention naff as fuck.
What do you honestly hope to gain from this apart from pity?

And this is why I ditched Facebook 6 months ago.

Some people are very odd. I was in hospital back in 1993, sharing a room with another teenage girl and her mother was clicking away (with a 'film' camera then) at her in bed. Imagine taking that in to be developed... Bizarre.

You don't have to stay Facebook friends with people who treat their kids like this. I don't understand why you would. Its ok to have standards.

I do find this a very odd thing for parents to do. I have a friend on Facebook that shares pictures of her daughter after every epileptic fit, along with all the hashtags.

She probably does it to try and raise awareness , in reality it probably does the opposite

Years ago I had a fledgling relationship and he showed me some of his photographic work which was brilliant. Among it though was a load of black and white images he had taken at his grandmothers funeral. I leafed through them feeling desperately uncomfortable. His own mothers tear stained face and the dark clouds over Lancashire. Everyone dressed in black and looking woeful and I imagined him going among them clicking away like a journalist trying to get the 'money shot'. I questioned him about it and it just bounced off him like he saw nothing wrong with what he had done. In one shot you could see his brother looking at him as if to say, 'ffs what is wrong with you?' I knocked the relationship on the head after that.

I know this is an extreme version of the above but there is something missing in some people that just don't get that there are some an awful lot of situations where photography is the last thing that should be taking place.

It's weird. I don't understand what they do it for

My son had viral eczema and the spots were horrendous. I sent a pic to my brother who is a dr for a second opinion and to my mum when she asked how ds was. I wouldn't have thought to post on Facebook etc as I was too busy looking after my ill baby. Lots of people over share on social media without meaning to, it is just something they use everyday.

Yes I agree Goodboy, I don’t understand how you can be so detached from your own child’s suffering to take photos and think of half a dozen hashtags!