To hate when Parents do this

[QueenViki]

I have a Mum friend on Facebook - her young daughter has contracted chicken pox at Christmas. Mum is sharing pictures of the poor little girl looking pale and miserable with spots in her torso accompanied by lots of ridiculous hashtags #Christmaspox etc. Aibu to think parents should not have the right to do this? The poor little thing is miserable enough without her photo being shared to all and sundry. Surely even little people are entitled to some privacy and dignity when they’re feeling very poorly .

[Frenchw1fe]

My dsil sends those poor child gets a £1 for every share photos . I've told her they're a hoax and she shouldn't be sharing any pics of children without parental permission anyway.

[MITCHELL33]

Sounds like my sister-in-law though all she would post to start with would be something like "Christmas ruined at the Clampetts" then wait for the whats up hun etc!


*Clampett not real name

[CaramelMama]

I have to disagree, my DS7 had chicken pox before Christmas and insisted on taking millions of selfies and wanted to share them with his cousin via my account to show how many spots he had and compare with his cousins similar illness. Even though he looked at deaths door the phone was the only thing keeping his mind off the itching and he fills my phone with spotty selfies. Despite his face been so covered he looked like he couldn't open his eyes. He took the photos and would have been distraught if I hadnt uploaded them for his cousin to see. If the kids ok about it then I dont see an issue. But then I only have 23 people on my facebook and they are all immediate family. I wouldnt go sharing them with just anyone.

[backburner]

To be really honest , I have seen my friends put pics on facebook when little-ones have been sick....but from day 1 me and Dad said no way ever....even if we split we both felt the same ...we have private pics that can be changed but to be honest we have never felt the need to put our kids on FB .....and don't ever think we will until they are adults....we have the pics but have both agreed they are private .

[Dawninglory]

My DD has chicken pox for xmas too, I posted a GIF of Homer scratching himself with Bart and Lisa! Would not put her pic up covered in spots.

[CameraTime]

@funpixie presumably if you're looking for support (completely understandable) you'd post something that suggested you could do with cheering up as you've been at the hospital after DC had a fit or something? Not a photo of the ill child and a vague status about being at A&E again in the hope that someone would ask what's wrong.

And you would limit it to your close friends and family. Or send round a joint conversation.

I think it's the photos that are out of order, and posting details of a medical condition or something to people you worked with 10 years ago or went to school with in 1982.

[nannykatherine]

Munchausens by proxy on another level ..

[LovelyBranches]

This is missing the point entirely but after the first day, both of my children seemed perfectly fine when they had chickenpox. My son was absolutely covered in spots and I was six months pregnant and I ended up taking him out for a walk where nobody else was around because we were both desperate to get out and bored in the house.

If her children are anything like mine, chickenpox at Christmas would probably be the best time of year.

[Lovely13]

My son years before social media didn’t want to be seen by anyone while he had chicken pox. Can’t imagine anything worse than your mother posting pics of you. Shocking.

[RubyD]

I deleted a friend who shared photos of her child and his clothes covered in vomit after he gagged on his food. He has the same disability as my child, yes it sucks, but I don't want either myself or my child to be on display like that. Not for social media.

[MintyMabel]

Why?

Because fucking about with parental rights over something as trivial as posting pictures on social media isn’t something our lawmakers should be doing.

[StillNumb]

I did do a couple of posts when I boke my leg. I fullly admit that I wanted sympathy and attention, which I got. I would never post about a third party though.

[WildChristmas]

I wouldn’t do this or my child.

However we are going into a new social media world. My older child is very comfortable with posting pics and being very open. Far more than me. I’ve locked down my social media, he has huge friend lists.

So I don’t think posting pictures of I’ll kids is good. I just wonder what our kids will be posting when they are parents? They’ve a different perspective.

[usernamepp]

I have a Facebook friend who uploads pictures of her child's vomit with captions such as 'just had to clear this up! Long night ahead!' Etc

[Funpixie]

💁🏼‍♀️ Hi voice of discontent here - as a single mum who can’t nip out to makes calls when in hospital - the post letting people know what’s happening keeps me company and feeling less alone - frequently no child in photo but geez - sometimes it’s a cry for support - perhaps call next time you see it?

[di2004]

Yes it’s attention seeking of the worst kind.
What is wrong with people?

[Liverpool52]

A friend if mine did this and the caption underneath was all about poor her and how hard being a mother is. So yep, entirely selfish and attention seeking.

[Cremebrule]

I find it really odd. My little one has been in hospital quite a bit and I can’t say it ever crossed my mind to check in or post a picture.

[randomchatter]

Social Media is a strange beast. Most wouldn't take pics of their sick child and flash it around to complete strangers in the local Tesco. Somehow doing so on SM to increase followers, gain some oohs, aaahs and likes, makes it ok.

I think there are a good few SM blogger mums who are going to have to answer to their adult kids in a few years and it's not going to be pretty.

[Loveislandaddict]

I hate these Facebook posts also.

Pre-internet days, my dc was in hospital, and my dm took a photo of him. I was really cross. Not the time or place.

[MrsDragonLady]

Ive never checked in to A&E or posted photos of my children when they are sick, but I HAVE posted pictures of my son after a massive allergic reaction (after he had been given antihistamines), mainly to make some of my thick family publicly aware that he has SERIOUS allergies and this is the result of their “just a tiny bit won’t hurt”!

They would never believe me telling them, and posting it for other people to comment on how bad it was, was the only way it got through to them. Countless trips to hospital because of their stupidity and I had had enough.

[NoKnickerElastic]

I had a FB friend post live updates including photos from the back of an ambulance after her DD fell down the stairs. I just couldn't comprehend that so unfollowed her soon afterwards.

[WorraLiberty]

Of course parents should have the right to do this. Stopping them would be wholly wrong.

Why?

[IncrediblySadToo]

If you don’t like it, don’t do it
Let other people do what they want to do
MYOB

(I don’t have Facebook, that’s an option for you)

[MintyMabel]

After Ds has his last operation he asked me to post a picture of him showing off his tube so people could see he was doing well

My ten year old asked me to do the same.