Husband's gift is too much

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There is no way to explain this without sounding ungrateful but I shall try.
For my milestone birthday hubby took me away to a posh hotel for a meal and night away. My parents looked after the kids all great. Assumed this was my gift and was more than happy with that.
While away he presented me with a new watch, a very nice fancy watch that cost too much and I certainly can't wear day to day.
I'm currently on mat leave and also have a toddler, I go out once a month at best with mum friends to the local pub. Nowhere you wear such a thing.
The amount he spent on it would go a long way to refurbing our bathroom or sorting out our garden, which I'd probably get more use out of.
Aibu?

YABU. Don’t be silly. Enjoy your gift.

Surely the point of a nice watch is that you can wear it anywhere?

Do you want to sell it to refurb your bathroom or garden?

I’ve got a “nice” watch. Had it 12 years and wear it every day. Enjoy yours and stop being so daft.

Erm...stealth brag fail? If you’re gonna go big, go big (yes, I’m aware this is huge for some, but...)

Its a Roley isn't it?👀 You lucky thing you!

I’ve had my good watch for 20 years and my good bathroom for 12. I’d like to change my bathroom.

@KJM2013 sorry, I sounded churlish. Happy Birthday. Happy Christmas. Enjoy 💐

I wear my diamond faced watch everyday and wear it to work. No reason why you can’t get the wear out of it!

YABU. It is better than nothing which is what I usually get. A posh hotel and expensive gift. One day you may realise how lucky you are.

Sorry, that sounds harsh. Your DP sounds lovely and well meaning, if somewhat impractical, I'd take that.

If it's money that you can't afford to spend I can understand. If it's money that you would rather spend elsewhere I understand too.

My DH can do similar, he's great at buying gifts but I'm happy with a regular jumper, I don't see the added value in one costing over £100.

Luckily DH knows me well and isn't offended when I am massively grateful for the present but also sometimes bring it back or exchange it for a couple of pairs of jeans or something I do see the value in.

Could you return the watch with his blessing? Or swap it for something else?

I was given a nice watch one Christmas. A very sparkly one with a bracelet that was much too big and shiny. I felt very awkward but I hated it.

I never wear sparkly or shiny things and already had watches that I was very happy with.

I knew I would never wear it and hated the thought of the wasted money that we needed to repair the house. I gave it back.

If you like those kind of things and could wear it without fear of being mugged, on special occasions and actually love it, then keep it, but if you are like me and really would never use it, could you return it?

Nope. I don't see the point myself. Unless you're the kind of person who enjoys wearing an expensive watch then it's an expensive waste of money. I'd rather get the bathroom refurbed.

It depends on the watch.

I was given an expensive classic and I wear it everyday.

Is it a Blingy type you can't wear very often?

Well if OP doesn't enjoy posh jewellery (as I don't) it would be a rubbish gift and kind of annoying if it uses up money that could have gone on better things. I can't see any motive for DH to give it to you apart from as a very kind gesture though so I'd try and enjoy it - get it insured maybe and wear it everyday?

Yanbu if my sh ever bought us an expensive watch I would go batshit - because I wouldn’t wear it and do not like wearing watches expensive or not.
I don’t. Think your being ungrateful. And understand about spending the money on something else you would get more use from. But I don’t think there is any way of dealing with this without being h greatful / hurting your dh feelings

Depends on the style. If not you then swap it

If my DH bought me a watch I would not be happy because I do not wear watches and surely he would have noticed by now! It wouldn't matter if it was a Rolex....I would not wear it. So I guess it depends on the context.

Enjoy it and wear it!

I get it OP but please tread gently with DH, who has tried to do a lovely thing for you. Maybe make it clear how grateful you are that he bought you such a lovely gift but on reflection, you have realised that you really won’t get any wear out of it, so would he be ok if you returned it with his blessing?

Stealth boast

I'm with you. I'd be annoyed that so much family money was spent with no discussion, when it could have been put to so much better use.

It was a lovely gift even if you only ever wear it 'for best'. Of course I understand how you feel about the cost but it was a one off and meant to please you so - please be pleased! Wear it over Christmas in the evening when you're not slaving over a hot stove :-).

I would feel the same. I would much rather have something practical that a watch that cost a fortune on my wrist. I have never understood why anyone would want a really expensive watch