AIBU to be pissed off with friend?

[Lavender55555]

I’m unsure whether I’m being trivial, so I’d just like some perspective please?

I won’t name names but we’ll call said person Jane. Myself and Jane went to a well known supermarket to do our shopping a few nights ago and shared the same trolley for convenience. After shopping we went to the self service check out to pay for our items. I paid for mine and I believed she was paying for hers on the till next to mine. It wasn’t until we left that she admitted she hadn’t paid for her shopping, rather just walked out. She said it’s something she does regularly. I was upset by her blatant admission and clear recklessness. Not only because I had my tiny baby with me whose only 8 weeks old, but because common sense says that if you’re caught stealing it can have further consequence. Jane works with vulnerable people and I’d hate for it to impact her life. She didn’t care and said she does it all the time. I tried to explain but she wasn’t interested.

What upset me most is that she used my shopping to cover hers before walking out. Which I knew nothing about. It’s the obvious deception, and the fact I had my tiny baby with me. I’d be mortified to be caught up in something I knew nothing about.

AIBU to be pissed off?

YANBU. How did the alarms not go off though?

Don't go shopping with her again

Yanbu and would be seriously reconsidering the friendship. Not just that she’s a thieving cow but that she used you to cover/hide it.

She used you. I'd end the friendship.

I wouldnt associate with her

Wow. If she's been caught they probably wouldn't believe you knew nothing about her scam. She used you as cover and that could have had implications for you as well as her if she'd been caught. I would be livid.

How did she do it? Did she unload items from the trolley straight into her bag?

I wouldn’t associate with her either. We all have to pay our way, that’s just life.

What makes you think that someone who behaves like that wouldn't steal from the vulnerable people they work with?

You are not being unreasonable to be pissed off. What an absolute cheek!

I bet she thinks it's ok because food shopping costs so much these days, she's obviously choosing to ignore the fact that the prices are increasing in part due to so many people fucking stealing

I wouldn't be her friend anymore. I would tell her you don't feel comfortable with her choices and that remaining her friend is accepting them as OK.

I’d be livid. If you had got caught with her, they would of assumed your part of her scam. Tell Jane to stop being a thief before she ruins her work life.

End your friendship. She stole and believes you to be the kind of person that doesn't mind. Set her straight.

Just tell her not to do it again with you there. But then, I don’t think stealing is as big a deal as mn makes it out to be.

Yeah she's got no morals!

I'd cut her off. What a bitch!

WTF @MonstranceClock 🤬

Yanbu, and I wouldn't go shopping with her again

Yep, that would be the end of that friendship as far as I was concerned. I don't consort with thieves.

She knew exactly what she was doing, and yes, she will know the consequences if she's caught - for her, and whatever poor hapless soul she is using for cover. She just doesn't care.

Does she have financial problems? If she does, it doesn't excuse it but it'd be better than some self entitled person on a good wage stealing food and getting away with it when some truly desperate people who have fallen on hard timea through no fault of their own get caught and punished for stealing a reduced sandwich.

I'm gobsmacked

She'd be binned straight away if it was a 'friend' of mine.

She definitely used you and knew exactly what she was doing!

I wonder why she told you though? If you hadn't noticed anything dodgy then why on earth she would tell you that I don't know? Unless she's not bothered who else knows?

Couldn’t be friends with a thief.