AIBU to be pissed off with friend?

[Lavender55555]

I’m unsure whether I’m being trivial, so I’d just like some perspective please?

I won’t name names but we’ll call said person Jane. Myself and Jane went to a well known supermarket to do our shopping a few nights ago and shared the same trolley for convenience. After shopping we went to the self service check out to pay for our items. I paid for mine and I believed she was paying for hers on the till next to mine. It wasn’t until we left that she admitted she hadn’t paid for her shopping, rather just walked out. She said it’s something she does regularly. I was upset by her blatant admission and clear recklessness. Not only because I had my tiny baby with me whose only 8 weeks old, but because common sense says that if you’re caught stealing it can have further consequence. Jane works with vulnerable people and I’d hate for it to impact her life. She didn’t care and said she does it all the time. I tried to explain but she wasn’t interested.

What upset me most is that she used my shopping to cover hers before walking out. Which I knew nothing about. It’s the obvious deception, and the fact I had my tiny baby with me. I’d be mortified to be caught up in something I knew nothing about.

AIBU to be pissed off?

What did she do? Just leave hers in the trolley?

She was an utter cunt to use you as her cover, that's unforgivable.

Block her and go NC.

You have very different morals, and you could’ve been caught as an accomplice. She isn’t worth keeping as a friend.

You telling her that could be a catalyst for change.

She not only stole but did so in a way that would have implicated you.

Unless she has a real change of attitude and genuinely changes, you'd be wise to end the friendship.

I don't understand how she did it

Did she just stand there whilst you swiped your stuff through the machine, pay, and then walk out with half the stuff (her half) still in the trolley? I'm amazed the staff didn't pull her in.

I'm also more amazed she does it when alone? Again, how?

YANBU

I wouldn't be friends with a thief

They might have seen it happen and have it on cctv, so they could be watching you next time. This is no friend.

I would go mad at that. Fine if she wants to put her self at risk but to implicate you in a crime is horrible

It’s not deception it’s theft. I’d report her to crime stoppers or the store.

@thenightsky - I would assume they both did scan as you shop on separate scanners then OP's friend didn't bother paying while she did

Nah, she can fuck right off. I’d message that and never see her again. She could have taken you down with her.

If someone did that to me it would be the end of the friendship. Aside from the fact that it’s criminal, I have a number of positions of trust in my community and would be out on my ear if I was even remotely involved in anything like this.

She would no longer be my friend.

Can you imagine if you were both caught, "But I'm innocent officer I knew nothing about it" yeah right missus thats what they all say, in the back of the van you go! She gambled with your freedom and could have lumbered you with a criminal record.

She's not a good friend.

I wouldn't want to associate with her anymore.

I wouldn't be seeing her again. Stealing in her own time is one thing, but using me/with me there? Not a chance. Scumbag.

Those tills have cameras above them. It wouldn’t surprise me if they have seen her.

Wow she must have some confidence to do that and not fear getting caught. She 100% used you to cover her own back, not a friendship I'd want to continue!

Imagine you’d been stopped, you and your wee baby could’ve ended up at the police station.
Thieving skank get her to fuck!

My friend works for Asda and this happens every day. It seems so easy to do.

I couldn't be friends with a thief

I would be mortified! How can she get away with that? What an awful thing to do!

What makes you think that someone who behaves like that wouldn't steal from the vulnerable people they work with?

very interesting point.. and I certainly wouldn't want her in my life after that little stunt..

I am so hurt by it. She didn't care when I said she could of implicated me, even when I explained how no-one would believe I was innocent. She waited to the side of me with her shopping in the trolley and must of just put mine on top of hers. She said she always gets away with it, she does her shopping, goes over to the flowers and then gets cigarettes and walks out. No-one bats an eyelid. I said it only takes once. She's apparently careful never to buy things with alarms like clothes etc.

I would be so angry if it implicated me. I've just had my baby for goodness sake.

I had a friend who used to do this when we went shopping together!! Turns out she got the habit from her mum.

Needless to say- we dont go shopping anymore & I kinda of distanced myself from her as a result.