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If You're off for Christmas

328 replies

Foxes157 · 19/12/2019 23:33

Not to brag. Essential services are working.

Non Essentials like retail, events and hospitality are working.
We get it you have 2 weeks off. Please have some respect.

OP posts:
Unusualsuspicion · 20/12/2019 09:57

Competitive misery is a soul-destroying pursuit.

adaline · 20/12/2019 10:09

You really need to stop and rethink what would happen if everyone who worked in the emergency services etc had the whole of Christmas off?

But that's part of working those jobs! I recruit for retail jobs and everyone is told at interview that they have to work certain days of the year, and that annual leave is banned over certain weeks. If they don't like that, they're free to turn down the job and look elsewhere.

I mean, DH works on a site that closes for two weeks over Christmas, which is great, but he's self-employed and needs to save money the rest of the year so he can afford that time. It also means the rest of the year, he frequently works six day weeks and 12 hour days because that's where the work is.

On the other hand, I need to work over Christmas (including Boxing Day) but I get paid double time for my bank holidays, and I never have to work six day weeks or 12 hour days. Different jobs have different perks. If you don't like the terms of your job, you can go and work somewhere else.

cokehoke · 20/12/2019 10:24

Sadly OP, this thread illuminates the reason for the result of the recent election perfectly

Seriously!

ghostyslovesheets · 20/12/2019 10:26

I finished on Weds and go back on the 7th - using 4days leave and I am part time so it just works out that way

My 17 year old is working Christmas Day 7-3pm so will miss dinner with me and her sisters - but that was her choice - I’ll miss her but she gets paid a bonus and she’s saving for a car - she’s also working 3 nights this week end and 12 hours NYE -the reality of hospitality - I’ve don’t be the same

Stop being such a mean grinch

ghostyslovesheets · 20/12/2019 10:26

I’ve done the same! Bloody fat fingers

CouldBeOuting · 20/12/2019 10:27

My dad was in the police and often wasn’t with us Christmas Day. He never felt the rest of the family having fun without him were being disrespectful. He probably appreciated our aunts and uncles supporting mum and making us happy in his absence.

yogafailure · 20/12/2019 10:29

I'm a teacher and I break off today. My DH is dayshift 6am-6pm on the 25th and 26th and on nightshift on Hogmanay.....your point is, OP? 🤷‍♀️ Been married almost 30 years and its always been like this. I have school holidays and he is on shift. It's life.

MurrayTheMonk · 20/12/2019 11:24

I'm working all of Christmas. It sucks. Doesn't have to suck for everyone else though to make me feel better.

Twinklelikethechristmastree · 20/12/2019 11:27

I have finished for the Christmas break. Maybe you should have a change in career? Lol

FranklySonImTheGaffer · 20/12/2019 11:36

What a ridiculous thread 🙄

DH qualifies as a teacher a few years ago. He loves not working Christmas after working retail for 10 years prior to this. Am I jealous of his time off? Yes but I don't expect him to pretend not to enjoy it!

If you're working over Christmas it can be rubbish BUT you know this is a possibility when you take on your job.

Sceptre86 · 20/12/2019 11:38

I am off for xmas and boxing day as they fall on my days off. I will be working xmas eve till 6pm however I have new years eve off. Your post is unreasonable, should people never post about buying a new bag or kitchen etc because some of the rest of us might not be able to afford what they have? We all have different circumstances it is the luck of the draw. Some companies are generous with allowing annual leave over the xmas and new year period, others are not.

GetawayfromthatWelshtart · 20/12/2019 11:57

This thread bought up a locked memory about my mum last night and I had a bit of a snotty blub in bed. (mum died over 20 years ago when I was 27 so I miss her so bloody much this time of year)

Sorry for the long post in advance.....

My lovely mum was a part time cleaner (then food delivery lady) in the local hospital so had to go in over Christmas/ New Year depending on her shift.

Then from when I was about 12 to my late twenties Mum worked in an Council run old peoples home (worked her way up from a cleaner to "second cook in command") and often worked over Xmas and New Year, depending on when her shift fell. Worked there until she died.

Mum never moaned (and they were low paid work), she bloody LOVED it! Because my mum was grateful for the job and loved looking after people.

We were a big family and Christmas morning after present opening she would bung the huge mutant turkey in the oven before she left for work on chrimbo morning and we kids would watch the timer like a hawk.

I have a memory that popped up when mum worked in the hospital of me and my little brother when we were very young sitting on chairs clutching a huge alarm clock (set to go off when turkey was cooked) watching the turkey so it wouldn't burn, swinging our legs to see how far we could swing them up (I don't think we understood at that age that our knees would get in the way)

When she worked in the Old Peoples Home, the kitchen staff (including my mum) would spend ages prepping and cooking lovely easy to eat Christmas meals and puddings for the people they cared for from scratch (and also meals for visiting family members), everyone would dress up and for a few years my Dad dressed up as Santa and I was a chrimbo fairy (before I turned into Kevin the teenager) and we went around delivering presents.

Some of the staff that lived nearby would even pop in and stay a while with the residents for when they had a sing song led by volunteers that used to go round to all the old peoples homes to sing carols.

New Years eve was another sing along and games and buffet nibbles all day (again they would feed visiting family members), Easter bunny would hop round in Easter, 11 November was filled with homemade poppies and lots of hugs were given and people would come in and just sit with people and listen to their war stories.

The reason I'm telling this is because it never occurred to me that someone working in possibly a similar field as my mum could be SO BITTER and RESENTFUL towards other people having time off over Xmas and New Year or any other holiday season.

Because I saw, for a HUGE chunk of my life, people on rubbish wages bringing joy to other people over Christmas and other Public holidays (some with no family) and never moaning because "That bitch Sharon just told me she is not back until the New Year and she's so excited to have the time off".

I never really minded working up to Xmas eve or in between until New Year after mum died because most of my colleagues and friends had young families and I knew when growing up how lovely my Christmas days were when mum was alive.

But by the gods I'm SO HAPPY I'M TAKING MY ANNUAL LEAVE AND NO WORK FOR ME UNTIL 2020! I'm a knackered old fart.

If I could find a hill where I live I'd climb it and spin around like Maria singing loudly "The hills are alive, with someone not back at work it 2020!" (but it's bloody wet, windy and muddy out there!)

Life isn't a fucking "oh look at me, being a martyr for working my shift on Christmas day/ Public holiday, you should all feel bloody guilty I'm working and you should all have a shit time off" competition.

I don't do this to people taking their allocated leave during summer or school holidays. Most people don't!

Life is what you make it and life is too bloody short to be grumpy and Grinch like towards other people, most you don't even know.

So I'm sending Christmas joy to everyone, working or not. May your day be merry and bright!!!

maddening · 20/12/2019 12:02

Do you work 365 days a year? It is more. Likely that you work 30-40 hours a week and have 20-30 days holiday and some bank hols (in lieu if you work them or recompensed financially) therefore you will be off when others are working, yabu others work equally hard as you and are entitled to enjoy their time off.

bluegreygreen · 20/12/2019 12:11

Please have some respect

Really?

I work in a busy clinical job. Most people have to work at some point over Christmas and New Year. I'm very pleased that I have a few days off over Christmas - my Mum and Dad are comig to me for Christmas day for the first time Smile

In return I'm working a very busy week beginning 30th - including New Year's Day.

Where I work the holiday days are shared out in a scrupulously fair manner. I've never heard anyone in my workplace complain that people in a different job have more time off over Christmas - that's just a basic fact of life.

HandsOffMyRights · 20/12/2019 12:21

I haven't heard anyone bragging.
YABVU.

Likethebattle · 20/12/2019 13:20

I’ve always worked in between but using 3 days annual leave to be off until 3rd January. 2nd is a bank holiday in Scotland. I appreciate all the work done by essential services but you walk into that job with your eyes wide open.

MistyCloud · 20/12/2019 13:54

PMSL at (several) people saying 'the people having Christmas off, are a reflection of the Election result.'

It's as bonkers as a tweet I saw yesterday, about a Muslim woman being attacked (verbally) for wearing a hijab. The woman blamed the results of the General Election for it. Confused

twitter.com/turnthijabi/status/1206884885874565121

Batshit.

Must be getting bored with blaming Brexit. They'll be blaming the rain next, or Christmas. Hmm

Merry Christmas @Foxes157 Hope you enjoy it. I'll enjoy my two and a half weeks off! Grin I do get the same resentment and bitterness from a few people like you, but these SAME people had 2 or 3 weeks off in the summer, whilst I worked, and guess what, I didn't resent them. Yet they are pissing and moaning now at ME having Christmas off - like you are!

Bitterness is NOT an attractive trait. Wink

MistyCloud · 20/12/2019 13:55

@GetawayfromthatWelshtart (at 11.57am.)

What a fab post! Sounds like you mother was fab! Flowers

Sounds like the patients/service users were lucky to have her (AND happy.!)

What a terribly early age to lose your mother - only 27. Sad

My thoughts are with you, and I will raise a glass of sherry to your lovely mother, and I hope you have a good Christmas.

(((HUGS)))

blubberyboo · 20/12/2019 14:06

Yabu

You are ordering other posters /people to not talk about what is going on in their lives at this time.

You will get your 2 weeks holidays at some other time of the year and you are quite free to brag about it then if you wish

That is life... we all have ups and downs, good times and those times when we have to work.

It’s Christmas , people are joyful they can bloody well talk about it if they want. Scroll past the posts you don’t like

tomatobread · 20/12/2019 14:10

What a goady and mean spirited thread!

Baguetteaboutit · 20/12/2019 14:19

Would you like me to pretend that I'm working really, really hard while I chill out mnetting, eating mince pies and deciding which movie to watch this afternoon? Is that respectful enough? Confused

MistyCloud · 20/12/2019 14:35

@Baguetteaboutit

Eating a mince pie, and watching a Christmas movie on 20th December.

What a barstad! Angry Hmm

Grin
ChristmasFluff · 20/12/2019 14:35

I've got over two weeks off, because Christmas is my 'big' yearly holiday.

So in summer, when I am working my arse off, please don't post any holiday photos on facebook or check in at the airport or brag about your two weeks in the sun. Please have some respect.
Xmas Hmm

Fuzzyspringroll · 20/12/2019 14:39

I have three weeks off. I also have reports to write, which will take a few days. I have IEPs and schemes of work to do. I have parent consultations to prepare. I won't be at work but I'll be working.

Imagine I would complain about those people who get to take holidays during term time. These people, who pay half of what I'm paying for a holiday. These people, who get to choose when they are taking time off. People, who can take a day here or there because they've got stuff to do. Now, that would be petty... So is complaining about people who are happy to have time off for Christmas.

GetawayfromthatWelshtart · 20/12/2019 14:40

@MistyCloud Thank you you lovely lass, Mum loved a bit sherry :D

Today I shall be mostly eating my body weight in cheeses and watching Elf. Huzzah!!!! Is it too early for a Snowball? Asking for a friend.....