It’s amazing what people accept as just the way it is

[Blondebombsite83]

I’ve noticed, especially in the run up to Christmas, that so many women of all ages accept that the majority of the Christmas prep is down to them. The amount of women at work who’ve said that their DHs are useless at wrapping/buying presents/ cooking etc. And this is just ok? We don’t have a particularly revolutionary marriage and my husband is far from perfect but this year he has organised our DSs main Christmas presents, wrapped a few presents that needed to go out early and would absolutely do half the cooking at Christmas if we weren’t away. He isn’t ‘helping’ and I don’t have to ask. He just does it. I could maybe understand if these husbands were only crap at one or two things but it seems to then become washing/ ironing/ food shopping etc. At one point do people draw a line and expect to live with an adult?

Nb I’m know there are plenty of women who claim to be shit at things all adults should be able to do, but I work with a lot of hetero women.

We play to our strengths and interests @Goatinthegarden

Exactly - we would have a sorry looking tree, decorations etc if left to my H so I take charge of most of it . H is cooking on Xmas Day so feet up for me . I have never cut a blade of grass in my life , never put up a hook or anything DIY related and it suits me just fine. It's give and take and suits me just fine.

Hmmm I’m now feeling slightly resentful. Having said Christmas isn’t a big chore, it’s just as well it isn’t because I mow the lawn, do the bins and arrange household maintenance or do it myself inc cleaning and laundry and cooking...

@Ihatemyseleffordoingthis

having read it back it doesn’t sound a lot but he also did half the decorating, bought half the other presents and will wrap at least half (he’s discovered a love for it that I don’t have!)

We both work full time but if we were part time I could understand one doing more than the other. Also I’m very laid back about how things are done as long as they are done well (but not in one particular way) so that helps. I don’t feel the need to take charge. My job involves me being in charge a lot so I can’t face it at home.