Boyfriend cheating.. just found out..

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Omg, I don’t know what to do. My boyfriend has gone out on a work do. I kept hearing a pinging coming from his office so I went in to mute whatever device it was and it was his iPad. Went to mute it and saw the message ‘can’t wait babe’ on the home screen. Obviously I opened it and have now found hundreds of messages between him and another girl. No idea who she is. Haven’t even looked into that yet. Just read the messages. He says he loves her. I have an 8 month old baby I feel sick please what shall I do from here? He’s just text me saying he misses me and I can see on the iPad he’s text her saying he misses her

OMG what is it with all the cheating DP threads lately?! What’s wrong with these men?? 🤬

When he comes home and you aren't there will tell him everything about how strong you are.

Oh you poor thing. What a fucking way to treat someone. 11 years and a baby.. honestly my heart breaks for you both. A video of the messages is really good advice. I hope you’re safe and sound with your mum, being looked after.

I feel sick for you OP. It's the worst feeling in the world. Big hugs to you x

I hope your ok. I dont have any other advise other than what other people have told you. Keep your head up. Your worth more than that

So sorry OP. Do not let that iPad and charger out of your sight right now. That is your evidence and is a you need to confront him.
You have nothing to feel embarrassed about at all, you have done nothing wrong.
You will be ok. It won't feel like it right now, but you are stronger than you realise x

I agree with whoever said you will be ok. Not just yet, but you will be...

So sorry OP, what an awful situation and man! You and your baby are worth so much more than this. I'm glad you've got your mum

So sorry op! This must be a terrible shock. This isn’t about you though, it’s about him and what a horrible slimy twat he his. Sending hugs 💐

Oh OP I really feel for you. The shock is so painful. I'm glad you've gathered your evidence...as they always try lie their way out of it.

Please don't be embarrassed - you've done nothing wrong. Let your Mum scoop you up and take care of you. So glad for you that she was able to come tonight x

bigbubbles way to focus on the least significant part of the post.

Really sorry op hope you have kicked the prick out.

I've been where you are right now. I know the complete and utter panic and heartbreak you will be feeling. I found all the messages 4 weeks before our wedding. I was a fool and went ahead with it. The marriage lasted less than 2 years. I hate myself for putting up with it for as long as it did. Yes, he stopped messaging. For a while. And then started again. A leopard never changes its spots.

Take time to work out what you are going to do. Be warned - he will say 'The Script' - "It didn't mean anything/ I was lonely/You never pay me any attention" - all lies! Because that's the only language they know- lies.

My heart goes out to you. But please, whatever you do, maintain your self-respect and know your worth. I thought I knew my worth but put up with so much it turned me into someone I didn't recognise, my self-esteem was absolutely on the floor by the end of it.

It's been 5+ years since we split. It took about a year/18 months to completely get over it but wow, I never been so happy! The relief when I finally chucked him out cannot be put into words.

I see him now when he picks our DC up and feel NOTHING, not love nor hate, just NOTHING, like those years never happened.

Take care of yourself. Lots of good advice has already been given by PPs on what to do right now. The main thing I'd try and do if at all possible is to delay him coming home tonight. You need time and space away from him to let it sink in in the interim and to work out what to do next. You're lucky to have your mum with you. Good luck and stay strong. You WILL get through all this. It's shit right now and will be for a while but you WILL get through it.

I’m so sorry.
Take care of yourself and your baby xxxx

@bigbubbles how fucking disgusting of you.

OP my heart is broken for you.

So sorry OP to read what's happened. I've also been in a similar situation (no kids involved) I found out my ex partner of 5 years had been cheating on me. I found all the messages on his ipad and I can still remember that feeling as I read through it all, as though my world had just fallen apart around me. I felt as though it was my fault, that I mustn't have been good enough for him. We owned a property 50/50 together (I had bought it myself but in thinking we had a future together put his name on the deeds) and I had to be vary careful with how I confronted him as I knew he would make life incredibly difficult if I shouted what he'd done from the roof tops so to speak. I was shaking with utter disbelief as I confronted him, he initially denied it but I had taken photos of everything so he soon had to confess. I remember one night a few weeks after finding an old phone of his with even more messages on, I honestly could've gone and thrown that phone at him over and over again I was so upset but I knew for the sake of my own future I had to remain level headed. He eventually moved out and thankfully made no attempt to make life difficult. Once everything was signed over to me I sent him a message I'd written many months before telling him exactly what I thought of him & how I knew everything he'd done. I don't know if he ever read it but I'm so glad I managed to keep my head & got everything done legally before letting rip! We had to live together for a few months afterwards and the fact I never screamed or shouted at him made him feel even more guilty, plus he knew everyone else knew what he'd done & was terrified of bumping into my family 😂 I'm now engaged and of course that experience made me v cautious but it also made me realise my own strength and self worth. Take it a day at a time and get all the support and love from your family ❤️

I'm so sorry OP. I'm glad you have your mum there.

Op so sorry for you to have found out like this. I wouldn’t rush into confronting him. Take your time, as others have said.

Urgh, how shitty.
I'm sorry OP.
It feels like more of a kick in the teeth when you were pregnant and have children.
He's a disgusting pig so is she.
Makes my blood boil when people can be so deceiving

This is awful, I feel so bad for you. Please don’t leave the house, tell him not to come back and get some breathing space. I wouldn’t tell him about the ipad I would say something else, like someone told you. Then see what continues on the messages. Gather evidence. Depending on finances and property, make sure you’re secure and financially protected as much as possible.