Is it morbid to tell your family which music you'd want at funeral?

[doadeer]

If anything ever happened to me, I have important pieces of music to me I would want at my funeral. I've told DH these on a few occasions just in case - he refuses to listen and says I'm morbid. (Just to note I don't have anything wrong with me)

Does anyone else have these discussions or am I very strange?

Peter Sellers hated Glenn Millers "In the Mood". He asked for it to be played at his funeral. As it was introduced by the priest as "one of Petwrs favourite " songs it proved to be a final twist of the comic genius.

Didn’t he have the chicken version though?

I don't think it requires a long discussion, just write it down somewhere where DH knows where to find it.

Mentioning music for your funeral on 'a few occasions' is morbid and your dh is quite within his rights to not want to discuss it.

Write a letter with what you want and stick it where it will be found and drop the subject.

I've been telling my kids for ever (they are still pre-teens) that I want Take That Never Forget played as my coffin is taken away and everyone leaves. I've also told them i expect all the clapping and arms in the sir too!

I don't think its morbid at all.

My mum says she won't follow my wishes for my funeral so it was a waste of time telling her

Are you in very poor health or is it just her way of acknowledging that she's unlikely to outlive you, so won't be there anyway?

'morbid' is the reply used by those who don't recognise that we ALL die and need to plan for it.

I don't want music or any ceremony, just a disposal - but I won't know anything about it so can't enforce it!

I have completed a cheery little book called "I'm Dead - Now What?" just so that whichever poor soul gets the job of sorting out my affairs won't have to second guess, or end up arguing
May I commend to you Wendy Cope's excellent poem on the topic.

My Funeral

I hope I can trust you, friends, not to use our relationship
As an excuse for an unavoidable ego trip.
I have seen enough of them at funerals, and they make me cross.
At this one, though deceased, I am to be the boss.

If you are asked to talk about me for five minutes, please do no go on for eight.
There is a strict timetable at the crematorium, and nobody wants to be late.
If invited to read a poem, just read the bloody poem.
If requested
To sing a song, just sing it, as suggested.
And don't say anything. Though I will not be there,
Glancing pointedly at my watch and fixing the speaker with a malevolent stare.
Remember that is always how I reacted
When I felt that anybody's speech, sermon or poetry reading was becoming too protracted.

Yes I was intolerant, and not always polite.
And if there aren't many people at my funeral,
It will serve me right.

This is an ongoing conversation in our house! In fact, certain songs come on the radio and our kids (teenagers) will say 'oh Dad/mums funeral song'

I have completed a cheery little book called "I'm Dead - Now What?" On the day after my mother died, my dad spoke to a friend of his that was widowed a year or so before and he had a list of "what to do and what not to do after your wife dies" tips that were very useful. Like who not to tell - her car insurance until you have your own insurance set up or you can't drive; her bank until you have moved money from the joint account into your own - I can't remember what else there was but it was much more practical than flowers.