Is it me or him?

[TellMeMore2020]

My mum is seriously unwell. She has terminal cancer and is currently battling an infection.

Me and my partner had a row today because he thinks I am spending too much time with my mum at hospital.

She's been in hospital since September when she got diagnosed.

According to him I don't divide my time well enough. He wants me to spend more time with him over my sick mother?

I went part-time temporarily to be able to spend more time with mum and he thinks this is a stupid move because I'm not considering my future.

He came from a foreign country to be with me and keeps saying to me that I don't care that he's alone at home while I'm at the hospital with my mum. I do ask him to come but he doesn't.

Is he right?! Or being difficult? Please help 😔

I’m so sorry you’re going through this, especially with such an awful, unsupportive partner.

Please tell him to leave. You don’t need the extra stress and quite honestly a kind, caring (even normal) person wouldn’t be behaving as he is. He is not a nice person.

I think you SHOULD spend a little more time with your boyf

In the car as you’re dropping his shitty arse off at the airport.

He’s a total wanker. He needs to ftfo and then fosm

He should be ashamed of himself

If you stay with him, you’ll forever feel the burn of shame for doing so. Bin him. 100%

Do it today and tell him to be gone by the time you get back home.

He called your dying mum selfish?

Oh you poor love, what an arse he is showing himself to be.

So sorry about your mum x

I’m honestly shocked and disgusted by his comments OP. You know full well if it was the other way around he would NOT put you first he would put his mum first. He should be offering to be with you. This man is too selfish to care abut anyone but himself. That’s not love OP, it really isn’t.

Massive love and light to your mum

Bye bye dp. I would buy his ticket for him to go home.

You're mum is the most important person to you in the world.
Never mind boyfriend girlfriend husband wife children. It's you're mum who will always be the most important because without her none of these other people would exist to us
Tell him where to go. Once an arsehole always an arsehole.

Well he is letting you see how cruel and selfish he is now. Good, when the time comes and you have rebuilt your strength then fuck him out.

OP, you sound like a great daughter, who deserves much better than that selfish arse.

Do what feels right by your Mum, so you haven't any regrets.

Mind yourself 👍💐

If he wants to see more of you, he could stop by the hospital of an evening - bring you a coffee or food, keep you company, get to know your mother a bit.

If he's this insensitive and selfish about something so significant, imagine how he'll be when you face the smaller but also difficult challenges that make up a life.

He’s a cunt OP, sorry.

OP, I hope you are prioritising your mum and you now x

TellMeMore2020 ask him if his mum became terminally ill would he want to go back home to spend time with her? If the answer is yes,then why is it different for you to do the same. Say bye bye and shut the door behind him. OP spend as much time as you can with your mum and make the most of every second as you will never get this time again. Do not ALLOW anyone to make you feel guilty.

Red flag op.