Settle a disagreement: AIBU to leave this advent candle burning throughout December including when everyone is out or in bed?

[EasilyDistracted77]

Picture for context, the candle is inside the glass/metal case.

One of us is saying it's perfectly safe and that's what an advent candle is for. The other is saying a flame should never be left unattended, no matter how safe it seems.

Friend of mine started a fire in her house, which burned half down, by leaving an incense stick smouldering in her bedroom while she went out. A spark fell on some paper, set it alight, and then the whole room went up. It was a disaster. Do not take the risk, ever.

A bear neighbour of mine died after going to bed and leaving a candle burning downstairs......her 2 little girls died with her.

Do.Not.Do.It.

Its never worth the risk. Candles are dangerous. I know someone who's house burned down, because she left her candle burning while she went out.

Near, not bear

That blanket it's resting on would go up like a tinderbox in an instant if it tipped over. Madness!

I remember a fire safety video.
A smouldering cigarette fell on to a sofa and the sofa started to smoulder. The 'owner' runs into the kitchen, grabs a bucket from under the sink and starts to fill it with water. before the bucket was full, the whole living room was alight.

I have never forgotten how quickly that fire went up

one persons survival for doing something dangerous doesn't mean that many others weren't injured or houses didn't get burnt down
We did use candles for advent but they were certainly putout before going to bed (they lasted longer & that's what candle snuffers were invented for!)

Also, tell your husband he doesn't know how advent candles work.

YABU, please never leave a burning candle unattended!

I used to work in data analysis for Fire and Rescue. Personally although I occasionally burn tea lights I never leave them unattended and I always make sure they're on a safe surface.

Back in 1986 there was a horrendous fire at Hampton Court Palace. Fire safety measures have improved since so it probably wouldn't be as bad now. One woman lost her life - she was in the habit of taking a lit candle to bed with her and it seems that is how the fire started. retiredlondonfireman.blogspot.com/2018/03/royal-palace-ablaze-hampton-court.html

Whoever thinks its safe to leave unattended is BVU.
Never, ever leave a lit flame unattended.

DH watched a house fire on our estate a few years ago. The firemen were dousing the fire with water from the outside to stop it spreading but they don't go inside unless there is a danger to life. It really shook him up and we no longer burn candles unless they are on a cake or there's a power cut and we've no batteries for a torch.

I can't believe that 2% think leaving candles unattended is ok.

It should not be left unattended. That is asking for trouble.

We never use candles except on. Birthday cake.

I wonder if the 2% who clicked YANBU really meant to click that button?
I think we are less aware of the danger than previous generations, who heated their houses with live fires, and lit them every day with candles; children had a healthy respect for fire ingrained into them.

Madness to leave a candle unattended overnight.

I hope your DH has agreed to be bound by the MN jury. Otherwise, you're just going to have to steal the candle and hide it until he comes to his senses.

I wouldn't light that candle while I was awake! That fake snow stuff it's on would go up in a second, as would the tree, taking the stocking and the poster of the fire up with them.

That metal case will get super hot with a flame inside it constantly and could easily warp. The glass could smash with the heat. There's so much around that flame that is so, so flammable.

Don’t leave it lit, that’s just silly.

OP you HAVE to come back and reassure us that your DH has completely taken this on board because I, for one, am concerned that you are living with a very dangerous fire hazard (him).

Bloody hell. If I was married to man without enough brains to think this was a good idea and not at all dangerous, I'd never be able to bring myself to shag him again, I think.

Leaving that aside, burning the incorrect day on an advent candle - LTB territory!

You must be joking.

No unattended flames!

Having dealt with the charred remains of a mother and child and the complete devastation of the family and subsequent orphan,I from a candle left unattended,I would not go out of a room for a second without blowing out a candle of I had one.