To think 80% of the people on here are pretty rude & mean

[Youngmamaa2]

It seems most things I post on here, the responses are just filled with rude, sarcastic people. So are the things I read on other people's responses. If you don't agree with someone or their posts bother you, don't comment just move on 😒

“ I agree with you. Some are just trolls and others are genuinely just mean!

I don't understand why people comment if they are just going to be mean. You can word a disagreement in nice way without being nasty.“

But it’s ok to be nasty to step parents, in your opinion? As I’ve seen some pretty nasty comments from you @bluebella4

I agree with you, I've stared a couple of threads recently and people have been so rude. You can disagree and not be rude. Sometimes I feel the other posters are like vultures attacking the OP

I think it depends where you look, @Youngmamaa2. There are some boards where posters go out of their way to help and support other MNers - relationships, bereavement, breastfeeding, the staff room, education, to name but a few. Then there is Woolly Hugs - a crafting initiative that started here, on MN, as a joint effort to make a knitted blanket to send to a MNer whose 2-year-old had died of a brain tumour. It has grown hugely now - we still make knitted and crocheted blankets for MNers who lose a child or a spouse, or for the family if a MNer dies, as well as comfort blankets for kids in hospital, women undergoing breast cancer treatment, refugees, children in Africa, and to wrap little premature babies who pass on. We also have one or two online craft sales each year to raise money for various charities.

There is so much love and support on MN - but if you are only looking for nastiness, that is what you will find.

Also, an old adage rings very true across MN...

... Ask a stupid question, get a stupid answer.

YABU.

I'd say it was the other way around; 20% (or fewer) are rude and confrontational and 80% are fine

DragonontheWagon has given you good advice, as other posters have done. AIBU can be quite robust and responses on other threads are unlikely to cause you stress.

I agree with you so much. Everyone seems to be on something recently. The thread about a worker smoking on the job pushed me over the edge today. I wanted to defend the OP but didn’t want to get buns thrown at me.

Not sure if it’s been deleted or not I’ve not checked but OP was getting called all sorts for simply saying she didn’t think they should have been smoking whilst working. They were making awful presumptions from all of 3 normal sentences. A lot of posters use AIBU as an outlet for all their anger I think. Half of them wouldn’t have the balls to respond like that if OP was right in front of them. Keyboard warriors!

This probably isn’t the place for you. I wasn’t aware that AIBU now stands for “stroke my hair and tell me I’m right please”. If you’re going to post daft things then probably best not to use AIBU

You are very delicate, maybe this isn’t the site for you? Some people on here are down right rude but not 80% and as for ‘mean’ are you 6??? Your thread was a whinge about nothing and people will comment thusly.

I enjoy AIBU. 👜👜👜

People need to grow up, it's like this place has been taken over by teenagers lately. All this "people are mean" "You're all just bitches" "jealous haters" etc is pathetic

Yup, the you're all so meeeeean threads are getting fucking boring. As is that bloke, who pops up on every you're all meanies thread, to agree with the OP. Might as well just dispense with the wordy posts and say, now girls play nicely. To which I hope you'd be robustly told to fuck off.

It's like life. Theres some nice ones and some nasty ones. The trick is to not let it bother you.
Some people are also braver behind a screen so say what they really think without having to put on a front.
I couldn't really care to be honest.

I love AIBU, it's always been my favourite, because of the bluntness and intelligent responses.

HOWEVER - there are definitely more cunts here of late that love steaming in on other boards. That kind of pisses me off because if the OP is up for it, they'll go on AIBU for the fight.... but if they go elsewhere wanting support, often they'll get a kicking for no good reason.

YABU. We haven't had a good Meghan Markle thread in a while, ye haters! . So unsupportive.

My real advice for surviving amibo thought is:
Don't ever say you don't like dogs! They'll hunt you down and end you like the dog animal hater you are!

I also enjoy aibu.

Ffs. Amibo = aibu

Oh dear this hasn't gone the way it should of. Horrible folk disagreeing with you 😫

Thought = though

I'm outta here. I can't type for toffee tonight!

Yep I agree. There are some straight up biatches on here who seem to get a kick out of being nasty (anonymously, of course).

I think maybe this is maths.

If 23% of MN is a little bit mean 17% of the time, and 43% of MN is slightly mean 64% of the time, and 8% of MN is very mean 96% of the time, overall we can conclude that some people would be better on Netmums?

I'd also say it's rhe orher way round, 80 percent nice, 20 percent rude.

What is it you're hoping to achieve by the thread? If you don't like a forum or thr behaviour on it, then it's likely not the one for you.

If you don't agree with someone or their posts bother you, don't comment just move on 😒

So instead of not commenting and moving on - you start a whole new thread of drama and disagreeing

I go through stages and try and be nice and not give in to the voice in my head but sometimes people are so stupid or so offensive that the rage takes over and I can’t help myself .
Also if I’m honest my reply can depend what kind of day I’ve had .
Today was a tiring one so I’m not feeling so argumentative as I’ll type out a reply and then delete it because I can’t be arsed but grumpiness is starting to kick in...

What is it you're hoping to achieve by the thread?

Waaaaah, meanies, just agree with me or I’ll stamp my feeeeet.