To think 80% of the people on here are pretty rude & mean

[Youngmamaa2]

It seems most things I post on here, the responses are just filled with rude, sarcastic people. So are the things I read on other people's responses. If you don't agree with someone or their posts bother you, don't comment just move on 😒

I’ve been here nearly 20 years and I like the robust discussion, so many times people think others are being ‘rude’ just because they have a different opinion. I’ve had a few ‘blunt’ comments directed at me over various subjects, but it’s just a different opinion and it’s often good to have our own views challenged.

Generally used if someone is being particularly goady or pathetic I think.

The biscuit that is.

BORING

Maybe 80% of people are just more sensitive than others! Personally I appreciate the bluntness, I can be a bit precious. Nothing like a straight to the point comment to snap me back round.

You entitled prick

@TrollTheRespawnJeremy you’re being rude and mean

What’s the point of this thread op? I mean - I comment every single time I see a Boris/conservative bashing thread because there are so many of them. Perhaps netmums might be better for you OP - aibu is harsh sometimes.

You are very sensitive though - maybe you're still upset about that dreadful checkout assistant at Tesco.

You're right about mumsnetters though - right load of bastards. Half of them aren't even Mums - just randoms on the internet.

@puds11 oh god forbid. What will we do? clutches pearls

I've had several threads on here and while l have been told not to be a prat in varying ways on lots of occasions none of the comments have been out-of-order-rude and to be honest, brutal honesty is the whole point of AIBU!

Haha. "Rude" and "disagreeing with me, waaaah" are not the same thing.

And actually there are worse things to be than rude. "Rudeness" is a very clever thing people use to deflect things they don't want to hear.

@TrollTheRespawnJeremy fgs think of the children!!

I do think the most obnoxious stroppy people tend to be those who don’t get the response they want or get their arse handed to them

But it’s an online forum - not life - far more cruelty in the real world maybe start doing something about that?

Please don't start an 'everybody is being mean' trope.

Disagreeing with you does not equal mean or rude. I'm speaking as someone who has had their arse handed to them on AIBU, several times. If you are told AIBU, it means you probably are. And if you weren't prepared to be told that, don't ask!!

Sometimes OP's get offended just because people disagree with their point of view, no matter how politely they do so.

If you post in AIBU then you're asking for opinions, some people happened to think you were being a derp for being offended by small talk. It's just the way it goes.

If you just want to rant then post somehwere like Chat and make it clear you're not looking for anyone to post that doesn't agree with you...although it still might not go down too well!

You can expect to be disagreed with on AIBU, but no, people shouldn't use that as an excuse to shit all over the OP.

I think MN has got so big that there is little comeback on asshole posters. It was better before when it was smaller and people "knew" each other better

Poster posts a thread in AIBU and doesn't like the responses.

Poster then posts another thread in AIBU to moan... Expecting different responses?

some people never learn

The funniest thing on this thread are the replies from people telling OP to go to Netmums, as if AIBU is some sacred, hallowed arena of combat, and only the initiated need understand why savagery is de rigeur

Get over yourselves - some of you just love giving other (mainly women) a kicking, and enjoy really sticking the boot in when someone is clearly distressed. The worse the spelling or lack of paragraph use, the more arch and knowing some MNetters get. The more vulnerable the person (DV, TTC etc), the more vicious and head-girl replies start to stack up.

This is the reality, but you'll be damned if anyone admits to it.

This topic is on a loop.

I always think of AIBU being a place where people are totally honest.

So in real life the answer to does my bum look big in this would be ‘no you look fabulous ‘ . In AIBU it would be ‘yes your arse looks huge you need to lose weight’ .
Harsh but probably true!
Btw not talking about your bum op just a made up example.

Where did you come up with that figure? 80% seems very high - almost tempted to go back through posts and come up with a more accurate statistic...

Whilst I dislike some of the petty, irrelevant posts (the ones that nitpick over supposed parenting defects whilst missing the point of the posts) on the whole, I think things are generally pretty balanced. And very so often you get a post that genuinely warms your heart, as posters fall over themselves to help. Plus the breadth of knowledge on here is staggering.

For crying out loud. Is it school holidays already? 80 per cent of MN consists of adults.