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To tell dp to stop spoiling Christmas for our children.

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ElfByHimself · 04/12/2019 06:39

Dp cannot keep a secret.
We have got our dc a main present for Christmas and since we've had it in the house he's been a nightmare.

He started off dropping hints like
" wouldn't it be good if you had that for Christmas "

Then he's started openly discussing accessories he's seen online for it.

I've hid it in the wardrobe and last night he's said to the dc " don't look in there, unless you want to see something really exciting you have for Christmas "

I wouldn't have liked to see my face at that point as I was seething!

The dc know that Father Christmas doesn't bring all the presents but he then went on to say to them " it's a better present than all the plastic tat mummy has got you"

I felt like taping his mouth shut ( joking obviously).

When I point him out on it he just says " oops sorry"

I doubt dc will still believe in any Christmas magic by the time he's finished and it's really annoyed me.

Our youngest is only 3 so is he being selfish or am I just being stupid trying to keep it all a surprise?

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Fedupofitnow123 · 04/12/2019 06:42

Urgh I know how frustrating this is, I never used to buy early because my ex would actually give it to ds, then on Christmas he would have hardly anything

Liverbird77 · 04/12/2019 06:42

Really selfish. I would have had words. Words that would make Santa's elves blush.

Bluewavescrashing · 04/12/2019 06:44

He's being a dick.

What's the present? I need to know now!

Devon1987 · 04/12/2019 06:45

What a prick. I would if read him the riot act. If spoils it return his presents.

BlouseAndSkirt · 04/12/2019 06:46

That’s quite nasty actually.

Ask him what he is getting out of it. Is it making him feel important?

Thehop · 04/12/2019 06:47

He’s an idiot

And he’s rude

megletthesecond · 04/12/2019 06:47

He's an idiot and needs to grow up.

AlwaysCheddar · 04/12/2019 06:48

He’s a knob. Really vile to do this.

GiveHerHellFromUs · 04/12/2019 06:48

Yeah he's a selfish prick.
Ruining Christmas for the little ones and putting you down in the meantime.

I bet he's a bit 'Disney dad' isn't he?

Courtney555 · 04/12/2019 06:49

Sorry but what a twat. How are you seeing any humour in this? Agree with PP that this is actually quite nasty.

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ElfByHimself · 04/12/2019 06:49

@Fedupofitnow123 that's really sad Sad

I feel like nothing I say is getting through to him. I worry when I leave the kids with him as I can hear him telling them stuff/ dropping hints.

I don't think he means it badly, he just can't keep his mouth shut!

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OliviaBenson · 04/12/2019 06:51

This is horrible op. I'd be raging with him.

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 04/12/2019 06:52

My DH says stupid things like, after DD and I got back from a shopping trip, he asked her what we’d bought for him. She’s 5 so she told him. I was fuming! He told DD about the surprise treat of GM and GD taking her to see Frozen 2 with her favourite aunt. He just doesn’t think but I still lost my shit with him. Told him he needs to think before he speaks.

That doesn’t sound like your ‘D’P though. His sounds deliberate and malicious. It’s like he’s trying to get them all excited but actually taking it too far and ruining it. I wouldn’t be telling him what the DC were getting or where I’d put it.

Peignoir · 04/12/2019 06:53

Tell him off. My ex husband did this when the kids were young and I would have words with him at full length. I simply took money out of his account for each gift he revealed. He learnt his lesson after purchasing two MacBooks.

spanglydangly · 04/12/2019 06:57

What a completely nasty dick, I'd be furious!

FirstTicket · 04/12/2019 06:59

Try and get through to him if you can, my dad would do this to us as children (and adults) and it completely ruined it. I’m almost 30 now and get the absolute rage at people who try and “hint” at surprises for me.

In fact, if it’s such a big hint that I guess the present, I tell them I now know what it is and I don’t want it so take it back Blush All stemming from my bumbling ‘D’F!

pumpkinpie01 · 04/12/2019 07:04

What an idiot , I'd be fuming with him have you actually said to him ' are you deliberately trying to spoil their Christmas?' He's an adult for gods sake he is capable of keeping secrets and keeping his mouth shut !

afterme · 04/12/2019 07:07

Is he trying to wind them up?

Rainbowqueeen · 04/12/2019 07:09

Time for a serious conversation. Your poor kids.

Is he like this with other things?? Because that is really cruel. In my house this would be the last year he knew that my kids presents were. I’d buy them all and hide them at a friends house

Thatnovembernight · 04/12/2019 07:11

I’d tell him that he’s ruining it and if he can’t stop it then next time (birthday/Christmas) he’ll have to be kept out of it so he doesn’t spoil everything.

DeathByPicolax · 04/12/2019 07:12

By saying he just can't keep his mouth shut is minimising this OP.

He is getting something out of this for himself and it's that you have to wonder about as it tells you a tonne about him as a person.

He sounds weak and shallow and he has to have one up on you.

daisypond · 04/12/2019 07:16

I’d be equally annoyed, if not more so, by his comment about it being “better than all the plastic tat Mummy has got you”. That’s uncalled for. Is he making out that this main super duper present is just from him?

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ElfByHimself · 04/12/2019 07:26

The thing is the so called 'plastic tat' is supposed to be from Father Christmas and this main present from me and him to the children. So now they will be thinking which of the 'tat' is from me and which bits from Father Christmas.

I will have words with him later today.

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LeekMunchingSheepShagger · 04/12/2019 07:30

He wants all the glory doesn’t he? Needs the kids to think he’s bought them the best present.

Freddiemercuarysmoustache · 04/12/2019 07:30

My dp dies the exact same and so does my mil

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