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To tell dp to stop spoiling Christmas for our children.

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ElfByHimself · 04/12/2019 06:39

Dp cannot keep a secret.
We have got our dc a main present for Christmas and since we've had it in the house he's been a nightmare.

He started off dropping hints like
" wouldn't it be good if you had that for Christmas "

Then he's started openly discussing accessories he's seen online for it.

I've hid it in the wardrobe and last night he's said to the dc " don't look in there, unless you want to see something really exciting you have for Christmas "

I wouldn't have liked to see my face at that point as I was seething!

The dc know that Father Christmas doesn't bring all the presents but he then went on to say to them " it's a better present than all the plastic tat mummy has got you"

I felt like taping his mouth shut ( joking obviously).

When I point him out on it he just says " oops sorry"

I doubt dc will still believe in any Christmas magic by the time he's finished and it's really annoyed me.

Our youngest is only 3 so is he being selfish or am I just being stupid trying to keep it all a surprise?

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Freddiemercuarysmoustache · 04/12/2019 07:31

*does

Thestrangestthing · 04/12/2019 07:34

We got my eldest dc an expensive present this year. DP came straight in and showed him and the younger dc (who still believes in santa). I couldn't believe it, told him he had ruined Christmas for everyone.

PenelopeFlintstone · 04/12/2019 07:34

I’d give him one more warning and tell him that if he does it again you won’t tell him any of it anymore.

Newschapter · 04/12/2019 07:35

You need to have serious words with him before he tells them.

What is it? Is it an Xbox or playstation or similar? Because it sounds like he is very excited....

Goldenchildsmum · 04/12/2019 07:35

What a ridiculous child he is

VividImagination · 04/12/2019 07:37

Buy them something amazing “from Santa”, don’t tell him, just leave it out on Christmas Eve. That’ll teach him!

daisypond · 04/12/2019 07:38

I actually think it’s a firm of bullying, and is the mark of a weak person trying to overcompensate for their weakness. He has a secret knowledge of something and he is taunting a weaker, more vulnerable member of the group with that knowledge - his own child.

Goldenchildsmum · 04/12/2019 07:44

Buy them something amazing “from Santa”, don’t tell him, just leave it out on Christmas Eve. That’ll teach him!

If you can afford to do this - this is the BEST idea ever Thanks

diddl · 04/12/2019 07:48

Of course he could keep his trap shut if he wanted, he's a bloody adult!

When we were kids it was always Father Christmas who brought both stocking presents (for us to open before mum & dad got up) & presents under the tree.

Never understood parents wanting the "glory" of buying the presents tbh.

NearlyGranny · 04/12/2019 07:48

What a nasty plonker! Leave him out of the loop in future. Do you have a neighbour or friend you could stash things with so he can't even snoop?

And show him his own present (max value £10) and refuse to wrap it.

Cornishmum00 · 04/12/2019 07:48

Tell him in future as he is so determined to ruin the suprise you will not be including him in choosing/buying/hiding the presents until he can grow up and keep his mouth shut

Aridane · 04/12/2019 07:52

Ha - my father was like this - he just can't keep a secret. He really couldn't. I would be astonished if he took any secrets with him to the grave

OmniversalsTapdancingTadpole · 04/12/2019 07:55

He sounds as though he is a selfish wanker and he needs to wind his neck in and grow the fuck up.

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LongLiveThePenis · 04/12/2019 07:58

@diddl parents bring the big presents and Santa only brings one present/stocking in our house.
We don't want them comparing with other children at school and listing that Santa bought them lots of things because Santa can't afford to do that for some children whether they were good or naughty.
It's about having a little sensitivity for other families.

Whoops75 · 04/12/2019 08:01

How awful I would leave him out of future Christmas buying and Prep.
The poor children will be frazzled OP, this isn’t a fun tradition.

LagunaBubbles · 04/12/2019 08:04

don't think he means it badly, he just can't keep his mouth shut!

Of course he can, he's a grown adult and fully capable of understanding not spoiling surprises!

Butterymuffin · 04/12/2019 08:08

Hide it at someone else's house and tell him you've returned it because he'd spoiled the surprise.

Whoops75 · 04/12/2019 08:09

^ great idea

Definitely move it

catspyjamas123 · 04/12/2019 08:10

He’s massively undermining you with the comment about the “plastic tat”. So you have probably got the entire contents of the stocking but it is dismissed. My ex used to do this - 98% of presents were bought by me and either came from Santa or both of us. But 2% would just be from him and presented with a big flourish. He is now ex. It’s a big indication of the sort of selfish bastard someone is.

DeathByPicolax · 04/12/2019 08:14

Next year say nothing. Keep the gifts in a suitcase at a friends. He has lost the right to be kept in any loop.

Trewser · 04/12/2019 08:15

He doesn't sound hugely clever.

Goldenchildsmum · 04/12/2019 08:19

Hide it at someone else's house and tell him you've returned it because he'd spoiled the surprise.

I love this idea too! Grin

Trewser · 04/12/2019 08:19

Hide it at someone else's house and tell him you've returned it because he'd spoiled the surprise

Good one

gingersausage · 04/12/2019 08:29

This is a really weird way to behave. What is his problem? Does he behave strangely in other ways too?

Nanny0gg · 04/12/2019 08:34

Is he selfish and unkind about other things?

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