AIBU not to be putting together a nursery?

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(Name changed as I’ve mentioned this dilemma to a few people in RL and I don’t particularly want them knowing my usual username)

So I’m having my first baby next year - all very lovely and my DH and I are very excited but I’m genuinely confused about this whole nursery business.

We live in a three bedroom house - currently one bedroom is ours (quite a big room) One is our guest room, and one is an office. Obviously one of these at some point will become the baby’s room though we haven’t quite worked out the logistics of how to switch everything around yet. However in my mind I’m thinking this won’t be an issue for a while as the baby is going to be in with us in our room for at least the first 6 months, possibly more before it goes in it’s own room and we can work all this out and make a nice baby room once that actually happens.

But everyone I’m talking to, including people who are pregnant and already have kids keep going on about when we’re going to do the nursery and decorate it and have it all ready. I see pictures of people’s nursery’s on Facebook with cots already in there (people who are still pregnant) and everyone I’m speaking to seems to think this is normal and what you do before the baby is born!

So my AIBU is - am I being unreasonable for thinking this is totally unnecessary when it’s basically a room that will be sitting empty for at least 6 months when we’re currently using both our ‘spare’ rooms. Or is there something I’m missing?

I did nurseryofor my first ones.

Learnt very quickly how pointless it was (and costly as they were only in them 2 minutes before out of cost and into big boy rooms)

My youngest I put a nice set of drawers and cot in my room and she co slept for a year (or two)

I really enjoyed doing her room when she moved out and just out a proper bed in there.

I was glad our nursery was sorted before our son came along purely so it didnt have to think about it and decorating with a baby running around or early on being tired and feeding constantly. He was our 1st so I really didnt know what to expect so wanted to be ready for any choices we made.

If it's better for you to wait, there is also no harm in that.

We didn't bother. Didn't see the point as we were planning on cosleeping anyway and it was just easier to keep the baby stuff in our room.

Yanbu. We were the same as you, DD is 7 months and we have been fine without a nursery. She is in with us and actually it is useful to retain the spare room so that DH can get uninterrupted sleep sometimes. We have a changing table and small are with her clothes set up in living room.

I think there is a lot of consumerism around having a baby that preys on people's desire to be good parents and the whole nursery thing plays into that.

When you think about it, pregnancy is the worst time to decorate your house as you are breathing in all the nasty chemicals like VOCs from the paint.

When you think about it, pregnancy is the worst time to decorate your house as you are breathing in all the nasty chemicals like VOCs from the paint.

There is no evidence that painting is at all harmful during pregnancy, but also surely by that logic decorating with a small baby in the house is even worse?