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To get upset about Xmas gift?
MooPoo23 · 29/11/2019 22:55
Hi,
I was just wondering if I could have your opinion.
I don’t have much money this year (I left a dv relationship last year and still haven’t recovered financially) and thought it would be nice to “do up” my daughters room as an Xmas gift.
I mentioned it to someone at my local play centre (we were all taking Xmas) and she laughed it off and said “tbf that’s a bit of a shit gift”.
I laughed and said “yeah, it was just an idea” but I actually felt quite sad about it.
Am I bu to be upset or would it be ok to do this? I really don’t have much to give, I have about 6-7 gifts for my dd (she’s 6 and will be getting things from her dad and his family).
All I’ll be doing is paining it pink, putting a rug, some fairy lights, a few wooden plaques with quotes on them, some new bedding and a few cushions. It’s not much but it’s the best I can do right now.
I honestly feel like a shit mum, but I’m trying my hardest and I do work but only part time.
Thank you for reading my message x
Oilyoilyoilgob · 29/11/2019 22:58
That’s really awful of her to say 😠 even if she thought it. Jesus why can’t people think before they speak.
I think it’s an absolutely lovely gift.....you could everything as a big reveal and maybe hold a bit of cash back to say you’ll have a girls trip out to pick some new bedding? I’d quite like that done for me and I’m in my 30s!
Well done on changing your life for the better, I bet you’re not a shit mum. Be kinder to yourself ☺️
Chickychoccyegg · 29/11/2019 23:02
That was really rude of that mum, I'm sure your dd will love that, you could wrap the rug/pictures/lights/bedding/maybe a nice cushion or blanket up for Christmas (i did similar a few years ago wrapped them individually but put them together in a large gift bag (£1/£1.50 from card factory ) so it was obvious there was a bedroom theme.
bridgetreilly · 29/11/2019 23:02
My parents did my room for my 7th birthday. I can't tell you any other birthday present they gave me as a child, but that one was special. So I say do it. But I would think carefully about how you do it so that she has something special to 'unwrap' on Christmas Day. Could she sleep elsewhere for a few nights before, while you work on the room, and then put a big bow or something on the door, as well as wrap up the bedding and other bits?
MooPoo23 · 29/11/2019 23:02
Thank you for your quick responses. I honestly thought my little one would love it, I grew up with absolutly nothing (abusive household) and would have loved this.
Even though she’s only 6, I want her to feel like she has a personal space that’s hers and not just a small white room with a bed and a toy box in it as that’s all it is right now.
I’m hoping to find a second hand/cheap wardrobe for her clothes and a little table for her lamp so it’s more personal (not too sure if that’s the right word) as I bought everything in her dads house but left with nothing, just so it doesn’t feel like she’s still living out of a suitcase if that makes sense?
tunnocksreturns2019 · 29/11/2019 23:05
A lovely present idea. And she’ll obviously get the use out of it - literally every day/night. I bet it makes her feel quite grown up too, and they love that.
I still remember my DCs reactions when I did similar for them. DD squealed with delight, and DS said ‘I’m a very lucky boy, aren’t I, Mummy?’
Definitely do it.
Goldenchildsmum · 29/11/2019 23:05
Even though she’s only 6, I want her to feel like she has a personal space that’s hers and not just a small white room with a bed and a toy box in it as that’s all it is right now.
You're a lovely mum and it's a brilliant idea. Don't listen to snarky snakes 
MooPoo23 · 29/11/2019 23:07
I have her Thursday night from 7pm to Monday 1pm on the holidays (Its an unusual arrangement but I left as she had just started school and I felt bad moving her away from friends, family and school all at the same time. But it works for now as - and I know I may get shot down for this- but her dad is very manipulative so at least this way she spends more time away from that environment but still gets to see her dad during the week) so she’ll be with her dad while I work on her room.
Honestly, your responses have really cheered me up, thank you 😊
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