To get upset about Xmas gift?

[MooPoo23]

Hi,

I was just wondering if I could have your opinion.

I don’t have much money this year (I left a dv relationship last year and still haven’t recovered financially) and thought it would be nice to “do up” my daughters room as an Xmas gift.

I mentioned it to someone at my local play centre (we were all taking Xmas) and she laughed it off and said “tbf that’s a bit of a shit gift”.

I laughed and said “yeah, it was just an idea” but I actually felt quite sad about it.

Am I bu to be upset or would it be ok to do this? I really don’t have much to give, I have about 6-7 gifts for my dd (she’s 6 and will be getting things from her dad and his family).

All I’ll be doing is paining it pink, putting a rug, some fairy lights, a few wooden plaques with quotes on them, some new bedding and a few cushions. It’s not much but it’s the best I can do right now.

I honestly feel like a shit mum, but I’m trying my hardest and I do work but only part time.

Thank you for reading my message x

Do it. It's a lovely idea.

We've just moved and I got all the basics and painted kids rooms.. Before dd didn't have her own room.
But have brought all the extras for Xmas.. Nice pics. Money jars. More. Bedding. Nice cushions etc.

My most favourite gift as a child was a duvet and duvet cover in a pink flowery pattern. I still remember it to this day and the feeling of excitement that it would go on my bed for me to snuggle under I must have been about 10. My parents were hard up and we'd only ever had sheets and blankets, so it seemed like such a lovely girly luxury.
Your little girl will love her gift, so much better than a load of plastic tat that will end ip in landfill.

It’s a bloody lovely thing to do for her. My dd is nearly 4 and I know they she’d love that. Don’t let your friend make you feel down on it, it’s really thoughtful. Best of luck going forward, op.

She's a dick, ignore her. I did similar for dds 5th bday. I wasn't stuck for cash at the time, just ideas beyond the little cheap gifts she'd asked for. She's now 16 and still remembers it as one of her best ever presents. And since then, both have had room makeovers as part of birthday/ Xmas presents.

I asked my parents one year to do my room up for Christmas.

It was the best present ever.

I think that is a much better present than some tat.

Meihuida Magic Fairy Dancing In Flower Release Butterfly Wall Sticker For Girls' Decoration www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B017YI0BZO/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_bvA4DbGAA5KJ8?tag=mumsnetforu03-21

How about something like this... For afew pounds, you can really make a room look beautiful for a small child

It’s a fantastic gift! As a previous poster said, I can probably remember a handful of gifts I got when I was a kid but remember decorating my room around the same age as your daughter. We had just moved into a pretty bare flat and I loved that little room that was all mine!

Genuinely it sounds lovely... don't give anymore headspace to that nasty piece of work.
Kids don't need piles of tat and 'things' and what you are doing is seriously, absolutely fine.
Hope you have a fab christmas

Your acquaintance is a twat. Your daughter will love her room - think of it as her own personal playhouse - a room that’s just for her, who wouldn’t want That! Plus 6-7 presents?? That’s plenty - you’re doing amazing , don’t worry what anyone else says

That is inspired! Yes do it - it will be wonderful for here and especially after everything you've both been through.

Well done you!

My kids, now adult, remember few presents but remember nostalgically the decorative items (wallpaper, bedding etc) that made their bedrooms theirs.

You are definitely NBU

6 or 7 gifts is plenty OP! I think you doing up her room and making it a place for her is so sweet and personal. Ignore the idiotic woman

You could cover the door frame (door hole) with wrapping paper and have her burst it open to unwrap it.

She'll love it and you have bought her a few gifts so why worry? You can say you're doing her room up specially for Christmas. It's lovely.

That's an amazing gift, any 6year old would love that. Your 'friend' sounds vile. Can you not get at least some of your stuff that you paid for via a male relative picking it up for you? Why should your ex keep everything when you paid for it? If a) they're male & b) the they just turn up with no warning, he's unlikely to argue IME.

Eh?! Stuff to open and a new bedroom?

Sounds mint to me OP.

Fwiw I'm getting the same this year and I'm 44. Like for real

I think that is a wonderful gift. You could wrap up one of the items to go in her room so she also has something to open on Christmas Day. Your CF probably said that in jealousy as she didn't think of it first!

Lovely idea. Your DD will love it.

I did that for my DS for his birthday and he loved it!! Did it while he was at school and I still watch the video now and smile at his reaction. Your DD will love it

DD age 11 wanted and asked for her bedroom to be redecorates for her birthday.

I thh Guy h I mn this is the kind of thing in big she’ll remember for years to come “mum do you remember the year you painted my bedroom for Christmas?”

I think it’s wonderful and other people would do well to realise their privilege 💐💐💐

My parents did this for me when I was young and I absolutely adored it. Ignore stupid woman and go with your instinct :)

She sounds like a dick!!!!! Ignore her please.

I think it sounds lovely, and your daughter will love it!!!! Sellotape some Christmas wrapping paper over the open door so she can 'unwrap' her new room ♥️

What a lovely idea. Your daughter will love it. Her own personal girly space.