Selling clothing I gave her ?

[Buttercup1980]

AIBU to be annoyed that a friend who I gave baby clothes to for free ..... is now SELLING them on ??

U gave it away 🤷🏻‍♀️
Wouldn't really bother me

Nope. You passed them on. Unless you specifically asked for them back when she was done then YABU

You could've sold them yourself. 🤷

You'll be told its hers to do with as she wishes but it would piss me right off. I recently gave my friend some clothes for her and her children because she is skint. I told her if she wasn't going to use them could I have what she doesn't need back as I am also skint.
I'd have been hacked off if she sold them.

You gave them away. She can do what she wishes.

I could of yes, but I gave them to her instead because I’m kind. 🤷🏼‍♀️ Should of sold them to her instead maybe ??

Tes you should have sold them too her a fiver a bag 🤷‍♀️

Yes that would annoy me. Get free, give free

I have to agree with OP - that would annoy me.

It's bad form imo

Let it go.

Did you want them back?

Did you give them or lend them?

I’m so surprised the consensus so far is that she is right to do that

It’s cheeky plain and simple
You were being kind
If she didn’t want them she should have offered them back to you or asked what you wanted done with them.

Rude
No doubt you won’t be giving her anything else so she’s burnt that bridge

How did you find out btw?

It's cheeky.

I've brought new, Sr ond hand and been gifted. I will sell on what I've brought, and I'll ask if the gifted want it retirned
If not I'll donate it to a charity. Inc a moses basket I was given. I'll sell mine but donate hers unless she wants it back because it feels wrong to financially benefit from her kindness

I agree with you OP. She shouldn't be profiting from your kindness. I gave a friend some lovely Joules dress that my DD had hardly worn. She later sold them on FB. I now sell things myself or donate to charity rather than giving them to friends!

You gave them to her. I have given loads of my daughter’s clothes away to friends and if they sell them when they are done then fair play to them, I don’t have time to list the clothes on selling sites etc so if someone else wants to then that’s fine by me.

It is cheeky

If someone has benefitted from kindness and generosity, the moral thing to do is ‘ pay it forward’. Unfortunately some people are too self centred. I’d not gift to that person in future.

Maybe she needs the money more than you?

Wouldn't bother me in the slightest.

Did she really want them though?
I’ve had people trying to give me stuff for my baby before it’s even born and I’ve politely declined saying no thank you but they’ve still tried to palm it off on me. So I would take it to charity without any guilt.
So I think if you gave it away it’s tough tits what the next person does with it.

Did you want them back? Has she already used them & her baby as out grown them? Maybe this is how she chooses to pass them on to someone else. Or maybe she needs the money.

Of course she can do whatever she likes with them but I think morally it’s dubious.

YANBU

I get where you're coming from. My friends and I share our maternity wear/baby products around, between us and send them back when the next person is pregnant. It works well for us as we share and share alike and don't take the piss. If something wears out, we replace it.

Depends. Did she use them and then sell them when baby had grown out of them, or just sell them without using them. If its the latter it's not on, she should have just said I don't need/want them.

YANBU. I get loads of really good hand me downs and every so often I have thought about selling them but at the end of the day I got given them for free so I don't think that's right. I charity shop instead as that's what my friend does with the clothes I don't want.