To get some Botox because I need a lift and not tell DH?

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Tough 12 months.
3 failed rounds of IVF.
Constant abuse and bullying from DSS's mum.
Was headhunted for a new role, 30k lift in pay but dear god I'm working for it.
I train 5/6 days per week and commute 2 hrs a day.
I'm late 30's.
Have a Botox appointment at the weekend. Sick of looking shattered.
I've had it before - but stopped during the IVF and never told DH. He is mad against it.
AIBU to say stuff it and get it done as a pre Christmas pick me up?!
HELP

Why is he against it? Your body your choice.

If you have the money, do it.

He doesn't think you can have it and look
'Normal' but he had no idea last time. But this time he knows I have an appointment and keeps asking what I'm having done !

Do it. Your body your choice.
It doesn't affect your husband.

Is he not likely to notice? Anyway, your body, your money, your choice.

Do whatever you wish but I’d also be looking at finding ways to care for yourself better. Beautiful facials, a massage, time to yourself, meditation? Your life sounds as if you are living off adrenaline and no amount of Botox will fix your inner sense of loss and exhaustion.

Give yourself a gift of self care.

Won't he notice whether you tell him or not?

Your body, your money, your choice.

Go ahead if it makes you happy but don’t tell him.

Last time I did it durning work hours. He honestly had no idea.
But I've managed to get a cancellation with an amazing dr. However need to pick DH up after the appointment.....

Yes people rarely notice, he might think you look more refreshed. Tbf it is your body so not his choice.
Enjoy.

Just get it you don't need him to like everything you do he probably wouldnt notice, it will be the over botoxed look he is on about which imo looks odd.

Does your face go red with the injections he might notice that?

If he wouldn’t notice is it noticeable?

Just say you got a facial or something if your face is red and you don't want an argument. Not that it's any of his business.

Tell him you are getting a facial treatment - which you are. Your face so your decision.

I don't recall being red. I went back to work after last time.

If you need him to pick you up how will you get away with not telling him?

"He is mad against it."

So he is entitled not to use it himself

Unless there is a dripfeed that this is from joint money intended for bills etc, your Botox does not affect him
Even if your face goes red for a few days, how is this harming him ?

Tell him you e had dermal roller done if you really don’t want to be honest

I would never lie, not worth the stress
and why should you feel the need to do so

Just say "my bod, my business" and tell him to stop being so controlling

I felt awful last weekend and booked it on impulse after I got a tip from my friend. Planned it a night the car was free, planned to hide it under the guise of late night shopping. However his plans for football moved. So I had to tell
Him I needed the car for a Beauty appointment. Now the questions ..... lol
No 'family money' we both have our own 'pocket money' spend as you wish. No access to these accounts.

Tell him its that dermaroling thing a pp was on about try and not work yourself up about it you are entitled to have it done without "the lecture"

Just tell him you're having a deep facial treatment - if he's anything like my DH, he wouldn't ask anything else.

I think sorting your life out and coping with your disappointments won't be sorted by botox, it won't help at all.

Why do you want to do something your husband wouldn't like? Doesn't his opinion count, it's he who has to look at your fizzog.

Was thinking something like that ! Will report back