To get some Botox because I need a lift and not tell DH?

[Helpordont]

Tough 12 months.
3 failed rounds of IVF.
Constant abuse and bullying from DSS's mum.
Was headhunted for a new role, 30k lift in pay but dear god I'm working for it.
I train 5/6 days per week and commute 2 hrs a day.
I'm late 30's.
Have a Botox appointment at the weekend. Sick of looking shattered.
I've had it before - but stopped during the IVF and never told DH. He is mad against it.
AIBU to say stuff it and get it done as a pre Christmas pick me up?!
HELP

"Why do you want to do something your husband wouldn't like?"

because it's her body; he doesn't own it

The OP is entitled to do something with her own money that makes her feel better and does not inconvenience him

It's concerning you feel you have to hide something from your DH that you are completely entitled to enjoy

Is he controlling in other ways, or just this one thing ?

@Drabarni
Oh lovely here comes the judgement.
Yes I am fully aware my life is a mess. Botox won't fix it. But at least I'll look less shit in my companies press release, in pictures over Christmas with my darling husband. Which in turn will help my self esteem and so on and so forth.

Why not? Tell him you're going for an exfoliating facial, that'll excuse any dots.

I think it's really sad that everyone's encouraging you to hide it from him.
Just be honest and if he doesn't like it, tough, but there's no need to lie.

Tbf on the Op her husband just sounds like he moans about botox and the op just doesn't want to have a discussion about it.

But botox only makes you look like you've had botox 🤷‍♀️ It's like lip fillers. It's obvious to those looking at your face for long enough and it just looks shit.

If it makes you feel better, go for it. But christ, it is quite literally rat poison and you're injecting it in to your skin. When you want a baby? Fucks sake 😳

I say do it. I've had a shit time lately, and had my regular botox done at the beginning of the month. No redness, no marks, done subtly … no one knows and I look like a well-rested version of myself. So things around me still aren't perfect, but I look in the mirror and don't look like the knackered old mess I used to feel. It's made me happier.

Do it. I would if I could find a practitioner I could trust.

DH thinks all Botox looks shit. But he thinks all Botox looks like Katie Price. I cannot be bothered with the argument right now. I'm surprised I'm still standing after the 12 months I've had. All I want is to look a little better. That would be the 3% improvement I need right now.

It is medical botox the Op is getting not the bloody plague jeez

Your choice 100% if you can afford it BUT I can't stand lying and I would honestly have to rethink the future with you if I caught you out so on that note I would tell him

Been in your shoes re the ivf, so sorry things have not worked out so far. You need a boost as I know your confidence and moral will be shot right now. If Botox will give you a lift then do it. Your husband didn’t mind you injecting yourself full of hormones so why should be mind this. Your face so go for it

Go and have the Botox. It sounds like you’ve had a hellish time and you need to do something for you, for your well-being.Just tell him you’re having a dermeroll treatment, that way you are covering any redness. If he didn’t notice the last time, than why would he notice now. Go for it.

It's your choice. However, I'm not sure botox is really what you need. It's a quick elastoplast fix for an ongoing issue.

Your lifestyle sounds exhausting. You look exhausted because you are exhausted. Botox isn't going to change that.

Obviously, it's absolutely your choice but do you really need or want the workload that goes with a £30k pay rise? That sounds like a huge jump in work although obviously the extra money must be fabulous. Do you need to train quite so often? It sounds to me that what you probably need to look and feel better is less stress and more rest.

'I had Botox, die mad about it' should suffice really

@Helpordont It is a long time since I had botox.
I use to love a fresh faced look, treat yourself to a nice face treatment non chemical facial the week before, I felt amazing, the botox helps the lines the face treatment rejuvenates the cheeks and chin area.
You've had a hard time, I am sorry for your struggles.
Enjoy your treatments.

My husband is Excatly the same. I say go for it

Go for it! I have Botox now and it works a treat. I wish I had had it done when my ghastly husband was alive and had something which worked for my morale.

I’m about to do the same thing (the appointment is next week actually, it’s my first time!) My DH isn’t dead against it but I know he’d probably take the piss and let slip to my DM, whose disapproval I really can’t be arsed with right now.

Bloody go for it. Sod the opinions of others, if feel better for it then do it!

I had mine done a few times and got a bad bruise once so just watch out for it happening and have an excuse! I don't think it's a problem doing it and not telling him, go for it!

I'm definitely doing it. Yes move is tough. But now a baby isn't looking likely I need to stop putting stuff on hold, focus on developing my career. Plus the extra $$ is useful for further rounds down the track.
Can't wait to look a little less shit ! Lol

Good for you OP. None of his business. My DP has made similar comments in the past re Botox always looking bad and it just shows he doesn't have a clue what he's talking about.

Go and have it done and make yourself feel better. I’m getting mine done at the weekend. I have it really subtly and I bloody love it!! Can you fit a wax in during work hours and then tell your DP that’s what your appt is for?