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To not want colleague to copy me

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chocolatesaltyballs22 · 27/11/2019 10:36

Husband recently bought me a pair of lovely unusual earrings for my birthday. Think designer, not high street. My work colleague was admiring them yesterday and asked me to drop a hint to her husband so that he could buy her the same ones for Christmas. AIBU in not wanting her to copy? We socialise a lot together outside of work with clients, so there's a good chance we'd be wearing them at the same time. I think I might have to simply forget to mention it to him.

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TheReluctantCountess · 27/11/2019 10:38

Yeah just don’t mention it to him.

Gallivespian · 27/11/2019 10:41

Just keep forgetting. Also, how horrifically coy of her to want someone she works with to drop hints to her spouse about a Christmas present.

But better for you, as if she'd simply asked which designer, then she'd have all the information needed to acquire an identical pair.

justilou1 · 27/11/2019 10:45

Tell her they’re bespoke and you can’t get another pair. Also warn DH because you know she’s going to put him on the spot too.

justilou1 · 27/11/2019 10:46

Or maybe he bought them overseas

chocolatesaltyballs22 · 27/11/2019 11:24

Thanks all. Think I'm just going to 'forget' to mention it. I wouldn't mind if she asked me for the name of the designer so that she could get something similar, but to want exactly the same earrings?! Nah.

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User342109097569098 · 27/11/2019 11:39

Maybe mention it before maths class.. I assume you are 14?

PurpleDaisies · 27/11/2019 11:42

This seems so childish. I doubt she’ll wear them when you are.

shearwater · 27/11/2019 11:46

YANBU. "Oh, turns out he had them made bespoke, sorry."

OneDay10 · 27/11/2019 11:50

Maybe mention it before maths class.. I assume you are 14?

I thought the same or much younger.

wah wah wah mummy shes copying me.

theEnglishInPatient · 27/11/2019 12:06

oh yawn, the thread police has arrived, feeling all so superior to the OP. Boring.

LagunaBubbles · 27/11/2019 12:08

Maybe mention it before maths class.. I assume you are 14?

Rude and uncalled for.

HappyHammy · 27/11/2019 12:11

if they are nice I would be flattered that someone else liked them and wanted the same.

chocolatesaltyballs22 · 27/11/2019 12:31

If you haven't got anything nice to say, don't say anything at all Smile

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Crunchymum · 27/11/2019 12:34

You and your DH hang out with your work colleague and her DH?


Velveteenfruitbowl · 27/11/2019 12:39

People often ask me when I get x of y from with the intention of buying the same. Never occurred to me to try t stop them. If not having someone else where the same matters so much maybe get everything made bespoke?

chocolatesaltyballs22 · 27/11/2019 12:39 and my work colleague have to do social stuff together. Entertaining clients.

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Ebonyandivory2 · 27/11/2019 13:10

Well you saying you’re going to make sure she doesn’t get the earrings isn’t nice either so .... it’s also very childish. They’re just earrings, grow up

churchandstate · 27/11/2019 13:13

I’d just tell her. It wouldn’t bother me in the slightest.

Josette77 · 27/11/2019 13:20

This wouldn't bother me. My best friend copies a lot of my home decor. I'm flattered.

QueenoftheBiscuitTin · 27/11/2019 13:21

How dare she want the same earrings as you. The horror.

Majorcollywobble · 27/11/2019 13:24

Cheeky mare . One thing to copy home decor ideas @Josette77 but a pair of earrings thoughtfully chose by her husband?
She perhaps has designs on the husband too ? Hmm

SinglePringle · 27/11/2019 13:37

Why earth is liking someone’s earrings to the extent of wanting a pair equal to having designs on someone’s husband Confused?

MangoFeverDream · 27/11/2019 13:47

YABU I ask coworkers all the time where they bought their clothes/shoes/jewellery all the time. I’d be really annoyed if they wouldn’t say because they didn’t want me to ‘copy’ them. fgs we all have so much stuff that a pair of earrings is not remotely “copying”

chocolatesaltyballs22 · 27/11/2019 13:51

Is it really that unreasonable to want to keep something which is fairly unique to myself?!

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Endspeciesism · 27/11/2019 13:58

Why do you care?

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