To not want colleague to copy me

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Husband recently bought me a pair of lovely unusual earrings for my birthday. Think designer, not high street. My work colleague was admiring them yesterday and asked me to drop a hint to her husband so that he could buy her the same ones for Christmas. AIBU in not wanting her to copy? We socialise a lot together outside of work with clients, so there's a good chance we'd be wearing them at the same time. I think I might have to simply forget to mention it to him.

Yeah just don’t mention it to him.

Just keep forgetting. Also, how horrifically coy of her to want someone she works with to drop hints to her spouse about a Christmas present.

But better for you, as if she'd simply asked which designer, then she'd have all the information needed to acquire an identical pair.

Tell her they’re bespoke and you can’t get another pair. Also warn DH because you know she’s going to put him on the spot too.

Or maybe he bought them overseas

Thanks all. Think I'm just going to 'forget' to mention it. I wouldn't mind if she asked me for the name of the designer so that she could get something similar, but to want exactly the same earrings?! Nah.

Maybe mention it before maths class.. I assume you are 14?

This seems so childish. I doubt she’ll wear them when you are.

YANBU. "Oh, turns out he had them made bespoke, sorry."

Maybe mention it before maths class.. I assume you are 14?

I thought the same or much younger.

wah wah wah mummy shes copying me.

oh yawn, the thread police has arrived, feeling all so superior to the OP. Boring.

Maybe mention it before maths class.. I assume you are 14?

Rude and uncalled for.

if they are nice I would be flattered that someone else liked them and wanted the same.

If you haven't got anything nice to say, don't say anything at all

You and your DH hang out with your work colleague and her DH?

People often ask me when I get x of y from with the intention of buying the same. Never occurred to me to try t stop them. If not having someone else where the same matters so much maybe get everything made bespoke?

No....me and my work colleague have to do social stuff together. Entertaining clients.

Well you saying you’re going to make sure she doesn’t get the earrings isn’t nice either so .... it’s also very childish. They’re just earrings, grow up

I’d just tell her. It wouldn’t bother me in the slightest.

This wouldn't bother me. My best friend copies a lot of my home decor. I'm flattered.

How dare she want the same earrings as you. The horror.

Cheeky mare . One thing to copy home decor ideas @Josette77 but a pair of earrings thoughtfully chose by her husband?
She perhaps has designs on the husband too ?

Why earth is liking someone’s earrings to the extent of wanting a pair equal to having designs on someone’s husband ?

YABU I ask coworkers all the time where they bought their clothes/shoes/jewellery all the time. I’d be really annoyed if they wouldn’t say because they didn’t want me to ‘copy’ them. fgs we all have so much stuff that a pair of earrings is not remotely “copying”

Is it really that unreasonable to want to keep something which is fairly unique to myself?!

Why do you care?