To not want colleague to copy me

[chocolatesaltyballs22]

Husband recently bought me a pair of lovely unusual earrings for my birthday. Think designer, not high street. My work colleague was admiring them yesterday and asked me to drop a hint to her husband so that he could buy her the same ones for Christmas. AIBU in not wanting her to copy? We socialise a lot together outside of work with clients, so there's a good chance we'd be wearing them at the same time. I think I might have to simply forget to mention it to him.

Erm because if I own a fairly unique piece of jewellery I'd rather be the only one wearing it while I'm out? But f*ck me I'm cleary being precious

It’s not a unique piece of jewellery.

Sorry, you did say fairly unique. Well, it’s up to you, OP. Wouldn’t care myself.

But fck me I'm cleary being precious*

Yeah, you are. Glad u get it now

But seriously, would telling her the brand be all that bad? I’m sure they have a nice line of jewellery so it isn’t necessarily so that she’d buy the exact same (not that it matters)

Why would it bother you?

Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery.

Yes you are being very precious.

Of course you are not being precious chocolatesaltyballs22

You've made a mistake, you said it was a present from a MAN and your HUSBAND - nothing to irate some posters more. You should have said it was a present from your mum.

People can't genuinely believe a nice piece of jewellery is the same as shopping in the same store
Don't tell your colleague, she is being ridiculous. She must have terribly low self esteem if she needs to buy the same item you are wearing, who does that.

the day you finally remember, give her the name of another designer

Sorry - so he got it custom made or something? Because you say it’s a unique piece of jewellery I assumed so. Does it coat a lot? Perhaps she won’t be able to buy it if it costs thousands of thousands?

Your DH gave you a mass produced present, hundreds of people have the same. I’m not seeing the issue really

You don’t own a unique product. The woman likes the earrings so why can’t she have a pair too?? Weird

When someone wanted to know where I got my very good [insert item] and I didn’t want them to know (for good reason) I told them a different brand and store. You could drop her DH a hint but say a different store.

I must admit that I genuinely don't understand why people get uptight about people copying them, unless it is all the time and verging on stalking behaviour.

In the case of earrings no-one is going to notice unless the two women are sat next to each other, and even then I bet most people wouldn't notice unless the design was really "out there"

You've made a mistake, you said it was a present from a MAN and your HUSBAND - nothing to irate some posters more. You should have said it was a present from your mum. Er, what now? Why on earth would you think that the fact that it was a gift from a man and the OP's husband (really no need to shout those words) would influence replies?

She must have terribly low self esteem if she needs to buy the same item you are wearing, who does that Perhaps people who see the item and like it? Why would it matter if a colleague had the same piece of jewellery as you?

Perhaps she won’t be able to buy it if it costs thousands of thousands?

good idea, tell her they are limited edition De Grisogono earrings, she can splash on her pair for herself if she wants

It's not flattering to be copied, it's cringey and irritating. WHO wants to buy the exact same anything than a colleague or a friend? Rather pathetic.

Is anyone else intrigued by the earrings? I want to see what makes them 'fairly unique'...surely they're either unique or they're not?

And no, I won't be copying them. I can't even afford earrings from Claire's Accessories!

Be honest tell her the designers name and that you prefer it if she chose something different as you like them being unique but that your sure she can find something different but equally lovely. That way even if she buys the sale she will hopefully be careful not to wear them when you're around !

Really curious as to what they look like now 😂

"It's not flattering to be copied"

I disagree. I bought a skirt recently that I admired on my boss. I said that I had been looking for a skirt like the one she was wearing. She looked online and told mw when they had come back into stock. We both style them differently, and neither of us have turned up at work wearing it at the same time.

"it's cringey and irritating."

No, it isn't. It really isn't (to me anyway)

it's just weird, it would put most people off wearing the item again.

It's no big deal if someone buy a similar cheap item from Next or other, it's hardly noticeable and we all end up buying the same clothes, but copying a special birthday or wedding gift, that's just rude.

WHY would anyone want to wear the same jewellery anyway?

I’m not sure that anyone will notice that two people are wearing the same earrings?

I'm normally in the 'take it as a compliment' camp. But, earrings, jewellery in general, is often expensive, so it tends to get worn more often. Its not the same as interior decor or a skirt

WHY would anyone want to wear the same jewellery anyway? Because they like it? I really can't understand why you even need to ask that question.

My sister and BIL had the same reading at the end of their wedding as DH and I had at ours. I could have got all silly and shrieked "why are you copying me". But it really didn't matter. DH and I picked a reading that was very special to us, sister and BIL loved it, so also incorporated it into their wedding. I thought that it was lovely tbh. What's wrong with a bit of sharing?

Don't mention it again and if they do, say you don't know the designer.

Are they Really Unusual?