to be a bit miffed about this?

[RagamuffinAndFidget]

This is such a first world problem but it's annoyed me a bit and I'd like to know if IABU..

A friend and I went shopping the other day and we went into an expensive designer shop where I spotted a coat that I really really loved. I would never normally spend that much money on anything but I've had a terrible few months and I said to her that I was considering buying it for myself. I didn't want to completely impulse buy though so I tried it on to see how it looked, with the idea of then waiting until I got home and ordering it online if I still wanted it.

While I was trying it on, my friend was also looking round the shop and when I said I was ready to go she said she wanted to buy something.

She bought 'my' coat!

AIBU to think that this is a bit mean? She knows how hard things have been, and she knew that I was seriously thinking about buying it, and she just bought it for herself! We spend a lot of time together so it will look really odd if I buy the same one now.

Yeah, that's spiteful

Unless she bought it in your size, for you as a present then that really is particularly weird and not something a friend would do.

You might have chosen not to buy it though? What a stupid thing to be annoyed by.

Do we have a coat troll now? I remember a charity shop coat issue the exact same not so long ago.

Did she think you had decided against buying it as you didn't buy it in the shop?

She didn't buy it in my size, and she put it on as soon as we left the shop so it's definitely not a sneaky present!

I just feel a bit sad about it. I know there are far worse things going on (most of them have happened to me this year!) but it's just upset me that she's done this.

I had explained to her that I was going to think about it and probably order when I got home. I am not very well off (although have enough for this treat) so it's hard for me to just spend a large sum of money like that. She knew this and then bought the same coat anyway.

Absolutely none issue, just buy the coat!

Killjoys I'm not a coat troll (how dull!) I promise. Have been here for years and would definitely have started a far more interesting troll thread if that was my thing

Maybe she just liked the way it looked on you and wanted one for herself.

But it anyway

Don't see a problem, you didn' t buy it but she did. This is a bit like those silly baby name threads where you are 'not' allowed' to use the same name.

Buy even!

I would be upset too shes taken the excitement out of it for you. It's not going to be special anymore for you. I dont understand why people are like this.
I showed my friend some dresses I had looked at for a christmas party and she proceeded to go online and she if they had one in her size!

Yeah, she's ridiculous. Order it anyway.

Can't you just buy it for yourself anyway? If you like it, and fancy treating yourself it's not a problem.
Your friend was a little insensitive though, in the circumstances.

mrsmoppp That's it really, she's just taken the excitement away. I never (and I mean never) treat myself like that, and now it just feels a bit... meh.

Possibly a bit childish but there we go.

This is truly incredible...

I would definitely buy it. Why should she have it and not you?

It must be a really nice coat. I think you should find a nicer one.

Countess would you believe me if I said it was the most beautiful coat in the world and I'll never find a better one?

I often end up with the same or similar items as friends, this wouldn’t have bothered me at all. You didn’t buy the coat so she did.

It's not even about the coat really - I know I could still buy it, and I might even still do so, but it just feels like she's taken the shine off it a bit. She could have bought anything else, rather than the exact one she knew I loved.

If it's at all relevant - she is a high-earner and therefore able to treat herself to expensive things often. This was a complete one-off for me.

buy it and just never ever meet up with her again.

We need to see the coat

buy it and just never ever meet up with her again.

Haha! That would definitely work...