to be a bit miffed about this?

[RagamuffinAndFidget]

This is such a first world problem but it's annoyed me a bit and I'd like to know if IABU..

A friend and I went shopping the other day and we went into an expensive designer shop where I spotted a coat that I really really loved. I would never normally spend that much money on anything but I've had a terrible few months and I said to her that I was considering buying it for myself. I didn't want to completely impulse buy though so I tried it on to see how it looked, with the idea of then waiting until I got home and ordering it online if I still wanted it.

While I was trying it on, my friend was also looking round the shop and when I said I was ready to go she said she wanted to buy something.

She bought 'my' coat!

AIBU to think that this is a bit mean? She knows how hard things have been, and she knew that I was seriously thinking about buying it, and she just bought it for herself! We spend a lot of time together so it will look really odd if I buy the same one now.

Oh ffs - just saw it’s a zombie.

Oh ffs! Sorry, I commented on this but it appeared as a live thread?

Sorry again

The coat is soooooooooo last year

Bet it's on ebay now anyway!

You can still buy it though?

I so get it, OP. My mother is like this. I’m not a great shopper, never have been. I find it tedious and tiresome trying things on. I also have issues with how I look (possibly BDD) so it makes it tough going mentally. Every time I’d go clothes shopping with my mother when I was younger she would either say everything looked awful on me, or she would wait until it was obviously I finally found something I loved and she would decide that she then loved it too - for her. And would then buy it. For her. She’s forty years older than I am. She never once then wondered or asked why I didn’t go ahead with the purchase.

More recently, I was with her on a day trip out with some other relatives too, and my DH. We found this quirky jewellery shop that had literally thousands of items all over the place. I’d been looking for some green studs for absolutely ages and this was the perfect opportunity to get some. Browsed everything for ages, and finally found the pair. Bought them. Mother came over as I was buying them, asked the shop keeper for the exact same pair, then got in a huge huff because there was no second pair. She ended up buying the closest pair in colour, just a different shape. That was the first time my DH had seen her in action with his own eyes and he finally believed me that she pulled this shit all the time.

My conclusion? Your so-called friend is a horrible person. I’d call her on it. And if she doesn’t stop then I’d walk away from the friendship.