To wear jeans to a christening?

[Greedytiger]

I am breastfeeding so can’t wear any of my usual dresses. Can I wear black jeans and a smart ish jumper?

I personally would see if you could wear one of the summery skirts maybe with some black tights ? This would look better than jeans IMO and you may feel uncomfortable if everyone is all dolled up ! I think that would look good .

The previous vicar at my church regularly wore jeans. Including when he did an adult baptism in a pool which he stood in wearing his jeans and trainers.

Absolutely appropriate so long as your outfit overall is smart enough for the occasion. People wear jeans in church all the time, it really isnt a big deal

I hate seeing jeans worn in church, even though they are a regular sight at my own church!

I was livid when my brother wore jeans to my daughters christening!

I wore (white) jeans to my own baby's christening.

I was livid when my brother wore jeans to my daughters christening!

Really? It mattered that much what he was wearing rather than him being part of the day and involved? I find that really sad.

Jeans are not appropriate sorry and I love jeans

Both of our vicars regularly wear jeans for the Sunday services (CofE). The baptism service forms part of the normal Sunday service and the congregation just wear normal, everyday clothes, no one really dresses up. As others have said, it's the families who are dressed up to the nines who look out of place.

Absolutely not.

It’s a sacrament and a meaningful day. Wearing jeans is inappropriate and I’ve never seen anyone wear jeans to a christening

H&M is bristling with midi skirts right now.

Of course it it. The whole point of a christening is to welcome the baby into the faith. It’s not about the clothes, party or social media presence.

Depends on the crowd.
I've been to christening and weddings, hey even funerals with a totally relaxed 'wear what you want' clothing.
But also to others where it would be seen as totally disrespectable to wear Jean's etc... you will just have take a chance at what the dress code is.

As others have said, it's the families who are dressed up to the nines who look out of place.

It does look a bit when people are in up-do's, fascinators and Coast satin dresses, but the OP isn't asking should she go in a sack or floor length Dior. She's asking if JEANS are okay (from which it kind of seems like she already knows they're not).

Why are people going on about social media? It's never been appropriate to wear jeans to a christening. It's nothing to do with social media or photos. It's about respect for the occasion. I've been to about 20 baptisms in the last 20 years and only once did someone wear jeans. They were notably under-dressed compared to everyone else.

Going to a regular church service is not the same as going to a christening, I'd have assumed anyone who was a regular church goer would know this.

Are you a regular church goer? Jeans are totally normal at our church when baptisms and thanksgiving services happen.

I think that most of the people adamant that jeans aren’t appropriate are only on church for weddings, christenings and funerals.

It's never been appropriate to wear jeans to a christening.

So all the people saying it’s fine in their church are lying?

Of course it it. The whole point of a christening is to welcome the baby into the faith. It’s not about the clothes, party or social media presence

Can I wear jeans to a wedding then? The point of a wedding is to celebrate a couple committing their lives to one another. It’s not about the clothes or social media presence.

Can I wear jeans to a wedding then?

Of course you can. Someone asked me if it was ok to wear jeans and a smart jacket to my (very traditional, church) wedding. I thought it was nice they asked but unnecessary to have done so. My answer was that of course it was fine. Presence trumps attire

I think it will be fine as long as you look like you've made an effort. You will be upstaged by your baby anyway!

might be tacky if they have stategic rips from knee to thigh :)

It’s a sacrament and a meaningful day. Wearing jeans is inappropriate and I’ve never seen anyone wear jeans to a christening

Well, I have - loads. It's not about what anyone wears. Personally - I would be cringing a bit if people turned up in dresses more suited to a wedding, and fascinators.

I wore dark blue Jean's and nice top and blazer and nice shoes, others had Jeans on, those super dressed up looked a tad odd these days

I was a family guest at a Christening where the Godmother wore knee length black leggings so smart black jeans would have been a huge improvement on that but I still think jeans are wrong in a Church. She was late too which didn't endear me to her.

No, far too casual

personally - I would be cringing a bit if people turned up in dresses more suited to a wedding, and fascinators
That wasn’t the OP’s question though. The question wasn’t either fascinators and dresses or jeans. You can think jeans are too informal whilst also thinking fascinators and that might be a bit much- there is a middle ground

I still am trying to get my head around the posters on this thread who keep saying "No - far too casual".

How do you know this? If OP wears black jeans (which presumably aren't faded or ripped etc, so are essentially black trousers made from a thicker material) and a smart top, with a coat or jumper and whatever else she needs....

... surely she will be almost indistinguishable from a lady who also comes, who is wearing dark trousers and a top?

I honestly think a lot of the "no - completely wrong" folk are enjoying telling someone else off.

You don't know the church, you don't know her crowd, you're just applying arcane or personal rules to a situation