To wear jeans to a christening?

[Greedytiger]

I am breastfeeding so can’t wear any of my usual dresses. Can I wear black jeans and a smart ish jumper?

My friend's husband wore jeans so his own son's christening with a shirt. He's now a vicar so I don't think the choice of trousers he wore affected his intentions on the Christening day.

Only you know what the other guests are likely to wear. For some family groups and friends, jeans might be fine. In other families everyone will want to dress smartly.

I've not been to a Christening where anyone wore jeans. I'm not posh, nor have the people been whose ceremonies I went to. But everyone made an effort. I'm barely ever out of jeans, but I put my only nice dress on for Christenings.

No not jeans

It's absolutely fine.

You’ll be fine in black jeans x

Don’t wear jeans

I wore smart black jeans to last few christenings. With smart top and smart coat. Ankle boots under not trainers.
It's fine. It's also cold in churches!

I’m surprised so many people with sticks up their arses were available to post on a Sunday morning.

Tidy black jeans are fine. If you’re taking the baby you could go in a bin bag and it’s unlikely anyone’s would notice what you were wearing anyway ‍🤷🏻‍♀️

Of course.

It's the people that get over-dressed that stick out a mile.

Regular church goer here. We do christenings in our normal family services. Jeans are absolutely fine and no one would even notice at our church. I regularly wear jeans to church and, to be honest, it's the people who turn up dressed to the nines that stand out. God absolutely doesn't care.

I'd regard jeans as too casual for what is a special occasion.

You've been invited to share a special moment so it's appropriate that you dress to reflect that you also regard it as something special. Wearing jeans would make me think that you don't really attached any importance to the event and you can't be bothered to make an effort.

Trousers and a top is absolutely fine but not jeans or jogging bottoms.

One of our guests wore jeans to DD's Christening. I didn't say anything to him but 8 years later I still remember it and regard it as rude. He's a friend of DH that we both regard as a bit of a harmless idiot. Nothing he does ever changes my view.

You've been invited to share a special moment so it's appropriate that you dress to reflect that you also regard it as something special. Wearing jeans would make me think that you don't really attached any importance to the event and you can't be bothered to make an effort

I agree with this. It’s a sacrament and a meaningful day. Wearing jeans is inappropriate and I’ve never seen anyone wear jeans to a christening

I think black jeans are fine - hard to tell the difference between those and trousers s you look really closely.

Blue ripped jeans would be different

No no no, men or women!

The people saying it's better to not go than wear jeans. Just . Completely missing the point of attending church or being invited to share in an important sacrament.

No, think wedding, or at least business attire

@Greedytiger absolutely fine enjoy the christening

I would not judge a friend or family member who was a new mother and breastfeeding and maybe not feeling confident about pre-pregnancy clothes who did this. I honestly can't imagine caring. If you can accessorise well, as an early poster said, I think you will feel more comfortable. Frankly, the pare ts may care more about you quietly exiting if the baby makes a fuss during the actual service, than what you are wearing. I cannot imagine having nothing better to think about on the day than your jeans, if I were organising it. Fuckers tutting from the sidelines- as I get older I am also getting bolder about not giving a shit.

Black jeans fine

Lots of people wear jeans to church. I wouldn't if I was a parent or godparent of the child being christened. Otherwise, fine.

Of course you can. Smart jeans are fine.

And what Wuthering Tights said. As Nanny Blor might say :"No one will be looking at you." Anyone not attending a christening because they dont have the right outfit has crossed a line into the self-absorbed.

Also worth saying that I wouldn't expect all the regular church worshippers at the church to dress up at a christening.

I suspect the issue is more about the party after than the actual church service.

It’s a sacrament and a meaningful day
Which is exactly why your presence and involvement is much more important that what you are wearing

I’m surprised so many people with sticks up their arses were available to post on a Sunday morning
I'm not. I suspect most of those saying jeans are fine are the regular church goers like me

I've no idea what anyone wore to either of my DC's baptisms because it is utterly unimportant. People be there to celebrate with us and welcome the children was what mattered.