To wear jeans to a christening?

[Greedytiger]

I am breastfeeding so can’t wear any of my usual dresses. Can I wear black jeans and a smart ish jumper?

There was a christening in our family not too long ago. A lady turned up in jeans and I personally think she really stood out. I'm pretty easy going,l normally, but it really felt she hadn't made any effort and almost like she was in contempt of the ceremony.

Sorry!

It’s a sacrament, I wouldn’t think jeans were appropriate.

I've been to a dozen Christenings this year, in a variety of churches - there have been jeans at one of those only: three blokes, last week.

If you don't know the church, I personally wouldn't, but only because it makes me anxious if I feel I've misjudged an expectation. But that's my problem. If you are one of the lucky ones who doesn't give a shit about whether people you don't know form an erroneous opinion of you, crack on. By and large, formal dressing for church is considered old-fashioned by most of the C of E. Pentecostal, you'd stand out like a sore thumb. Methodists/Baptists/Unitarians, plus most charismatics, really don't have a jeans issue.

Or- ask the parents what type of church it is (if Google doesn't help).

Jeans ok imo. Double denim maybe a bit much.

I wouldn't. Male or female. I don't consider jeans "smart" and christenings require smartening up imo

Never seen jeans at a baptism. I think you might stick out and feel a bit uncomfortable.

@Greedytiger You shoulda done a poll.

I would vote YABU. I would never wear Jeans to a Christening.

**mrsbyers

I think it’s hideous when people dress up to the nines in full evening make up , hats , fascinators etc for a christening - usually just for social media**

^Hideous? Or maybe people like to get dressed up for a special occasion

Smart jeans would've been fine at basically every christening I have been to in recent years. However me and mine are Catholic and not posh. I don't know if that makes a difference.

Definitely not ok to wear jeans! If cant put enough effort to dress appropriately then dont attend at all.

I wouldn’t wear jeans to a Christening.

I think smart jeans and a nice top or tunic would be fine.

I recently went to a baptism and confirmation service held by a bishop and some of the people being baptised wore jeans. I’m really don’t think God minds what you wear.

It depends what the guests are like. Generally people dress smartly for a christening. I've never seen anyone front uo in jeans and a jumper. I guess though if the other friends, family and parents are similar then it's ok.

If everyone is dressed smartly you might feel a bit like you stick out, but some folks don't care about that, I'm guessing you're not one as you're asking on here.

I personally would not wish to, it's no different to going to a funeral or wedding in jeans and a jumper, but if I really didn't have any other clothes then I'd do it if I wished to go.

I don't think it's "hideous" to wear a hat to a Christening, any more than it's hideous to do so for a funeral or a wedding: all are particularly "special" sacramental occasions, even when the Christening is carried out (as is normal for regular churchgoers, at least) as part of the morning service. I think if the party want to do so, in honour of the importance of the occasion, then that's fine .

It seems an odd thing to judge others for.

I wouldn’t

My brother was godfather to my youngest dS (who is now neary 17, so going back a few years). He turned up in blue jeans and a beanie hat Yes, he stood out a bit, but nobody had really told him to dress up a bit and he was quite young at the time. Was I bothered? No, because I invited him and wanted him to be DS's godfather, which was more important than what he was wearing during the ceremony.

There's nothing wrong with jeans. Some people just like to feel superior by inventing stupid "rules" to judge people for breaching.

Your conduct is more important.

I regularly wear a pair of grey jeans to church.

Wear the jeans.

Going to a regular church service is not the same as going to a christening, I'd have assumed anyone who was a regular church goer would know this.

No I wouldn’t wear jeans to a church. Sorry.

@misspiggy19 I agree.
I went to a close family members baptism recently and wore, what I considered to be, a very formal dress.
I was glad I did because everyone was dressed up.
There were no photos on social media.
I wouldn’t personally wear jeans, even black. It’s supposed to be a special occasion isn’t it?
I’ve found loads of feeding dresses on the secondhand selling sites and even found one in the H&M sale for £5, which I wore to a wedding.

Funeral or wedding I wouldn’t even consider wearing jeans.

I felt funny about them for a christening hence me asking. I’m struggling for alternatives but will raid the wardrobe and see what I can find. I know I have some black work trousers in there somewhere.

Depends on the church ime - and whether there's a buffet/party afterwards? I personally wouldn't at a church I don't know/if the family themselves are likely to be dressed up. Any chance of popping to a charity shop or two for a plian skirt that you could wear with existing top?