to want my DH to walk with me

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Just that really. We were walking back from a friends house last night and we are chatting, mid conversation, strolling home, with kids, everybody on the same side of the road when he’s off....across the road to the other side. Normally I’d follow him because we are mid convo and suddenly he’s leading the way. Then I realised that this happens all the time. When we are out, even on a date, he’s walking 4 paces in front of me. It’s like follow the leader. I’m a quick walker so I’m not a slow coach. I’m just struggling to understand why he does it. I’m finding it irritating. It feels a bit rude and it’s not exactly romantic/caring is it? I have said in the past about it but it’s not changing. I’d like others opinions please.

Is he from Saudi? Not sure husband leading is normal anywhere else. I live in Qatar and most locals hold hands

@PettyContractor I’m sorry, but this is bollocks. It might take some concentration to start with but you could train yourself to do it - you just can’t be bothered. Or can’t you do anything that needs concentration? I bet you could manage it if you were walking next to a female boss. Basically what you’re saying is that your wife isn’t important enough for you to do this.

this is bollocks. It might take some concentration to start with but you could train yourself to do it

If you have to train yourself to do something, that means you can't currently do it. So it's not bollocks to say you can't do it.

When DD was seven, she was capable of keeping up with me, so we would both leave DW behind. Do you think she should make no effort to walk faster? She's average height, perfectly healthy.

I guess her normal walking speed is about one third of mine. If I'm carrying anything heavy, walking at her speed means I have to hold it for three times as long.

It's not just the speed though, it's having someone to talk to as you walk.

XH used to walk ahead, leaving me behind with whichever of the children were youngest/slowest. As I spent all day, every day with the kids and he only saw them at weekends, it might have been nice to have him walk with me, even if it meant inconveniencing himself.

And XP - well the whole point of going out walking the dogs is to chat, isn't it? Apart from exercising the dogs, I mean. And he'd carry on talking to me, but from ten yards ahead and into a wind, i could never hear a word he said unless I trotted to catch up, whereupon he'd walk faster until he was ahead again.

It's rudeness, that's all. Inconsiderate rudeness.