How often do you sit in your bedroom?

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Our bedroom is the last room to be tackled in long house renovation (5 years).

I've lived with baby blue walls, some weird wooden trellis glued to the walls in place of coving, a disgusting makeup stained beige carpet and railings instead of a wardrobe.

But we finished it last week! Restored the wooden floors, new bed, F&B Elephants Breath on the wall, pictures, lamps, candles - the lot. It's so ridiculously cosy.

But now DH is getting funny with me because I want to sit up there and not in the living room. I had a bath earlier then just sat on my bed chilling and looking around the room and enjoying the peace. I'd like to do this more often, take a book and a glass of wine up there, if not, it just becomes a room we sleep in.

But DH came up looking for me to see if I was ok (to be fair, he'd made dinner and I didn't realise it was ready) and thinks it's odd to sit up there alone. For context, we have a three year old so the peace is welcomed!

So how often do you just 'sit' in your bedroom?

Like you I have recently redecorated my bedroom and purchased new furniture, changed layout and location of pictures as well as removing some. It now feels calm, soothing and relaxing with walls, curtains and furniture in white with a few muted blues for accents. l love to spend time there now, sometimes just sitting and admiring the new look, but also going there to relax and meditate or listen to podcasts.

Not often. It gets lovely sun in the later afternoon (well, on nice days, I don’t think anywhere got sun today!!) & even after a decade of living here it takes me by surprise just how lovely it is In there in the afternoons when it’s dull on the other side of the house (living room & kitchen). So if I’m home alone and it’s lovely in there I tend to stay for a bit

However, I don’t spend anytime in there when I’m not home alone as it feels very anti social and ‘teenage’ 🤷🏻‍♀️ The whole house is mine now, so I make it all space I want to be in, not like when you’re a teenager and that’s the only space that’s ‘yours’.

An Ex would slope off into his office (just to faff, not work!) and that would piss me right off because if he didn’t want to spend the evening together (totally fine) the least he could do was let me know so I could choose what to do with my evening rather than just be left in limbo

A few years ago I impulse bought a small vintage sofa with a curved back and carved swans on the arms, it was in an upholsterers and so I chose the final fabric and he delivered it from miles away. At the time my bedroom was a grim space, but the little sofa inspired me to fix it up . Now I love being in there, it is calm and restful, the little sofa sits in the bay window, gets the afternoon sun and is a lovely place for a quiet half an hours reading / people watching .

Often. Our bedroom is warmer, cosier and comfier than the lounge. I love it up here, and so does ddog.

Oh OP I just love this post of yours, I can't stop laughing, it is nice to read something lighthearted but real But now DH is getting funny with me because I want to sit up there and not in the living room oh Jesus, I am still laughing. Do you have a tv in the bedroom, you could stay up there longterm.

I love being in my room! So as much as possible! My husband works shifts so whenever he's on a late shift getting home around 11 I get the kids to bed then get in bed and chill watching tv. It's bliss.

I don't.

Teen DS shares a room with his young sister so our room is his "space" - complete with Lego models, pc and assorted belongings of his that he doesn't want her to get hold of - until 9pm by which time I want to get sorted for bed.

Loads. Relatively little flat so if DD is taking over the living room / I want some peace, my room is next door

With that said - although I don't sit in my room because it's not really an option If I could, I would spend most of my time up there!

I love sitting in my own company in my own space but unfortunately DS needs it now then I do right now.

Having your own space even for a few minutes is very therapeutic, on top of that I like to move say a dinning chair into the hall, on the landing, or out in the garden to get a different perspective on things. Your OH will get used to it, keep it up

I sit in mine loads! I love the afternoons when the sun streams in the huge bay window and I lie on the bed and pretend I'm sunbathing on the beach

What the fuck ovemary? That’s so wrong

Not often but enough that I'm vaguely keeping an eye out for a cosy chair. OH also likes to spend some time up there, it's a lovely way to tag team kid-wrangling and have some peace to read, daydream, or nap.

I don't spend any time in there unless I'm going to sleep 😬

Weirdly was thinking about this last
Night. I'm in there now and dh is downstairs. I often times sit on my bed and Mumsnet, read, look at the fields outside or watch tv. Generally if I'm on the phone I will sit on my bed and look at the views.

If dh is out a lot of the time I'll retreat to the my bedroom after a bath, light some candles, watch some tv or read in bed. I love it. Dh sometimes sneaks up to lie on bed chilling on phone or watching tv or whatever too. So I'd say it gets used quite a lot in our house.

I hate our bedroom at the moment, it always manages to feel cold and damp. It's OK if you're snuggled under the duvet but even that isn't particularly cosy, the sheets get wrinkled after we've slept on them one night and I can never be arsed to sort them out properly so it never feels nice and comfy. We can't drill into the stupidly solid walls so can't put any pictures up and all the walls are WHITE and the furniture doesn't match and it's always a tip.

We've got a new heater for it now so hoping the cold/damp problem will go away.

I take my dh to work in a morning and always sit back in the bedroom for a few hours, it’s warm , cosy and peaceful

Sorry to hear that BertieBotts. Our bedroom is a like a furnace in the summer months but ok in winter.

Have you tried brushed cotton sheets? I've already got the Christmas bedding oit. The duvet dover and fitted sheet etc are 100% cotton and feel very cosy.

Also could you use those adhesive strips to hang stuff up? Or are they rubbish?

@BertieBotts - an electric blanket is your friend. My bedroom doesn't get very warm as it's above nothing but my electric blanket makes getting into bed my favourite part of the day. It's a cheap one from Argos. Life-changing!
If the windows get condensation wipe them dry every morning or open them.

Dh and I both spend time alone in our bedroom, reading or on our phones. I wirk from home so often take a catnap in there durung thr afternoon. Also, Ds2 doesn't get a good Wi-Fi signal in his bedroom so we let him play ps4 in the lounge. While he's doing that in the evening, I tend to go for a long bath while DH is in the bedroom. We all reconvene later in the evening to watch some tv together though.
I think it's important that we all get some time to do what we want in the evenings, as growing up we all had to sit in the lounge and watch tv with my parents and I never really learnt to enjoy my own company, so I was a nightmare with FOMO at university!

And have you tried the angled picture hooks? They sometimes go into really hard walls.

The adhesive strips just fall down after a couple of days, it doesn't seem to matter which strength or what special type we buy.

Electric blanket is not suitable unfortunately as DS2 often comes into our bed every night (but also they scare me a bit )

Our walls are solid concrete which is brilliant for fire safety and soundproofing, but require a hammer drill to make holes in them.

It's not too bad. We do our own thing in the living room. I have also been and cleared out a box today off the back of this thread, hurrah!

Bertie Botts - for the damp you can also try those Unibond Aero 360 contraptions. I love them, sorted out damp at mine. You can get them at Robert Dyas, B&Q do a similar one, different make.

I'm laying on my bed reading right now. My bedroom is my sanctuary. I don't hide up here, but if I need quiet for a little while, I'll come up here.