How often do you sit in your bedroom?

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Our bedroom is the last room to be tackled in long house renovation (5 years).

I've lived with baby blue walls, some weird wooden trellis glued to the walls in place of coving, a disgusting makeup stained beige carpet and railings instead of a wardrobe.

But we finished it last week! Restored the wooden floors, new bed, F&B Elephants Breath on the wall, pictures, lamps, candles - the lot. It's so ridiculously cosy.

But now DH is getting funny with me because I want to sit up there and not in the living room. I had a bath earlier then just sat on my bed chilling and looking around the room and enjoying the peace. I'd like to do this more often, take a book and a glass of wine up there, if not, it just becomes a room we sleep in.

But DH came up looking for me to see if I was ok (to be fair, he'd made dinner and I didn't realise it was ready) and thinks it's odd to sit up there alone. For context, we have a three year old so the peace is welcomed!

So how often do you just 'sit' in your bedroom?

I go up to my room every evening to watch tv in there rather than downstairs! It’s just much comfier. I don’t get into bed, but it’s more relaxing and cosy. I live on my own with my son though and he’s in his room anyway so don’t really feel the need to sit downstairs.

Every eve when dh showers or if he's out. Because we've just moved into a house from flat and not used to weird noises in house and outside and triggers my anxiety being downstairs alone.

Considering our bedroom will be the last room done so is currently a disgusting building site with holes in the walls, I do still spend time in there. I like to sit on the bed and do laundry with a brew, watch a bit of crap TV or chill with a book and a glass of wine. I can't wait to have a beautiful room again but it still doesn't stop me spending time in there.

I like ending the day with time in my bedroom. The sun rises on one side and sets on the other. I do yoga in there. It’s pretty big with a huge bed. It feels different to rest of house I quite like it.

Only in the morning with a cup of tea. I have the best bed in the world (objectively. Honestly, it’s awesome) but wouldn’t sit up there otherwise, even though it has an awesome view of the Bristol Channel. I realise I’m making myself sound unreasonable.

I put a nice recliner in my bedroom a few years ago but before I could really sit and enjoy it I started using it for somewhere to dump clothes. Not happy about that so I'm doing sorting this weekend.

We recently decorated our bedroom and I do like a wee lie down to admire the room and relax / read / drink tea. But I too are the proud owner of a pre schooler

I'm in mine now laid across bed watching tele on iPad. Our living room is out of bounds at the moment though. We do have a tele up here though (also out of action at the moment ) so I do spend a bit of time up here anyway

I always escape to my bedroom! Mainly to avoid crap on telly (Peppa Pig or MOTD), anyone playing on the PlayStation or the annoying cats (banned from bedroom)

My room sounds like your "before" room OP but I'm slowly making it more cosy.

Never, despite the fact it’s a really nice room. I read somewhere ages ago that your brain learns to associate your bed/bedroom with being awake if you spend time there not sleeping. No idea if that’s true, but it stuck with me!

DP often sits in the spare room doing stuff on the computer, or watching sport. If there’s something he wants to watch in the living room that I’m not for (football) I tend to sit at the kitchen table, listening to the radio, faffing online, painting my nails, or actually cooking.

Your room sounds really lovely, OP!

My bedroom is being done up at the moment. I am going to have a lovely armchair and footstool in the bay window along with a little side table for a cup/glass. Maybe a nice reading lamp too. Can’t wait.

I wanted to open up the fire too but it wasn’t possible. I plan on spending a lot of time in there. DH can lump it.

My bedroom is a haven. I have a chair in there and often take phone calls there or sometimes just sit quietly after a bath. I sometimes skip dinner and go to bed with a glass of wine and a book. Heaven.

Ps, just let your oh know you'd like to do this from time to time. I let mine know asap I get home so he can think about what he'd like to do with his evening. Sometimes he joins me.

I go for a nap during the day but rarely go and sit in there to read or whatever. I'd rather be downstairs. Our bedroom is cluttered though with the pickling stuff and the clothes airer so it's just not very peaceful. We don't have a TV or radio or lamp in there either so it doesn't feel cosy either.

never really

Sometimes when DS is napping but mainly because it's cold downstairs unless the fire is on and I can sit on the electric blanket upstairs

Often! I bought an Erkoness reclining armchair and foot stool which is positioned in the bay window overlooking the garden. The bedroom is directly above the sitting room but the view is better, and it is a perfect escape.

In my flat, I only use one room, the bedroom. I actually don't like sitting, I prefer to lie/spreadeagle. Currently under the quilt with the laptop on my lap :)

When I do use the front room, I don't use the sofa (which is for guests.) I have a mattress in there I can lurk on!

Congratulations on your bedroom- I bet it's great to have it all done! Your DH should let you appreciate it, at least for a while. xxx

When I'm at my ex partner's I usually stay in the front room. If I'm particularly tired, I'll retire to the bedroom with my computer, same goes for if he's playing some youtube or game and the noise is getting to me. I wouldn't stay in the bedroom most nights there- it'd be antisocial. But your DH ahould let you have some time out sometimes.

all the time. i have a ‘studio apartment’ which i believe used to be called ‘bedsits’.

it’s nice though, high ceilings and a big bay window. and, unlike (weirdly more expensive) other studios, my kitchen is a whole other room. some of the posh ones down on the waterfront have a kitchenette in the corner of the living space.

not where i expected to be at 46, but we go where life takes us. at least i have my cat for company...

We have a sofa in our room so I sit there quite a lot. I like to read and chill out before bed. We also have a TV in the room so will usually watch something in the evening. Our kids are little so it means we can quickly tend to then if they have a nightmare etc.

Never. Which is a bit of a shame as it's the nicest room in the house.

I spend lots of time in the bedroom as it's calm and peaceful. We keep it very tidy which helps. I have a comfortable arm chair and a large bookcase, so it's perfect for a quiet hour or so.

No, it’s antisocial and not a good example to set to the kids when you are their social role model. We all tend to go to bed at the same time currently but after the baby is born it’ll be even more important for the kids to be able to interact with me (even if I am half-asleep lol)

Most nights, I'm in my room now. Once the DC are in bed me and DH will watch a bit of tv or browse online, but I'm not a tv person and I usually come upstairs instead. I like the peace, listen to music on headphones, read a book or watch some YouTube. DH has the tv to himself downstairs to watch his stuff and relax then joins me later. It's our only bit of 'me' time each.

Sounds awesome!
I wasn't 'allowed' to stay in any room apart from the room my abusive ex was in, I once went to read in bed, got a hiding for it and it was the only time in 21yrs I ever attempted it.
Now I have my own wee house and the thrill of being able to sit in the bedroom just doing nothing still feels 'wrong' but I'm starting to tentatively enjoy this freedom.
Make the most of it, you need some peace in the beautiful surroundings you have created yourself