Singing along at a musical to cause such upset?

[cantbeatfreshsheets]

I went to a musical yesterday with my parents & sister to celebrate my mums birthday. We had a really nice day & this was the last thing we had planned. Arrived a few mins late and got to our seats with no problems.

After about 20 mins in. A catchy song came on. It was Tina Turner. My mum sang along for a couple of times during the chorus. It was hard not too. The whole show was about her being oppressed. Which is exactly how we felt after what happens next.

The lady in front turned around. Looked at my mum & said could you please, then used her hand against her mouth to gesture my mum to zip it 🤐 very passive aggressive.

Mum looked at us as if to say. What the F**
Anyway. She said I'll have to speak to her at the interval. Meanwhile I just thought what a spoilsport?!?! If you can't sing along at a musical what's wrong with the world. It's not like she was singing at the top of her voice???

It resulted with the lady in front going to make a complaint about my mum as mum tapped her on the shoulder and said during the interval How dare you tell me how to behave. My mum ended up going to see the manager herself where the other women was acting like we were trying to victimise her for not being happy against us telling her it was a free country. They said we were aggressive and being unreasonable?!?!

She said. It said on the way in you can't sing. We said. Well we didn't see that notice as we were late. We ended up leaving as my mum was so cross. There was a slight scene. The other woman was behaving like a child in my opinion. Has the world has gone mad.

My sister and I told her that she had spoilt our mums birthday and She was clearly enjoying playing the victim. I think she was probably shocked we confronted her over it.

We left. Were we being unreasonable? Or has the world gone crazy? I'd love to hear you're thoughts.

Not cool.
Ok you and your mum might not have been able to see the sign. But regardless - once the lady turned road and made it clear it was bothering her most normal people would have thought ‘oops, maybe it isn’t the done thing’, not confronted her in the interval.

@cantbeatfreshsheets and in pretty much everybody else’s view you have no manners whatsoever...

I scanned through this waiting for the bit where the OP comes back and says that they forgot to mention that the woman in front had a puppy in her handbag that she carries everywhere so that she can kick it whenever she wants, that she pulled a knife, and that she warned them about her links to organised crime.

I wasn't at a musical last night Isabelle - I don't know - I go to the opera, I kick one puppy, pull one knife (and it wasn't knife anyway - it was a machete) and remind one person that my uncle "Knuckles" is a hit man for the Lavender Hill Mob, and whenever somebody threatens someone in a theatre, I get the blame.

Talk about being oppressed!

YWBVU
Just like the two in front of us at Les Mis a couple of weeks ago who pulled out their egg and coronation chicken sandwiches and stinky beef crisps and munched through the first 30 mins

Well there’s one thing for certain.
You don’t know what passive aggressive means.
If the lady in front had sat tutting or half turning in her seat to glare THAT would have been passive aggressive

I think she was absolutely right to tell your mum to shut it and then to complain when you all started harassing her.

Sorry that your DM was upset OP,but I have to say that this would have annoyed me too. I don't pay a lot of money to see a musical only to have to listen to audience members singing.

I can't believe after behaving so badly your mum had the nerve to tap the poor woman on the shoulder and have go at her! Then you and your sister joined in and told her SHE'D ruined your mum's birthday. You and your rude family probably ruined this lady's night and she'd have left with a really bad taste in her mouth because of you lot. What horrible people you are.

Oh dear - being late by 10 mins disturbs a lot more than the two people who had to stand. The people in front, the people behind, basically the whole place. If I was another punter I could have handled that but not if you were all giddy and singing out loud throughout.

I think this is a wind up thread though now, for sure, based on the OPs update.

This is why they have sing a long versions of shows, otherwise you shut up and leave it to the professionals. YABVU and I feel sorry for the poor woman in front who did nothing wrong and probably had her enjoyment of the show spoiled by an entitled woman with no manners.

I consider myself a diplomatic, considered, cultured person. well you and your family come across as rude, selfish and aggressive but okay.

Judging by the rest of your post I assume this is either an elaborate reverse or a joke.

Perhaps she was only singing for 2 or 3 choruses of one song so far. The woman in front probably assumed she would be doing it the whole way through and decided to nip it in the bud rather than wait until half the performance had been ruined to say something

I consider myself a diplomatic, considered, cultured person.

Goodness!

So late and disrupted people.

Sand and disrupted people.

Theatre costs a lot of money. I love it but you have spoilt it for people. This won’t be what you want to hear. The person in front wasn’t a misery guts. You are rude for saying that.

You should have apologised. Your mum ruined her own birthday but being late and singing.

I've worked in lots of theatres, large and small, and can say that people get very annoyed with audience singers at musicals (unless it is an interactive show).
So YWBVU.

I consider myself a diplomatic, considered, cultured person

Pretty clear that you're not. Even if you found mother being asked to zip it objectionable, a diplomatic, considered and cultured person would not then have berated and ruined another person's experience of the musical.

Your sister and you acted like a pair of entitled bullies.

It's bit just the two people though. It's the noise you would have made, the rustling, settling in your seats, walking in front of hundreds of people abs blocking their view. You were rude.

God this either has to be a reverse or a joke. You, your mum and your family are being utter loons, and if I was the woman in front, I would have complained about you too.

Go to a panto if you want to sing a long. And don't turn up late in future. In most musicals they won't allow you in until the interval if you miss the start

Woman in front if you ever read this: You were in the right. MN applauds you

Yes We're late. 10 mins. Which caused disruption to all of two people who had to stand.

Not to mention the people net to them who were disturbed by their moving, the people for several rows behind, who had to tolerate everyone standing up and clambering to their seats, the people in front who will have been disturbed by the kerfuffle and may have had their seats kicked, the people all over the theatre who will have heard the whole palaver and he cast, who will have been disturbed by your hissed "excuse me's" because SOUND CARRIES IN A THEATRE!!!!!

And does it not occur to you that your mother only sang 2/3 choruses because the other woman pulled her about it? If no-one had said anything, she might have warbled her off-tune way all the way through the production.

Which caused disruption to all of two people who had to stand.

Plus the people sitting behind them, and the people sitting behind your seats and alongside, plus the people behind them, plus several hundred other people in the surrounding seats further back in the auditorium who would have been distracted by your arrival.

Yes We're late. 10 mins. Which caused disruption to all of two people who had to stand. These things to happen

2 people had to stand but youd have disrupted a lot more people than that.

You and your Mums lack of self awareness and etiquette is quite astonishing

7 pages on agreeing YABU but you still disagree. I guess this thread didnt quite go as you expected

It's not a bloody karaoke OP. As if your arriving late wasn't annoying enough already. If you didn't know people pay to hear the cast when they they go to theatre, you know now don't you? Maybe just get the DVD next time?

Quite Clearly we have no etiquette

Yep. No ones pays £40 a ticket to hear your mum wailing. Shut up please.

Not a reverse, just another Netmums reject.
I'm seeing Les Mis next year, I'd love to sing along but never would because it's not a sing along.
People, including me have paid to hear the cast.

I'm wishing this was a reverse now.