Singing along at a musical to cause such upset?

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I went to a musical yesterday with my parents & sister to celebrate my mums birthday. We had a really nice day & this was the last thing we had planned. Arrived a few mins late and got to our seats with no problems.

After about 20 mins in. A catchy song came on. It was Tina Turner. My mum sang along for a couple of times during the chorus. It was hard not too. The whole show was about her being oppressed. Which is exactly how we felt after what happens next.

The lady in front turned around. Looked at my mum & said could you please, then used her hand against her mouth to gesture my mum to zip it 🤐 very passive aggressive.

Mum looked at us as if to say. What the F**
Anyway. She said I'll have to speak to her at the interval. Meanwhile I just thought what a spoilsport?!?! If you can't sing along at a musical what's wrong with the world. It's not like she was singing at the top of her voice???

It resulted with the lady in front going to make a complaint about my mum as mum tapped her on the shoulder and said during the interval How dare you tell me how to behave. My mum ended up going to see the manager herself where the other women was acting like we were trying to victimise her for not being happy against us telling her it was a free country. They said we were aggressive and being unreasonable?!?!

She said. It said on the way in you can't sing. We said. Well we didn't see that notice as we were late. We ended up leaving as my mum was so cross. There was a slight scene. The other woman was behaving like a child in my opinion. Has the world has gone mad.

My sister and I told her that she had spoilt our mums birthday and She was clearly enjoying playing the victim. I think she was probably shocked we confronted her over it.

We left. Were we being unreasonable? Or has the world gone crazy? I'd love to hear you're thoughts.

Theatres are set up for voices to carry so the OP's mum's singing may have been a lot louder than she thought. It sounded like the woman in front was probably pretty irritated to tell OP's mum to zip it and for OP comparing being told off to Tina's oppression, that is outrageous. Being late is pretty bad too.

I made my mind up as soon as I read “we were a few minutes late”.

Have some manners.

Yabvvu unless it was a sing along show which it wasn't. Going to the theatre costs a lot of money. I wouldn't want to listen to someone singing in the audience.

Reverse

So you were late and then your mum sang along loudly enough that it disturbed other audience members? That's unbelievably rude.

Nobody has paid to hear your mum sing!

What's a "Reverse" please? 🤯

Yabvvvvvu. I went to a musical a few weeks ago and was incredibly pissed off at the people screeching out the songs. Well done for the woman for complaining I wish I had the balls to

Is your family name Entitled?

Tacky. You behaved horribly.

Aw, I scanned through this waiting for the bit where the OP comes back and says that they forgot to mention that the woman in front had a puppy in her handbag that she carries everywhere so that she can kick it whenever she wants, that she pulled a knife, and that she warned them about her links to organised crime. That's usually what happens when it's a unanimous YABU.

YABU. Although to be honest I always think people are being unreasonable when they pull out the 'you ruined her/my/his birthday' line because it's just so manipulative.

You and your family sound horrific. What a nightmare it must be to live next to. Or you are just making it all up. Now, which is it?

OMG. I would be SO pissed off if I'd gone to see a musical and I had to listen to someone else singing along! You pay to see the actual performers, you don't pay to hear some random person making a noise in your ear! It's completely different if you go to a pop or rock concert but you do NOT sing along when you go to the theatre, unless it's panto or something where there's supposed to be audience participation. Your mum was very rude and needs to learn how to behave.

100% yabvu unless it’s billed as a sing a long you do not sing. It’s is a very selfish thing to do, all you do is ruin the musical for the people around you. I would have told your mum to shut up and told FOH staff. Never mind you had already annoyed everyone by arriving late therefore disrupting the performance. You really need to learn what theatre etiquette is op even my students who I take on trips to the theatre for the age of 5 know basic theatre etiquette like not singing along and not talking.

I don't know whats worse, rocking up late or singing along. Possibly sitting there sniffing?

Nightsky

A reverse would be if the OP was actually the woman complaining about the family.
People sometimes do this because posting in AIBU usually has the OP as unreasonable, whatever the topic

I can't believe this isn't a reverse. If not, YAVVVVVVeryU.

I went to the theatre a couple of weeks ago and some idiot man kept finishing the actors' lines for them - and then being surprised when the author had written something slightly different (and far cleverer) than his supposed witticism.

Don't sing along, don't think you know better than the author, just keep quiet. Let the professionals do all the singing and speaking then if it's a show that has a fab encore that encourages singing at the end, sing your heart out at the end.

And don't be late.

@Inebriati or rustling sweet papers really loudly and then munching noisily while completely oblivious to everyone around you

I wouldn't want to hear someone singing along behind me when Id paid to watch and hear a professional production
The woman wasn't being childish, your mum and the rest of you were.. And embarrassing

R.e.v.e.r.s.e. sung to the tune of d.i.v.o.r.c.e obviously.

I'm in two minds on this one. Either its a reverse or its a lazy journalist hoping that the thread would produce some more examples of bad behaviour they could cut and paste into an article rather than having to do any actual work.

There's no way this is real - surely no one is this lacking in self-awareness????

Yes We're late. 10 mins. Which caused disruption to all of two people who had to stand. These things to happen. Circumstantial. We didn't go out of our way to do this deliberately. Because of this we didn't see the sign. I highlighted she was singing for all of about 2/3 choruses during one song. To receive such a response I thought was over top. Hardly like she was howling throughout. In which case I would have told her myself to be quiet. I consider myself a diplomatic, considered, cultured person. Quite Clearly we have no etiquette. Or perhaps people are way to serious these days. No doubt she works in health and safety or something else utterly boring or has a very miserable life to feel the need to say anything at all. I. My eyes she was a misery guts.

The worst theater experience I ever had was a group of drunk women (presumably a hen party or similar) singing all the way through. We asked the steward to speak to them and she did but they didnt stop. It ruined the whole experience for me.

The only musicals I have been to where its acceptable to sing along is Rocky Horror Show - and even then only to certain songs - and specific "sing along" versions of shows like Mamma Mia.