Singing along at a musical to cause such upset?

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I went to a musical yesterday with my parents & sister to celebrate my mums birthday. We had a really nice day & this was the last thing we had planned. Arrived a few mins late and got to our seats with no problems.

After about 20 mins in. A catchy song came on. It was Tina Turner. My mum sang along for a couple of times during the chorus. It was hard not too. The whole show was about her being oppressed. Which is exactly how we felt after what happens next.

The lady in front turned around. Looked at my mum & said could you please, then used her hand against her mouth to gesture my mum to zip it 🤐 very passive aggressive.

Mum looked at us as if to say. What the F**
Anyway. She said I'll have to speak to her at the interval. Meanwhile I just thought what a spoilsport?!?! If you can't sing along at a musical what's wrong with the world. It's not like she was singing at the top of her voice???

It resulted with the lady in front going to make a complaint about my mum as mum tapped her on the shoulder and said during the interval How dare you tell me how to behave. My mum ended up going to see the manager herself where the other women was acting like we were trying to victimise her for not being happy against us telling her it was a free country. They said we were aggressive and being unreasonable?!?!

She said. It said on the way in you can't sing. We said. Well we didn't see that notice as we were late. We ended up leaving as my mum was so cross. There was a slight scene. The other woman was behaving like a child in my opinion. Has the world has gone mad.

My sister and I told her that she had spoilt our mums birthday and She was clearly enjoying playing the victim. I think she was probably shocked we confronted her over it.

We left. Were we being unreasonable? Or has the world gone crazy? I'd love to hear you're thoughts.

As a Christmas treat, we are going all the way down to London (3 hour train journey) and included in the things we plan to do for our three day visit is a trip to the theatre to see a musical. We are paying to hear the performers. Not your mum. If she has a lovely time and sings all the way home that's great. If she buys the soundtrack and sings along in the car or whatever, that's great. Unless it is a special singalong performance like for The Sound of Music or the Rocky Horror Show, shut the fuck up.

Did you leave or were you kicked out?

How dare youR mum say to the poor woman “don’t dare tell me how to behave”. People shouldn’t have to tell her how to behave but if she behaves so poorly and it affects others of course they have every right to say something. She should have accepted that and said sorry not kicked off aggressively. She’ll pick on the wrong person one day who will finish it with a punch.

Genuinely hilarious...

Took my daughter to see wicked for her birthday a few weeks ago. We were up in the balcony, on the front row, 7 seats, of a rear section. We had people brought in late to the section lower than us 4 times. Every single time, blocking our view while they walked in front of us and down the stairs to their seat, followed by four times, the pair of ushers that escorted them to their seats walking back across us again. Then came the toilet stops... every time someone went to the toilet from behind us they did the same thing blocking the view going down the stairs, every time someone from those rows in front of us went to the loo, they and all the people that had to get up for them blocked our view...

Then there was the particularly large lady on the very end of a row, who really struggled to get in and out of her seat... so when the person next to her went to the loo, she decided that the best thing to do was just stay stood up until she came back! We couldn't see a significant portion of the stage at all for that entire time...

Best of all, was then the person on the 7th seat of our row, up against the wall- we were 3rd and 4th- who suddenly decided to make it a sing along show! When she was louder than Elphaba from where we were sat, damn right I turned and glared!!! I've paid to hear the professionals for goodness sake!

I bet the people behind were disturbed by the man and his daughter (Seats 1&2 on our row) everyone she whined, fidgeted, complained, moved to sit on his knee, then the ushers came and told him she had to sit on her own seat... repeatedly... she was about 4!

I won't take my 7 year old yet because he won't sit still, or my 11 year old because he wouldn't be able to wait until the interval for the toilet... and it drives me nuts that other people have so little consideration for others!!!

My daughter was 8 the first time I took her and a friend, but I knew they'd sit still. If I didn't know they could've, they would've waited until they could! I don't have the right to disturb other people's experience!

I read this thread hoping desperately that it was a reverse because I just can't imagine how someone could be so socially inept as to think their behaviour was not only correct but also to think they were so in the right that they made a thread to highlight their ignorance.

My DD is 11 and even she knows that arriving late is disruptive and that you do not sing along during a musical unless specifically directed to (either at a singalong performance or at a "megamix" encore at certain productions)

This thread is hilarious.

Imagine if everyone decided to warble along! You might as well go for a singsong at The Dog and Duck and save the £££££££ the ticket costs.

YABU OP very very U. You also need to learn the correct use of the word etiquette and considered.

I don't think the theatre's for you, OP.

Don't understand why anyone thinks the signs are relevant. Any dunce should know it's not OK to join in and ruin it for others, sign or no sign...

I went to a performance of Matilda a few years ago where it was someone's job to shush people.

I would LOVE this job!!!

OP Maybe try a pantomime next time,might suit ye better.

Jesus wept

You're absolutely clueless, ill mannered, entitled fools.

This is one of the funniest threads I've ever read on here. Usually such horrendous manners and your subsequent behaviour would leave me appalled. But, your staggering lack of understanding is to the extent that it's comedic.

Pantomime would be a right laugh...

IT'S BEHIND YOU!

Nah that's just some prick singing.

I cannot believe that there is someone out there who believes they are considered and cultured...

... and yet think's its acceptable to turn up to any theatre production 10 minutes late, AND thinks it's ok to be singing along to anything other than a/ a sing a long performance or b/ Rocky Horror Show.

Oxymoron my dear.

I too would love the shushing job.

Extremely unreasonable. First your mum singing along is not what those around had paid to experience. Not the cast expecting to have to deal with.
Secondly as soon as you were told that it was actively a no audience singing musical why didn’t you just apologise and shut up !
no excuse for any rudeness on either side obvs.
Absolutely no need for anyone to leave. Sounds as though you were all a bit het up?
Shame your mums birthday treat was compromised but this could easily have been avoided.

Next year stay out of the theatres and take her to a karaoke bar for a few beers. You’ll get on much better

I'd be annoyed if you did that to me. Sorry! I can see where you're coming from but some people are sensitive to noise and if its happening 5 days a week and stopping them from going back to sleep and they have contacted you about it then you should try and resolve it as if it was the other way around you would like to hope that they would do the same for you.

The op on a thread about keeping a car engine running. Practice what you preach op!

Had the same with my DH and MIL. We went to see phantom of the opera. We all love Andrew Lloyd Webber and had never seen that one yet. Bunch of people in front talking throughout the entire performance. Some of them even stood up so they could see better. Meaning that we could see nothing.

DH tried to have a polite word but they didn't speak English and couldn't understand what he was saying.

That's pretty extreme compared to your situation but you need to remember other people have also paid to see the performance and its not fair to ruin it for them. They would have paid to hear the actors and musicians sing, not your mum.

Some people with a penis and hairy bollocks consider themselves men. Doesn’t make it true grin

It’s when such people consider themselves to be women that I have a problem!

Anyway, your mum made a mistake by singing along, OP. Easily done perhaps, but it was the shoulder tap and “How dare you” where she was really out of order; if someone calls you out for your inappropriate behaviour, just apologise and stop, for goodness sake!

Was it specifically a sing a long performance? If so then fine. If not, then you were being extremely rude and inconsiderate.

Rocky horror etc, fine. Other than that, shush. Although in fairness watching a majority female crowd go absolutely mental mental chicken oriental to Dirty Dancing enhanced the experience.

You turned up late and your mum started singing along. She was gestured at once to not, and then waited until the intermission to have a crack at the person who asked her to stop. And then had another try with the manager, got told you were wrong, and humphed off before the end. Yup she woman was a bit annoying if your mum wasn't being that loud- it I'm afraid you guys compounded and chose to sulk when in the wrong.

We went to see Annie at the playhouse recently and even my 6 year old seemed to know not to sing and silently mouthed along. Here was a small incident where her inflatable seat booster seemed to lose some air which caused her to be uncomfortable and wriggle. Even that was disturbing as the lady in front turned round. (She didn't look annoyed more just distracted) I swiftly swapped boosters with her far more patient sister and it was resolved. I apologised profusely to both those in front and behind at the interval. I was embarrassed that we'd disturbed even 30 seconds of the performance for them.

I don't care how quiet you think your 6 year old and their slightly better behaved sibling are. Them sitting hoaching on their booster seats all through the performance would be far more distracting than anyone singing along.

Wow, the world really is full of zanies and fools who don't believe in sensible rules. You're impossible, OP!

YABVU. I still get angry when I think back to how my experience watching les miserables was RUINED because a stupid woman sang along (TERRIBLY!) the entire way through!! Other audience members asked her to stop and she just shouted at them to "shut up" and carried on. Really ruined it for everyone. Years ago but I've never forgotten. An expensive treat ruined.

Them sitting hoaching on their booster seats all through the performance would be far more distracting than anyone singing along.

Good job that's not what the poster (who was there) said they were doing then. Stop making shit up.