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Singing along at a musical to cause such upset?

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cantbeatfreshsheets · 20/11/2019 14:45

I went to a musical yesterday with my parents & sister to celebrate my mums birthday. We had a really nice day & this was the last thing we had planned. Arrived a few mins late and got to our seats with no problems.

After about 20 mins in. A catchy song came on. It was Tina Turner. My mum sang along for a couple of times during the chorus. It was hard not too. The whole show was about her being oppressed. Which is exactly how we felt after what happens next.

The lady in front turned around. Looked at my mum & said could you please, then used her hand against her mouth to gesture my mum to zip it 🤐 very passive aggressive.

Mum looked at us as if to say. What the F**
Anyway. She said I'll have to speak to her at the interval. Meanwhile I just thought what a spoilsport?!?! If you can't sing along at a musical what's wrong with the world. It's not like she was singing at the top of her voice???

It resulted with the lady in front going to make a complaint about my mum as mum tapped her on the shoulder and said during the interval How dare you tell me how to behave. My mum ended up going to see the manager herself where the other women was acting like we were trying to victimise her for not being happy against us telling her it was a free country. They said we were aggressive and being unreasonable?!?!

She said. It said on the way in you can't sing. We said. Well we didn't see that notice as we were late. We ended up leaving as my mum was so cross. There was a slight scene. The other woman was behaving like a child in my opinion. Has the world has gone mad.

My sister and I told her that she had spoilt our mums birthday and She was clearly enjoying playing the victim. I think she was probably shocked we confronted her over it.

We left. Were we being unreasonable? Or has the world gone crazy? I'd love to hear you're thoughts.

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cantbeatfreshsheets · 20/11/2019 16:35

Point taken. However I'd like to highlight that my sister was sat in the middle of me and my mum and I couldn't hear her. And the people next to my soul said not my sister who stayed behind while I followed my mum that they think thought the fuss was unnecessary. Basically thought that the other lady was overreacting. Wow some really nasty comments too. I'm happy to take it on the chin. But I guess it's easy to be unpleasant when hiding behind a screen.

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Pursefirst · 20/11/2019 16:35

@howabout you can't be serious? unless the show you were referring to was Paw Patrol live or something

Smelborp · 20/11/2019 16:38

It’s fairly unanimous though, don’t you think OP?

You were late, loud and rude. YABU.

AlphaBravoCharlieDelta · 20/11/2019 16:38

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DobbinOnTheLA · 20/11/2019 16:38

I consider myself a diplomatic, considered, cultured person

It seems you also considered yourself to be at home and part of the family.
I don't think the other members of the audience took to you so strong, though, as you clearly didn't get along Sad

Drabarni · 20/11/2019 16:38

I'd have said it to your face had I been there.
Nothing to do with being behind a screen it's not standing for shitty behaviour, from someone who thinks they're cultured Grin

Boredisboring · 20/11/2019 16:38

Decent theatres don't usually let you in if you're late.

category12 · 20/11/2019 16:39

the people next to my soul said not my sister who stayed behind while I followed my mum that they think thought the fuss was unnecessary.

Uh-huh, but if you came over as aggressive & unreasonable, people around you are hardly going to say anything to your face, are they? They're going to placate you and slag you off later when it's safe.

32ndofFebtober · 20/11/2019 16:39

'But I guess it's easy to be unpleasant when hiding behind a screen.'

Whereas you and you DM were unpleasant to that poor woman's face.

leghairdontcare · 20/11/2019 16:40

Based on the update, your mother is worse than Hitler.

blacksax · 20/11/2019 16:40

Why were you late?

Mammatino · 20/11/2019 16:41

Yabu. It's also easy to be rude to people in theatres too.

chomalungma · 20/11/2019 16:41

I really need to go to a sing along show now....

Joseph
Rocky Horror
Grease
Mamma Mia

taxi4ballet · 20/11/2019 16:41

Dobbin Grin

Quartz2208 · 20/11/2019 16:41

The problem is though as you tell it she actually didnt make that much fuss just asked her (silently) to stop singing. It was your mum who then escalated it

People get carried away singing fine, women in front said to stop fine. That should have been it. To continue was being aggressive and unreasonable

MinTheMinx · 20/11/2019 16:41

But I guess it's easy to be unpleasant when hiding behind a screen.

It's an internet forum. We're all 'behind a screen' and we're all answering a question asked by you that I'm sure most of us would be happy to answer in the same way face-to-face.

Tvstar · 20/11/2019 16:42

Got to be a reverse!

GrumpyHoonMain · 20/11/2019 16:42

Theatres and productions often have strict rules. It’s just like going to the cinema. You are expected to be quiet and follow the rules - you are very lucky you weren’t asked to leave by security when your mum started singing. I think judging from your posts this is probably the first time your family went to the theatre so chalk it up to a learning experience and move on

AutumnRose1 · 20/11/2019 16:43

Well OP I agree with everyone else

However, I’m just tempted to shout SELLING PETROL to see if I’m the only one who thought of it half way through the thread? Grin

ilovesooty · 20/11/2019 16:43

I'm not sure whether I find it amusing or depressing that someone with such poor manners and stunning lack of self awareness is still seeking to justify herself.

Marnie76 · 20/11/2019 16:44

So you arrived late probably disturbing people then thought they’d happily paid to listen to your mum not the professionals. YABVU.

Were you drunk? I say this as another inconsiderate person who did this (me) at the cinema once when me and friends thought it was a sing along version. I fully accept that we were very unreasonable and deserved the tutting. Sorry to who ever was there that day 😳

Poppinjay · 20/11/2019 16:44

I consider myself a diplomatic, considered, cultured person.

No doubt she works in health and safety or something else utterly boring or has a very miserable life to feel the need to say anything at all.

I think you need to look up diplomatic, considered and cultured and then reconsider how you identify yourself! Grin

FrancisCrawford · 20/11/2019 16:44

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kjhkj · 20/11/2019 16:45

I'm struggling to believe that anyone can be this selfish and entitled but just in case - YABVVVVVU. Why should your mum's incredibly rude "enjoyment" trump that of everyone else in the theatre who has paid good money?

loutypips · 20/11/2019 16:45

So you were late, ignored the rules, and upset people who had paid a lot of money to be there. Do you really think you're in the right.
The woman had probably paid £££, she went to listen to professional singers not Brenda doing karaoke. To right she was upset!

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