Singing along at a musical to cause such upset?

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I went to a musical yesterday with my parents & sister to celebrate my mums birthday. We had a really nice day & this was the last thing we had planned. Arrived a few mins late and got to our seats with no problems.

After about 20 mins in. A catchy song came on. It was Tina Turner. My mum sang along for a couple of times during the chorus. It was hard not too. The whole show was about her being oppressed. Which is exactly how we felt after what happens next.

The lady in front turned around. Looked at my mum & said could you please, then used her hand against her mouth to gesture my mum to zip it 🤐 very passive aggressive.

Mum looked at us as if to say. What the F**
Anyway. She said I'll have to speak to her at the interval. Meanwhile I just thought what a spoilsport?!?! If you can't sing along at a musical what's wrong with the world. It's not like she was singing at the top of her voice???

It resulted with the lady in front going to make a complaint about my mum as mum tapped her on the shoulder and said during the interval How dare you tell me how to behave. My mum ended up going to see the manager herself where the other women was acting like we were trying to victimise her for not being happy against us telling her it was a free country. They said we were aggressive and being unreasonable?!?!

She said. It said on the way in you can't sing. We said. Well we didn't see that notice as we were late. We ended up leaving as my mum was so cross. There was a slight scene. The other woman was behaving like a child in my opinion. Has the world has gone mad.

My sister and I told her that she had spoilt our mums birthday and She was clearly enjoying playing the victim. I think she was probably shocked we confronted her over it.

We left. Were we being unreasonable? Or has the world gone crazy? I'd love to hear you're thoughts.

YANBU

Good job you lot never went to see Shakespeare when he was still around or Rocky Horror in Glasgow. Gobsmacked that the theatre were requesting no joining in.

If you want to sit in silence at a musical then buy a decent sound system and stay at home.

Last musical I went to the whole audience sang and ad libbed the whole way through and were still inaudible over the production sound system.
The school concert is different but even then there are usually times when teachers actively encourage the audience to join in for moral support.

The encore/finale is when audience members should join in and sing.
It’s a shame your mum was upset by it but I think you have to also see it from the other woman’s point of view. If your mum was loud enough that she could be heard over the performers, she was too loud.

I'd be a misery guts too if I'd saved for expensive tickets to a show I really wanted to see and then some asshole family behaved the way you did. Theatre is a very rare treat for us because its expensive, if I wanted to listen to random strangers singing I'd be watching x factor.

I consider myself a diplomatic, considered, cultured person

ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha!

Oh it gets better. Top marks OP for getting the rest of us in a lather.

Unless you're serious, in which please stay away from the theatre, the concert hall, and probably the art gallery.

Or maybe go on a trip with the MNer who is soooooo sensitive to glorious aesthetics of Art, that she screamed & fainted in the Sistine Chapel. I think you'd make good theatre buddies. In an otherwise empty theatre.

Your mum should have been quiet when she realised it was pissing people off....she'd had her birthday fun...but she chose to tap the woman on the shoulder and have a go at her?! Wtf that's probably the reason they reported you and after all that you and your sister had another go at her? Is there no Shame there at all, you embarrassed yourselves and rightly got kicked out. It's also funny how you are blaming not seeing the sign on you being 10minutes late again that's your fault.
The singing wouldn't have pissed me off if you had stfu it would have been the aggressive behaviour after.

I consider myself a diplomatic, considered, cultured person.

Yep, and I’m the Queen of Sheba.

Your turned up late, disrupted those around your seats then one of your party proceeded to sing along (just as a quick heads up, it’s not “hard” not to sing along, you just don’t do it). Then you get uppity about a complaint, and try to brush away your unreasonable behaviour by saying people are “spoilsports” or “too serious”.

Indeed the very epitome of diplomatic, cultured and considered.

YABVU.

Turning up late and disturbing people is bad enough but to then sing just take the biscuit.

The only time when it's ok to sing at a musical is during singalong performances or performances where the cast ask for audiences to join in. If none of these are true it is a no singing along zone. No one wants to pay out to hear random member of the audience rather than professionals on stage.

If this is how you act as a family at the theatre I would hate to see you in other settings.

lol. fun thread.

YABU
Someone did this during Fantines death scene when I went to les mis. If I’d have worked out who it was fantines wouldn’t have been the only death scene happening. So so antisocial and rude.

I absolutely love to sing but there’s a time and place.

YABU, everyone knows it's not the done thing at the theatre and that's why they have sing along versions.

I can only assume you've never been before, if you left then you clearly wasn't that bothered about going.

If a professional is singing Tina Turner then people want to listen, it's hardly a Take That tribute.

Was it Tina the musical? I saw it earlier this year, and it was utterly brilliant.

People pay good money to see professionals perform and don’t want random singers in the audience spoiling it. I remember seeing notices asking the audience not to join in with the singing.

You and your mum were very rude, and petty to cause a scene. I’m surprised that you weren’t thrown out TBH.

And I bet the OP doesn’t come back.

You made the @mumsnet_madness twitter account OP, congrats!

(You were being unreasonable by the way)

So you ruined the whole experience for the person in front then? Hope it wasn’t her birthday 😏

Your mum was really inconsiderate and rude, and the woman was well within her rights to say something. Your mum was then rude for a second time by confronting the woman... SURELY you can see that? My my.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3698452-AIBU-to-think-you-dont-sing-along-in-the-theatre

Your mum is a total nightmare and probably the type of selfish individual referred to in that thread.

It wasn't hard not to sing. Your selfish mother clearly thought her right to sing trumped every other person' right to hear the professional up on stage.

OP didn't see the warning signs because she arrived late.

It's a good thread OP.

Have not rtft but your family was ignorant and rude.

-You showed up late (annoying those around you)
-Your mum sang during an expensive professional performance (annoying those around you)
-Your family made a scene ruining the performance I'm sure for at least the lady you ganged up on and whomever she was with (annoying those around you).

Not on at all.

I consider myself a diplomatic, considered, cultured person

Self praise is no recommendation....

The Rocky Horror is completely different it is designed with audience participation in mind.

Just thank God it wasn’t Hair the musical, she might have got her tits out.

I consider myself a diplomatic, considered, cultured person.

Well, I'm sure nobody else does, if you don't know that you don't sing during musicals.

Most cultured people don't need a sign, being considerate? once realising how bad your families behaviour was you would have apologised for disturbing people.
Diplomatic, you'd have told your mum to pipe down, in a diplomatic way before she offended people.

Unless your mum is Tina Turner, YABVVU.

That'll be the dripfeed

Someone did this during Fantines death scene when I went to les mis. If I’d have worked out who it was fantines wouldn’t have been the only death scene happening .

Why the FUCK would you need to see warning signs to know that if it's not advertised as a sing-a-long, its not a sing-a-long?? It's common sense.