To tell newly vegan guest to bring their own dish on Christmas Day?

[GunpowderGelatine]

I'm hosting Christmas day at my house this year, not something I've done in ages. There's ten of us, including the kids, which is a great number - my plan, like every year I cook, is to order M&S food and pick it up on Christmas Eve then just bung it all in the oven and make some homemade gravy. I usually get a pork joint as I'm not a turkey fan, but will also be getting a turkey joint for my guests. I'm not usually the type to stress about Christmas dinner (it's only a roast after all!) but I also want it to be as simple as possible. One of my guests has declared they are now vegan. Which is a bit of a PITA for dinner if I'm honest as I'll have to sort a vegan main, gravy, dessert etc. I also have a nut allergy sufferer in the group which excludes quite a lot of vegan options as mains.

WIBU to ask the newly vegan guest to bring their own dish on the day or is that really rude? I've kind of planned the food around the size of my oven/hob and could do without the added stuff having to go in it (don't mind warming something up though)?

Discovered tonight Sainsbury’s Christmas puddings are vegan. Happy days.

I'd put money on the pretend vegan eating the nicer food on Xmas day. Once those roast potatoes come out the oven I bet they tuck in!

It's not that hard to cater for a vegan. I do, regularly. One of my closest friends is vegan, the other a vegetarian.

I think if you were willing, you could easily sort this.

I think if you were willing, you could easily sort this.

She has. Pages ago.

I think you you can fit a small vegan dish on your oven, there’s tons out there. Why not try to accommodate people without this judgy undertone?

You’re being VERY unreasonable if you invite people for dinner then YOU feed them. You have a month to figure out what’s that is. M&S do a lovely vegan range most of which is nut free (regular range not Christmas one). SO when you order your food also order somethings for the vegan. It’s not that hard. I don’t see why people have to make people being vegan/vegetarian etc such a big deal

You have a month to figure out what’s that is.

Again, the op has already decided to cater for the vegan.

Why don’t people at least read the op’s posts instead of assuming nothing has changed in 21 pages?

I have been vegan for many years and always offer to take something along if I'm invited for dinner, especially if the host already has a lot of guests to cater for. I wouldn't be at all offended if someone asked me to bring something with me, I appreciate that making a vegan dish can be a little bit daunting if you're not used to it and the host is generally worried about making/buying something to match their main.

For the dessert they could have sorbet, Vegan ice cream or something like that. Not sure what I'd do for a main but there must be some good premade stuff out there. If you have frozen veg and potatoes, you should be able to just add that. I'd have a word with them first as some Veggies and Vegans can be fussy, they tend to know what they'd like to eat. I have a Vegan friend who also does it for health reasons and will make an exception for special occasions so it might not be an issue at all if that's the case.

Either accommodate everyone or accommodate no one.
That’s dinner party 101.

In any big dinner situation it's entirely up to the host what they will or won't cater for, but personally I would cater for the vegan. It's really not that difficult these days and the main thing you would have to get is the substitute for the meat part of the dish and to make/buy a vegan gravy, onion gravy granules would do just fine. Vegan desserts are getting easier and easier to find as well or you could just do a fruit salad with Alpro yoghurt instead of cream.

I might find it slightly annoying that they're a vegan for non-conventional reasons, but it won't be difficult to cater for.

Just ask them to choose something from M&S and get it with everything else. Inclusion is really important.

Dessert, buy some tofu, buy some chocolate, melt chocolate, blend together (use more chocolate than tofu). Vegan mousse. Everyone can enjoy. Easiest "homemade" thing going.

Oh my god @GunpowderGelatine I actually love you for your response about @balleticspin ludicrous and deluded post about Xmas was spot on. Not only does no one give a shit they also think your a smug knob love

I am happy to cater for longstanding and committed vegetarians

Sounds worse than a wedding thread and the criteria for a family member being able to bring their partner !

Yabu

You're going to cater for all others bar this one person?
Make the dessert and starter vegan so everyone can have it.
Hell, make it all but free and vegan! Then you’re only doing one meal for everyone!

🤣 obvs meant nut free

But you’re not cooking anyway!

Aren't I?! Oh well looks like everyone is having raw pork for Christmas because I'm not cooking 👍🏽

I am chuckling at the continued "just buy a nut roast" suggestions. Here you go sis, for Christmas I got you a paramedic!

I'd put money on the pretend vegan eating the nicer food on Xmas day

I swear if this happens I will stuff their vegan sausages up their pear tree

Also for anyone joining recently and hadn't RTFT - sorted it yesterday, I'm getting vegan Sudafed and black chocolate and cherry puddings (as an additional dessert) at the request of my vegan

Sudafed? FFS. Sausages!!

Is the vegan Sudafed for after you stuff the sausages up their nose?

I’m putting it out there that I’d be disappointed with Sudafed as a main course. I might even be snotty about it...

@balleticspin mumsnet is a forum, not a religion, no one is boycotting it. There is however a consensus that women like you we are boycotting.

I think YABU in this case, you would be excluding one person based on their dietary preferences.

It isnt too hard to cater for vegans.

Roast potatoes (without animal fat) roast veg (without butter) and the just add a vegan meat substitute.

I'd recommend the meat free vegan sausages just released by Richmonds. Taste just like the usual sausages (unexpectedly!). Inexpensive and just 8 in a pack so not really much going to waste there.

(Ingredients
Water, Rehydrated Textured Soya Protein Concentrate (16%) (Water, Soya Protein, Wheat Protein, Salt, Soya Bean Oil, Natural Flavouring), Rusk (Wheat), Coconut Oil, Soya Protein Concentrate (4%), Chicory Root Fibre, Less than 2%: Stabiliser: Methylcellulose, Natural Flavourings, Yeast Extracts, Herbs, Spices, Spice Extracts, Flavourings, Colours: Beetroot, Safflower, Salt)

For gravy beef flavoured bisto is vegan safe too.

Also plenty of pud options in the free from isle that you can buy for one person.

Well that’s not much of Christmas spirit, there are loads of vegan (plant stuff) on the shelves in all the supermarkets and including m&s so just put something in your trolley for the vegan. Speaking as a non vegan but Christmas host who likes to show the love at Christmas. 💕

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Give your head a wobble lovely.