To tell newly vegan guest to bring their own dish on Christmas Day?

[GunpowderGelatine]

I'm hosting Christmas day at my house this year, not something I've done in ages. There's ten of us, including the kids, which is a great number - my plan, like every year I cook, is to order M&S food and pick it up on Christmas Eve then just bung it all in the oven and make some homemade gravy. I usually get a pork joint as I'm not a turkey fan, but will also be getting a turkey joint for my guests. I'm not usually the type to stress about Christmas dinner (it's only a roast after all!) but I also want it to be as simple as possible. One of my guests has declared they are now vegan. Which is a bit of a PITA for dinner if I'm honest as I'll have to sort a vegan main, gravy, dessert etc. I also have a nut allergy sufferer in the group which excludes quite a lot of vegan options as mains.

WIBU to ask the newly vegan guest to bring their own dish on the day or is that really rude? I've kind of planned the food around the size of my oven/hob and could do without the added stuff having to go in it (don't mind warming something up though)?

[Petrachat]

I prefer hosts to ask us to bring something ( vegan), rather than risk some ghastly lentil nut roast!!

[Susanne9176]

I was vegan for 10 years and am now vegetarian, and my sister is also vegan. We were always asked by family to bring our own food to every family event including Christmas and we always brought Linda McCartney Sausages or pies which were readily available and could just be put in the oven (or BBQ in summer). After many years of us doing this we were left wondering how hard is it for the host really to buy said products from the supermarket themselves! And it really felt they were making an indirect comment about disagreeing with us being vegan/vegetarian and as such being 'awkward'. If you might have problems cooking what they bring, I would suggest buying something yourself, as most supermarkets do have lots of vegan choices now and I'm sure the person will be grateful you bought them something vegan and they won't care what it is.

[Durgasarrow]

You're ordering food, and you can't order one dish for vegans?

[caranconnor]

I do think there is a big difference between real vegans and vegans playing at it. Becoming vegan has become trendy. And I have met more than one person who claims they are vegan but eats non vegan stuff if they fancy it. That is fine if you are catering for yourself, but really rude if someone else is catering for you.
I now ask vegans I am catering for if they are strict about it. And some say all they care about is no meat. I actually know a lot of vegans!

[mindfulmam]

Well that's just one person.
It doesn't mean others aren't following their vegan diet.

[LakieLady]

A few years ago, DP and I cooked Christmas dinner for his entire extended family - 18 of the fuckers.

One niece was vegan. I bought a vegan nut roast thingy from Waitrose or M&S for her. The "vegan" not only ate Yorkshire puddings but went on to have trifle for dessert. When I pointed out that the jelly in it was made from boiled up bones etc, and that it also contained cream, she just shrugged and carried on!

Now any vegans that I have to cater for will be asked to bring their own main, and if they object to anything being in the same oven as meat they can bring their own bloody cooker!

[Ginfordinner]

The ignorance on this thread is astounding

[cushioncovers]

Christmas dinner is traditionally meaty. It’s all about the meat, the gravy etc. Vegans don’t eat that so therefore don’t eat Christmas dinner.

Why do you assume vegans can't have gravy?

You've obviously been missing out if you think Christmas dinner is all about the meat.

[hallamoo]

News flash - everyone is different!

[Dutch1e]

I think asking someone to cater a Christmas dinner for you so you can "detox" is incredibly self-centred

Valid. Also who detoxes over Christmas?

[caranconnor]

I think asking someone to cater a Christmas dinner for you so you can "detox" is incredibly self-centred.

[Fr0g]

if vegan guest brings their own, no guarantee it will be nut fee - if the nut free guest is allergic to presence of nuts in the room, tht could cause a problem. Also, it's likely to need cooking/heating, so if you get something, you know what it is, and how it fits in with whatever else you're cooking.
sainsburys, morisons and ocado all seem to have vegan kiev things, which will be nut fee, or ready made jackfruit (is like pulled pork) is widely available and would go well with a roast dinner.

Altenatively, there's always "The Apprentice" option - offer a fruit salad!

[MyGhastIsFlabbered]

I think VapeVamp is just being a goady fucker. Surely Christmas dinner is whatever the fuck you want it to be? I'd happily eat dry toast for Christmas as long as I was with my family. That's what important not meat and two bloody veg

[Crackerofdoom]

Christmas dinner is traditionally meaty. It’s all about the meat, the gravy etc. Vegans don’t eat that so therefore don’t eat Christmas dinner.

I actually wouldn’t invite a vegan to Christmas Day.

Wow. So full of the Christmas spirit.

With an attitude like that, I would keep that rule to yourself or everyone you know will be turning vegan for Christmas.

[Auberjean]

I would serve what you are planning to, plus Linda McCartney vegetarian rosemary sausages for anyone who wants them. In my mostly non vegan family, that would be everyone. Simple.

[MIdgebabe]

Christmas dinner (uk) is traditionally meat based, partly because, for vast majority, it was an extra special treat to have meat. Not exactly the world we live in today.

The equivalent in terms of meaning and significance is something that requires an extra special effort.

[Dyrne]

Christmas dinner is traditionally meaty. It’s all about the meat, the gravy etc. Vegans don’t eat that so therefore don’t eat Christmas dinner.

I actually wouldn’t invite a vegan to Christmas Day.

OK I haven’t read the thread and I know this is a troll post but I find the concept of picking and choosing who you spend Christmas Day with purely on whether they eat meat or not absolutely hilarious.

The real meaning of Christmas, after all, is eating meat! Not spending time with loved ones, not the birth of Jesus, nope - meat eating.

(And I say this as someone who will be having turkey, goose-fat potatoes, pigs in blankets and more on Christmas Day!)

[PurpleDaisies]

I bet they’ll be gutted not to be spending time with such a lovely person.

[VapeVamp12]

They can fuck off too!

[PurpleDaisies]

What’s your policy on whether vegetarians eat Christmas dinner or not?

[PurpleDaisies]

Christmas dinner is traditionally meaty. It’s all about the meat, the gravy etc. Vegans don’t eat that so therefore don’t eat Christmas dinner.

Aw, bless. You’re a bit lacking in imagination aren’t you!

[VapeVamp12]

Christmas dinner is traditionally meaty. It’s all about the meat, the gravy etc. Vegans don’t eat that so therefore don’t eat Christmas dinner.

I actually wouldn’t invite a vegan to Christmas Day.

[PurpleDaisies]

Vegans have basically opted out of Christmas Dinner so tell them to stay at home.

In what way?