To tell newly vegan guest to bring their own dish on Christmas Day?

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I'm hosting Christmas day at my house this year, not something I've done in ages. There's ten of us, including the kids, which is a great number - my plan, like every year I cook, is to order M&S food and pick it up on Christmas Eve then just bung it all in the oven and make some homemade gravy. I usually get a pork joint as I'm not a turkey fan, but will also be getting a turkey joint for my guests. I'm not usually the type to stress about Christmas dinner (it's only a roast after all!) but I also want it to be as simple as possible. One of my guests has declared they are now vegan. Which is a bit of a PITA for dinner if I'm honest as I'll have to sort a vegan main, gravy, dessert etc. I also have a nut allergy sufferer in the group which excludes quite a lot of vegan options as mains.

WIBU to ask the newly vegan guest to bring their own dish on the day or is that really rude? I've kind of planned the food around the size of my oven/hob and could do without the added stuff having to go in it (don't mind warming something up though)?

Delighted you have it sorted with your guest OP. For the record, I am coeliac and would much rather bring ny own food to a hosted dinner than expect someone, who doesn't understand the risk of cross contamination or how much gluten is hidden in many products, to cater for my specific needs. If I ingest gluten I am very unwell for about a week. It is never worth the risk so therefore, rather than be antisocial at home I would prefer to bring my own food and enjoy the company of friends and family.

Yep they can bring their own if they want yo be difficult

On the contrary, OP, it is rude and entitled of someone who has chosen an extremist food preference to announce the fact and expect everyone else to jump through hoops for them. . Tell your guest to bring her own main meal and she can share the Christmas vegetables with all the others. She could get a main dish from Waitrose and stick it in the oven.

Vegans are still only 1.16 percentage of the population but are a very small tail trying to wag a very big dog. Their activism is beyond awful.

FFS vegan is not extremist! We all eat vegan foods every day. I’m a committed carnivore but I enjoy a wide variety of food.

You could always ask them to bring something but bear in mind that all of the supermarkets vare offering ranges of Xmas themed pre prepared vegan foods

user1490607838 Blimey you’re having a laugh aren’t you? Or are a class 1 Troll.
Please don’t believe for a minute anyone takes you seriously. You gave me a right good chuckle!
And I think there must be some seriously bad cooks about if there view that vegan food is bland is so prevalent. Again, not vegan but vegan food is just FOOD. Like non vegan food. Just follow a recipe!

Lilyflower1 oh fuck off , are you joking ??
SOME vegans are extremists just like in religions etc.. not all of them are , some just don’t want to eat animal products ffs .. are you also the kind of idiotic person who thinks all Muslims are terrorists? Same difference...

Bloody hell vegans are extremists? Ridiculous!

Some of you anti vegan frothers are hilarious

YANBU

Christmas must be a difficult time for your sister OP. There are nuts everywhere. She has my sympathy.

Some of you anti vegan frothers are hilarious

Ain’t that the truth.

Who knew a couple of vegan sausages and some Bisto gravy was extremist food?

How do you feel about lentils, Lily?

How do you feel about lentils, Lily? 🤣😜

M&S do a great Plant vegan range of ready meals just get one for microwave or you can get vegan plant based steaks which are really good can't think who produces them but Tesco Morrison's Sainsbury's and they only take 5 mins in frying pan. I agree it is pain I've got similar situation but think I've now convinced myself to do the vegan steak!

I think I'm a bit in love with this thread.

Well done getting it sorted amicably OP!

YANBU (I am a veggie and would be more than happy to bring something, and have on many occasions) but if you are getting anything from the main supermarkets a lot are also doing nice easy vegan mains for Xmas that you can just whack in the oven. But it honestly don't think it's unreasonable to ask them to bring something if you don't want to get it.

If you are friendly enough with the vegan guest to invite them round to your house for Christmas dinner then you are friendly enough to pick up the phone and say "Hello friend, haven't catered for a vegan guest before - anything you particularly enjoy that I can do for your main?" and let the conversation go from there.

My family do this all the time whenever we go round to dinner at each other's houses and we are just plain old fussy, no allergies, just finicky!

I think it's really rude of you tbh. Your guests will be terribly polite but leave thinking you are mean. Just order a premade dish...widely available in most supermarkets

Can tell who was here to actually answer the question and who was here to rent about how much they hate vegans. Yawn.

I cannot understand why people hate vegans. It's similar to hating people who went to university or people hating cyclists. It seems that self-improvement is the worst possible offence in this country.

I also do not understand why the OP is incapable of buying a vegan ready meal from M&S when she buys her other food there, then bamming it in the oven for 30 minutes. Surely this conversation has taken up a lot more time and effort than that.

I also do not understand why the OP is incapable of buying a vegan ready meal from M&S when she buys her other food there, then bamming it in the oven for 30 minutes. Surely this conversation has taken up a lot more time and effort than that.

The OP said a few hundred posts ago that she is going to cater for her vegan guest.

I’m a vegan and honestly, I would be happy to bring my own dish. Just give some notice so that they can get something sorted.

Bit of a side note, but it does seem a bit off that you’re happy to cater 2 types of meat (including one you wouldn’t normally do) and cater to a nut allergy, but vegan is something you can’t respect enough to cater for? It’s your home, your rules, but it would definitely make that person feel a bit inferior if they’re sensitive.

Also, If you do end up buying for them, you can get lovely little readymade pies from Linda McCartney or vegan wellingtons from Fry’s Family, both available in Sainsbury’s etc.

Good luck hosting!

It seems that self-improvement is the worst possible offence in this country

Eh? Veganism is self-improvement? And there’s me thinking it’s a dietary choice.

My DH and I always go to my DD for christmas lunch, we are both vegetarians, so we take our own main meal, we do all the veg for all everyone who is coming to dinner and take it to DD to help out,