To ask why people find me strange?

[IAmCabbageDear]

No question that they do, I see it in their faces all the time (I work with the public every day)

I'm not attractive but I am polite and kind, very empathetic.. does that make me strange?

Hmmm difficult to say without note information... are you overly polite/ smiley like it might come across a bit fake or over the top?

Maybe everyone else is strange and your the normal one 😜

I am also strange and unusual. I'm always saying things that sound perfectly normal and reasonable to me, then I see the blank looks and hear the awkward laughter!
Don't worry about it. Better strange than nasty.

Lots of facial piercings? Chewing gum loudly? Never stop talking? Unclear speech?

There are so many ways to be weird. What's your specialty?

I prefer to consider myself eccentric....!

I just see the people I interact with with amused looks on their faces.. If there are more than one they will often exchange an amused look with each other. I've no idea why.. I'm just being polite etc as expected by my employer.

Could you be misreading their facial expressions? From what you've described there is nothing unusual about you.

No piercings or gum. I might talk a bit fast possibly.

Bluntness, they definitely give each other that amused look.. I see it several times a day every day that I work... It's unmistakable.

It might be your use of language and your polite tone! People often do a double take when they speak to me and assume my role is higher than it is......I say carry on as you are!

Give us an example of something you said and the context, maybe we can gain since insight that way.

Are you sure people are thinking that you’re strange and you’re not imagining it? Unless you have an obvious and enduring quirk, it seems unlikely that so many strangers are reacting this way TBH. Most people are thinking about themselves the vast majority of the time.

I think people find me a bit odd. I am socially awkward And why but over compensate for it. If I am awkward in a situation I feel like I am acting, people can see that.

As I have gotten older I am more comfortable in my own skin. But still know people think I am different.

I do sometimes feel like work is a performance.. And I am emotionally exhausted at the end of it.. But my genuine intent is to be nice.. Perhaps that comes across as strange. I'm deffo not imagining it.

What's your voice/accent like?

Your not strange, you sound like a good person. If you feel society doesn't accept you then that's society's fault.

My accent is pretty uneducated sounding.

People think I’m odd too OP.

They don’t say it to me but like you they look at me like I’m odd and look at other people with a smirk towards me.

I don’t think I’m particularly odd so I just ignore it now. As long as people are polite to me I’m polite to them and they can think me odd if they like.

I think it must be an aura I give off, like a smelly cheese

I’m very odd. I like it that way.

It sounds like you are reading too much into things, TBH. My life got much easier when I realised people are far too busy thinking about themselves to think much about other people and almost all the time, laughter and 'odd looks' and not about onesself.

I think I am genuinely a bit odd (not very socially skilled, so am alternately coming over as quite withdrawn and serious, or else babbling my entire life story to people) but I never notice people being 'weird' with me or appearing to give me funny looks etc.

It doesn't sound like you work with particularly nice people OP. Exchanging looks about someone in their company is just plain rude.

So I'm going to say it's not you, it's them.

Do you think your ‘uneducated’ sounding voice is a direct contrast to what you’re saying?

What do you do?
How do you dress?

Any examples?

Ignore them.

There's room in this world for different people.

Be proud of who you are.

Do you not fit into a common accepted stereotype of society?

I think uniqueness is a wonderful thing but Iv found lots of people think you are weird if they can't within 30 seconds fit you into a familiar box! I can paint on the veneer of normality long enough that people "file" me wrongly so Iv seen how they behave when they come across someone not in the immediate normality camp.

If it takes any effort to work you out most people just don't have the respect to try. They write you off as odd or not one of them before they even have given you a chance, it's a shame but it's true.

I will say that is absolutely not the case for all people so don't get disheartened if Iv described you.