Stepchildren and language

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I have to dsc 4 and 6, twice this weekend they used the word fart. The first time I was looking after them on my own so told them it wasn't a word we use. Today they used the word again, DP didn't seem to bat an eye lid (although did later agree with me). I think if they were older I wouldn't like it but would accept it more. Is this inappropriate or am I being a prude?

My son who is three says
Fucking hell
It's so bad but we do tell him off

He also asked me if "no balls go on your bed mum. I wont put my naked balls on your bed"
When I told him to wear pants on his bum
Hahaha

Honest OP I think you've chosen the wrong hill to die on here. Your child is going to be reeling out far worse than 'fart' soon, learned from friends at school. You're likely to only end up alienating your step children with this.

I (and my 6 and 3 year olds) say fart. If we are feeling particularly silly and up for a giggle we say bottom burp.

Farting is a healthy, natural thing. Holding them in can cause damage all the way up your digestive system - so being a bit repressed about the subject could well lead to health implications. Unclench a little!

Hahahahahahaha this made me laugh so much! Why shouldn’t they say fart? 😂

@Fartymcnarty wins anal whisper 🤣

Is that you hyacinth?

In our family our 2 yr old has decided to use the word ponk instead of fart! Which I find quite funny... But I wouldn't be very worried if she used the word fart (obviously in the correct context - not shouting it at strangers in the street) as it just describes a bodily function at the end of the day!

“This Earl of Oxford, making of his low obeisance to Queen Elizabeth, happened to let a Fart, at which he was so abashed and ashamed that he went to Travel [for] 7 years. On his return the Queen welcomed him home, and said, 'My Lord, I had forgot the Fart’.”
Anecdote recorded by John Aubrey in Brief Lives (1693).

I'm surprised some people haven't heard trump used for fart

Why?

Because I am. Do you understand the difference between "surprised" and "don't believe"?

Language has many regional variations.

Gosh, really? Who knew!

Not your kids so it should have been left to the parents to decide if it was appropriate or not

No, that's bullshit. If anyone expects me to look after their children in my home, step-children included(I have 2), then I have the same rules for other children as I do my own DC. I don't give a shit if the parents agree or not. Don't expect free child-care and then to dictate what is or isn't allowed in my home.

Anyway, yes OP YABU.

🤣🤣🤣 Jesus it’s not like they are wandering about f’ing and blinding. And we wonder where our snowflake generations are coming from. Here! This is what is causing them. Can’t even say fucking fart for fucks sake what next 🤦🏻‍♀️

Hahahaha...this thread just keeps on giving. 'Anal whisper'!!!

For my two penneth, I give you....trouser cough.

Air biscuit.

I call my farts 'Donald Trump's'

Please tell me this post is a wind up. Surely this cant be a serious post? If it is. Stop the world I want to get off.

I've only read the first 20 or so responses so sorry for not RTFL if I have missed something. OP, I do not let my DD6 say fart. My sister and I weren't allowed to say it when we were younger either. I'm not offended when other people say it's, it's just not what I want DD to be saying. A bit like the fact she isnt allowed to say 'oh my God', even though some of her contemporaries do.
You can tell them you'd rather they didn't say it when you are there, and why, but really it's up to their parents to tell them what is acceptable overall I'd say?

I don't like it either, but I put it down to my upbringing and me being a bit prissy in language. I am not particularly prissy in other ways though, tIhere are some really proper bad language I am quite happy to participate in without a second thought. Perhaps it is just bodily functions I have problems with! I have spent a lot of time in Germany since the late '70s and I find the hilarity about Ausfahrt, Einfahrt, Gute Fahrt etc a bit juvenile, that's just me and I don't judge anyone by it.

It has been a cracking y fart thread. Thanks OP.

I don't think you meant it that way, but still.

Think yourself lucky.
My 12 year old with SN asked me tonight what a minge was, after hearing an older girl calling another a smelly minge on the minibus home from his special needs school .
Now he's 12 but cognitively about 5 or 6 and it took me about 10 minutes to stop laughing before I told him to ask his dad.
I must be a terrible parent.
He never swears but loves toilet humour as all young boys do.
It's normal. You can't prevent them learning new words at nursery or school.

When we were kids we had some childish made up word for it, similarly for genitalia. I think I was about 8 when I first heard the word fart at school and when I came home I asked, 'mum, what's a fut?'

Times have moved on I think. As long as they're not saying dick and twat for their bits I think you're ok

I think the word ‘fart’ appears in the Canterbury Tales IIRC. I think if it’s ok for Chaucer it’s ok for kids.

I wasn’t supposed to say ‘fart’ when I was a kid (was supposed to say ‘break wind’ instead) and to be honest I just look back on it as another way that my parents were overly controlling - banning perfectly normal words. And that was my biological parents. I think it oversteps the mark from a step-parent.

I do like ‘parp’ as an alternative though

*I wasn’t allowed to say pop, fart, bum or willy. My mum had twee alternatives which made my sister and I look like posh twats in school.

Poo was jobie. That word still makes me feel ill.*

Yeah my DH’s family were the same with the twee alternatives. How did you pronounce ’jobie’? Was it like ‘jobby’ (which I think is common in Scotland) or ‘joe-by’?

My nieces call it Botty cough

I hate the word and although my DCs are grown now, I never let them use it, ever, in front of me.

Bloody hell,@Livelovebehappy surely now they're adults they're entitled to make their own decisions about what language they use? That sounds really controlling to me.

Fart!? Is this a joke? I have never considered this bad language before!?

Me neither. And I'm bemused by PPs who say it used to be considered bad language. I'm 64, and it certainly wasn't in my lifetime.

lakielady sorry - think I worded it wrongly! It’s meant to read that I never used to let them use the word in front of me when they were young, but referenced they’re adults now anyway so isn’t probably relevant. Having said that, they tend not to swear or use words in front of me that they know I don’t like now they’re adults, but not because I’ve ordered them not to.

I have spent a lot of time in Germany since the late '70s and I find the hilarity about Ausfahrt, Einfahrt, Gute Fahrt etc a bit juvenile, that's just me and I don't judge anyone by it.

My family spent a few weeks in Hamburg in the early 70s. My mother found the tourist boats in the dock area hilarious, and thereafter greeted any unusually loud outbreak of flatulence with the words "Ah! Grosse Hafen Rundfahrt!"

But then she always had a juvenile sense of humour. When she developed dementia, she became very disinhibited about it, too, which amused me no end.