Stepchildren and language

[PG2018]

I have to dsc 4 and 6, twice this weekend they used the word fart. The first time I was looking after them on my own so told them it wasn't a word we use. Today they used the word again, DP didn't seem to bat an eye lid (although did later agree with me). I think if they were older I wouldn't like it but would accept it more. Is this inappropriate or am I being a prude?

I hate it too & it’s not used here!

4 & 6 and you have sole charge of them, in your home - it’s perfectly acceptable to tell them it’s not a word you want to hear them using. I’d tell the neighbours kids,let alone step kids, not to use certain words. It’s not just up to their parents at all

Maybe we should have a mass farting session while shouting fart?

Totally agree @Livelovebehappy

I brought my girls up exactly the same, and I also got lots of comments about how polite and well behaved they were

It’s a word that divides MN - step kids or not

Nobody's giving you a hard time because you're a stepmother. They're giving you are hard time for getting upset over the word fart.

I mean, it's not even like they were actually farting!

Ps I really hope they tell their DM and she gives them permission to say "fuck me I've just shit myself" the next time they're with you, to save any offence

Oh fluffed! I like that too. I had forgotten about fluffed. Is that a common one?

If it's used in sensible context we don't have an issue with the word in our house. However, if it is being shouted our of context at top of their lungs encouraging my younger dc to copy then that is what I have an issue with. I guess it depends on how they are using it. If they are trying to belittle the other by name calling 'fart' that would also be unacceptable to me. maybe I'm just a fellow prude.

It's completely possible to be polite and well behaved and use the word fart.

And converse is equally possible.

Why did you see the need to be sanctimonious!

I never discuss it so never have to use an alternative.

That's not healthy😳 Not using the word fart, fine, but not talking about them at all?
Farts are natural and in some way healthy. We create gas no matter how much we wish we wouldn't. And it has to go out. How can you discuss that they are not appropriate at certain situations if they are never discussed?
We have a saying "1 fart is better than 100 doctors"😁 My mum's appendicitis was actually discovered to be a stuck fart in A&E.

Plus they are funny.

I dont like the word fart, my dc know not to use it so i dont thing ubu to not like it but yabu to post about it, pick ur battles

YABU and dramatic.

I'd think myself lucky if that's all mine came out with, my then 6 year old was looking at a wall sign I had, saying my kids were feral asked me what feral meant and I explained. Next time I walked past he had written 'you bich' . My youngest is sn and after a 4x4 pulled out in front of us clipping the side of the car last year, I shouted "wanker"! Rather loudly at idiot driver- and every 4x4 we see now, youngest shouts that it's a "wan car"!

Fart is vulgar to a lot of people.
I certainly don't think there is anything wrong in guiding children not to be vulgar.

This is the OP's home.

Her house, her rules.

It doesn't need to be made a big deal of.
Just that we don't use that word in this house.
There are softer words to use.

@PG2018 what word would you prefer them to use instead? Children are generally pretty amenable to changing if you ask them to and explain why. Every year, in September, I get 30 freshly flatulent 7 year olds 'farting' away in my classroom...by the end of Week 1 they know to say 'trump' instead 🤷‍♀️. Whatever words they use at home are fine...but in my classroom we say trump! And if the odd 'fart' slips out, they will always apologise and say 'sorry, I meant trump!' Quite sweet really 😂

not sure the obsession about what word I would use but I would use the word trump. Strangely people seemed more upset about this than I actually was!

Yet again MN making out step parents out to always be in the wrong!

Nah. It's just that this time you just are

Trump? 🤣🤣🤣

I don't like the word fart either but don't think of it as bad language... Just a bit crude for a small child to say. My 2 year old says fluff which feels a bit softer!

We had to call them pop offs when we were kids.

Now we let rip, fart, and drop one. If it’s particularly rank, then the farter is asked if a rat crawled up there and died.

We iz class.

I have never heard anyone use trump for fart😂😂.

Does your husband use his word? If their parents and friends don’t use it the children might not even know what it means😊.

I think you and your husband need to agree between you what you find acceptable. But to be honest if he is okay with fart it’s not a hill I would die On.

I am also interested in the poster on here who dismiss the dads opinion. Her house her rules😳. Surely it’s their house so the kids dad has a say..

Trump and fart are on a par surely. Do you have problems with naming genitalia and bums too

I like the word fart! I think it’s the perfect word for... well... farting.

I think you’re too easily offended OP.

Yes I was told it was a rude word as a child and tend not to use it.

Likewise I say washroom or bathroom or loo, rather than toilet.

I think you have a long hard road in front of you. Fart will be widely used every else so you deciding it's unacceptable won't make a whole pile of difference. You're going to have much bigger battles believe me!

Are they allowed to say poo?
When I was a dc I wasn't allowed to say poo. Dm declared shit was shit.

My dc say poo.
And fart.
I am a rebel I appreciate...
My dc are feral it seems!!