AIBU to be embarrassed by my bra size?

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For the past few years I've been a 32 f. Unfortunately, my breasts have always been disproportionate to the rest of my body which makes shopping for clothes tricky (I'm also convinced big boobs has given me slight lordosis).

However, I've recently gained some weight (.5 stone) and I was shocked to discover I am now a 32 H! I had to give my measurements to a friend (for a bridesmaids dress) and I was so embarrassed. Not really sure why.

AIBU?

30g...up somewhere near 32G at the moment while pregnant and hate them. Wouldn't say embarrassed but definitely struggling to contain them. I feel like they merge into my ridiculously large bump which merges into my fat prego ass. I resemble a bowling ball with fat legs sticking out the bottom. Not feeling the glow this time!

Loved after breastfeeding when they shrunk away to nothing. Hoping for the same this time. Just a year and a half of giant milky boobs to wait

I have huge boobs and don’t really like it. They are annoying, they make a bra essential in our culture and that has caused shoulder problems for me.

I’m not embarrassed about them but I do wish they were smaller. And I’d be horrified if they grew any more. So I feel for you OP. It’s a bit sucky. But please don’t be embarrassed by them, it’s your body that’s all. The way our culture makes women’s bodies in general and boobs in particular subject to the judgement of others is horrible. Try not to internalize that. Your body is just a body the size of your boobs doesn’t say anything meaningful about you at all.

Mine are huge, they are a great source of embarrassment to me and I hate them. And I hate how people look at me in pity, it's awful and I wish, wish, wish people would stop staring - it makes me feel like such a freak. So OP, yes be as embarrassed as you like because I'm with you.

Don’t be embarrassed OP, I spent years being embarrassed about my ironing board chest until my DS gave me boobies finally - hurrah!
I look back and wonder what the heck I was worrying about - I can’t imagine other women will be judgemental anyway re. your dress fitting. Are they friends of yours?
You are who you are. Love yourself a bit more.

Sorry to hear you felt embarrassed. I hope that reading lots of positive posts here will make you feel more relaxed about it. I feel quite happy with my bust since I started finding bras I like (Curvy Kate Tease or Ritzy from Brastop) and took up wearing stretchy wrap dresses for breastfeeding. I wouldn't change its size at all.

I was a 30FF pre pregnancy and went up to a 30J by the time I had my first son (my ribs are fused in places so didn't change size) and 30JJ when both were feeding. I don't know what will happen to them when DS2 eventually gives up but I have lots of bras for gradually working my way back down!

When I tell people, they usually say "You can't be!" so I think they don't realise that a JJ cup on a small back measurement is still not a very big overall bust measurement.

I have triangular tits. Just embrace it yo

I used to be exact same size when I was younger (now older & fatter with bigger boobs but that’s another story) - I love the shape it gave me, but didn’t like them without bra (now saggy me wish they were as perky as when I first thought they were saggy)

I do feel your pain, coupled with being the wrong side of 5ft I was always found most tops we’re really low & revealing on me.

I used to be embarrassed about being a 34A (probably a 32A now, knowing about the MN bra intervention!).

That was 20 years ago.

Now I’m a 34G and it’s not comfortable. Not embarrassing but not what I’d like. It’s hard being this busty. But don’t be embarrassed. It’s nature.

I wish I was a really clever doctor so I could invent boob donation. Those with more breast than they would like could painlessly donate some to those who would like more, giving two women the breasts they want.

Seriously though OP, please don't be embarrassed. People pay good money for boobs like yours and I know that's probably no consolation but it does show that it's really nothing to be ashamed of. Get some good bras, maybe start doing some exercises to firm up the chest muscles (you will be grateful for this as you get older) and I have no idea whether any of the bust creams on the market are any good but if anyone has found one which has really improved things, perhaps they could suggest one?

I'd put money on there being nothing wrong with them anyway!

I'm 34H. Finding bras is fun, (not.) I gave up and started wearing crop tops. Embarrassed? Nope, it's just part of my body. I'm short and chunky anyway (big hips and thighs) and a size 14/16 so it doesn't look too out of place.

@Dragonglass - 30FF here too and they’re really small!

I was always a 34GG no matter how slim I was everywhere else. I hated having big boobs and really struggled with shopping for clothes. Bridesmaid dress shopping for my sisters wedding really got me down. There was not one dress that would fit me it could even be altered to fit. Had to have one made for me and even that looked awful.

Had a reduction ( cost a total of £5500 three years ago )

Best money I've ever spent. It's changed my life. Just wish I hadn't waited until I was 46 to have it done.

I don't think you should be embarrassed about it! And anyone who says you gained weight and your band should go up is wrong because everyone puts on weight differently. My weight has fluctuated a lot and my band size has stayed the same for years. I don't gain weight around my back and ribs. I'm currently a 38N. I went up 5 cup sizes when I got pregnant and it hasn't gone back down...

Why would be embarrassed to give your measurements to a friend who’s close enough to ask you to be her bridesmaid? If they are as big as you claim, she can see that already.

I’m a 32 KK. It’s nothing to be embarrassed about xx