Dh in his own world

[Flossie44]

Tell me if I’m unreasonable....

I have 3 children, but two living at home. One has severe, critical health needs. I spend my day caring for her, and maintaining her airways basically. It’s really stressful. I miss working but have to care for dd.
Dh goes to work. Comes home, showers, I serve dinner. He then lie straight on to the sofa and falls asleep.
On the weekends, he plays golf one day, and goes mountain biking the other day. He then, again, sleeps on the sofa in the evenings.

I feel SOOOOOOO lonely. I long for evenings together, watching a film. Chatting while watching tv etc. But instead I’m sat alone while he snores.
I’ve mentioned this to him. I’ve tried to explain. But he says he’s tired so is happy to doze on the sofa. I can see that. And I feel bad for bringing it up. But I feel soo useless and worthless. Surely if he was in the throes of first romance, he wouldn’t do this?! He constantly says he loves me which is lovely BUT I just want to be shown!!

Am I being a diva?? Am I asking too much??

It sounds to me as if your husband can’t cope & is running away on a weekend so he doesn’t have to face the reality if caring for a child with complex needs
I think you need to leave him in charge
I used to go out on the pretext of supermarket and just sit in McDonald’s and have a coffee and read. A paper
It sounds silly but just an hour alone cleared my head and helped me cope with my own caring responsibilities it helped knowing for an hour it wasn’t just me in trying to do everything
Your husband needs to step up and start remembering he’s a dad not just a lodger