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To ask people not to just walk on by?

144 replies

aibutohavethisusername · 16/11/2019 16:18

I had a fall earlier, tripped over a loose paving slab and hurt my ankle and wrist. My pride was the most damaged thing. I’m fine now.

People around me just carried on walking or stares at me. Nobody checked to see if I was OK.

It makes me sad to think that the world we live in is so uncaring nowadays.

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marshmellowed · 16/11/2019 16:19

I knocked myself out once. Lots of people stopped to try and help. Well that’s what I was told by dh (I was unconscious). I can’t believe I didn’t go to hospital I was out for about 4 minutes

MsRomanoff · 16/11/2019 16:20

My friend fell over the other day and lots of people came to help.

Perhaps you were unlucky. Or people thought you might ne more embarrassed if they rushed over.

Or maybe they thought you had been drinking. I think very few people would think 'that woman fell over. Fuck her she can pick herself up'

Sorry you hurt yourself though.

Bellaxx8 · 16/11/2019 16:21

Did you literally get straight back up?

Biggobyboo · 16/11/2019 16:21

Hope you are okay!

People are largely dickheads. I’m sure some of the keyboard warriors on Mumsnet are just as unpleasant in real life too.

honeygirlz · 16/11/2019 16:23

@marshmellow Hmm

OP sorry you were hurt and hope you’re better now Flowers

It’s herd mentality at best and indifference at worst.

For what it’s worth, I will always stop and help.

I remember feeling faint at a bus stop once and people literally walked over my prone body!

And once I felt faint on a hot tube and had to crouch on the floor between two rows of seats, as all the seats were taken. No one asked how I was let alone offered their seat.

People can be shit!

PatchworkElmer · 16/11/2019 16:23

My elderly Grandmother fell over and broke her nose on the way to the shops. Had to walk home, blood soaking her top. Several people walked past her, nobody asked if she was ok.

In contrast, we were in town last week, an elderly man fell over, people were almost queuing up to help!

I think it’s a kind of herd mentality- if a few people ignore, everyone does. If one person stops, lots of others snap out of it and think they should, too.

Biggobyboo · 16/11/2019 16:24

I fainted on the tube when pregnant and people stepped over me. Nobody said anything to me.

MrBobLobLaw · 16/11/2019 16:25

I once tripped over on the pavement at 8mos pregnant right in front of this bloke. There's no way he could have not seen because we were walking towards each other and I was so obviously pregnant too. He just walked on by.

Sad thing is- some people are just pricks.

On the flip side DS 2yo tripped over on the pavement the other day, and even though he was with me, DP and MIL a woman who was close by still stopped to see if he was okay. Some people are nice too I guess!

TheQueef · 16/11/2019 16:25

Aw don't you feel a tit?
Any sore bits?
I will tell you my tale to make you feel better......

MonChatEstMagnifique · 16/11/2019 16:25

Oh OP, that's awful. Are you ok now? 💐

There are some really selfish people in the world but some lovely ones too. A lady fell at our local little shop a few weeks ago, my OH was there and so helped her, as did the few other people who were around. I think you were just unlucky with the people around at the time, people sometimes don't know what to do.

Have a nice soak in the bath and a cup of tea or glass of wine.

Slappadabass · 16/11/2019 16:28

People are vile. I would always help, and have done before, it's just basic human decency!

I'm my city yesterday a elderly man was laid naked in the middle of a very busy road obviously having some kind of a mental health episode and instead of anyone getting out to help him people just watched, and one man filmed it whilst ridiculing him and posted it to social media.

Absolute scum of the earth.

Biggobyboo · 16/11/2019 16:28

If you look at some of the utterly wicked acts man commits towards man on a daily basis and throughout history, it’s hard to have any faith in humanity.

Whilst ignoring an injured person or being mean on Mumsnet doesn’t fall into the evil bracket of course, I still feel like most people aren’t very nice.

Original poster
aibutohavethisusername · 16/11/2019 16:28

Some shocking stories here, especially people if ignoring pregnant women who’ve fallen!

I’m OK. My wrist is a little sore but I’m sure it is fine and Queef yes I did feel a bit of a tit.

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honeygirlz · 16/11/2019 16:28

@Biggo I had to ask people on the tube to get up for a visibly pregnant woman wearing a baby on board badge on a sweltering July day. Most gave me blank looks but someone did eventually get up for her.

Biggobyboo · 16/11/2019 16:31

honeygirlz - yep! I’m not surprised!

Sometimes someone would offer me a seat with a baby on board badge and I would always thank them. Quite often I was ignored if I politely asked the carriage as a whole if I could sit down.

ClientListQueen · 16/11/2019 16:31

Someone stepped over my legs and nearly fell on me to continue shopping. While I was using a defib on a man that had stopped breathing AngryAngry
I can't repeat my words but security got everyone out the door after that

Joerev · 16/11/2019 16:34

I saw a girl being head butted almost through a glass window by her ‘boyfriend’. I had my 1 he old daughter in my arms. I was in a shopping center. It was a Saturday and I was the ONLY one who shouted at him. To be honest it was just a reflex. She had blood pouring down her face. He ran after me when I tried to stop him. I was running. Screaming with my daughter and again. Not one person did fuck all! There was Over 1000 people there!!!

I spoke to the police as it turned out I was called to give evidence. As he’d gone outside after trying to attack me and knifed some teenagers. The police said no one gets involved now for fear of repercussions. Or knifes.

It’s a sad sad sad world. But at least he stopped beating up his girlfriend. She actually got him to stop trying to get me. I often wonder whether I made it worse for her. I won’t ever know. She was a young girl.

That was the day I lost my faith in humanity and have yet to regain it back....

slipperywhensparticus · 16/11/2019 16:34

I fell in the forest a group of ladies asked me if I needed a hand up I said I was fine my backside was well padded Blush the men ignored me

I've helped a teenager when she fainted despite being pregnant at the time everyone else walked past her

But I will admit I'm less likely to help if I think there is a mental issue or drugs and alcohol issues especially when I'm with the kids

Louiselouie0890 · 16/11/2019 16:34

But did you get straight up? If you got straight up i would presume you were ok unless elderly etc. It differs as i would never waht someone rushing over, its embarrasing enough sayj g that i went flying when 38 weeks pregnant right outside the hospital not one person asked

Biggobyboo · 16/11/2019 16:35

Just look at how customers treat staff in shops and eateries or in airports. So much rudeness out there!

I would like to buy a sea fort and not interact with humans apart from my close family and friends.

I teach KS1 and some of my class are so lovely. Even at a young age some of them tell me to fuck off. I feel really appreciated. HmmThat kind of behaviour comes from the parents.

TheQueef · 16/11/2019 16:39

York city centre, at Christmas.
The place was rammed.
I'd had a sherry at lunch.
I was also wearing my Xmas gift, a big black wool coat. Very relevant.
The coat was huge. I mean a monster.
Puffed up a steep hill, could barely breathe.
Cobbles crippling my ankles, shoppers and tourists all over the place, couldn't move out of the ebb.
Eventually got to the top, stopped for air and that fucking coat wrestled me to the ground, I swear it was like grappling a bear. (I imagine)
Fell over didn't I, arse over tit.
Coat wrapped me up and I rolled.
Rolled far.
Massive black boulder.
Back down the cobbled hill, scattering people in every direction.
It was epic, took out a row of tourists, turned a corner, ricochet off the railings and gently stop outside a cafe.
I will never forget the feeling as I unfurled out of that bastard coat Sad

TiddlerontheRoof · 16/11/2019 16:39

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marshmellowed · 16/11/2019 16:40

@honeygirlz why the 🤔

Picklypickles · 16/11/2019 16:41

When I was a teenager, around 14/15 I was out riding my bike with a friend when her brakes failed going down a steep hill. She was badly hurt, it was summer and she was only wearing shorts and a T-Shirt, one side of her body was covered from top to bottom with cuts and scrapes, she was dripping with blood and had a lump the size of a tennis ball on her head. This was well before mobile phones, we were about half a mile from home and I had to walk back with her dripping with blood and heavily concussed, several people passed us in cars and didn't stop and once back in the village several adults saw her in this state and babbling incoherently, not one person stopped or asked if she was ok.

SunsetBoulevard3 · 16/11/2019 16:42

You have to read the good deeds thread to balance this, otherwise you would totally lose faith in the human race.